what do you moms do out there when you feel that you don't have any me time. I'm a new mom and my baby always wants held and it makes it very hard to ever do yoga or just have some time for me. I feel very spiritually uncentered. I love my baby to death and I love holding her but I find it very hard to find some time for myself. I guess that is what comes with motherhood huh?
Do you have a sling? My Maya wrap totally saved my life, it's hands free holding the baby. Once you learn how to use it, you can do anything with both hands free and holding the baby at the same time. There are Mommy and Me yoga classes designed for post partum mama's and babies under 3 months. There might be a video, too. Take a bath with your baby, most babies love warm baths with mommy. Light lots of candles and play nice, soft music. When Daddy comes home, even an hour can seem like a vacation. Let him hold the baby while you decompress with a warm bubble bath with nice smelly bath stuff. But, newborns take a tremandous amount of time and energy, and the only thing I can promise you is, they do grow and get bigger and sleep longer.
thanks for the advice. I do take baths often, and I have a sling but my back doesn't like it much. I think its not so much not having the time to do the things that I want to do. Its more that I don't know what to do with my time when I do have it. I think that I feel a little cooped up because I am affraid to take my baby anywhere to do things. I think if I had more people in my life that this feeling I have would be solved.
maybe try a mommy and me class? That way you could meet other mamas, have other people to talk to and spend time with when you have it free. plus they're prolbably in a similar life place as you, something in common there is always good. hope this helps, good luck sister
i remember this feeling very well, and i have to say that it has taken me a long time to figure out how to carve out time in my life for me. it's a great lesson we learn as mamas. what about practicing yoga on one or her nap times? or perhaps have her close in seat or bed so she is able to watch. you can talk to her while you practice which may be a way to bond your yoga practice with her. finding a strong support system has been an ongoing thing for me. it is so important to find people in your life that you connect with. especially being a mama. for me, i live in a big conservative city. i am a young single mama with pink hair and tattoos which is far from the norm, and seems to be quite unacceptable here. however i have found that the more rooted and grounded i am in my principles and beliefs as a parent the more this doesn't matter. i have started to see that some of these so called "normal" mamas are drawn to me, because i offer a different perspective, and i too have a lot to learn from them. it really takes time willow, and many times i have felt very lonely and isolated as a mama.
That was a hard change for me, too. I NEED a lot of alone time, and you just don't get that with a baby! I think that was THE hardest thing about being a new parent. "When am I just going to be able to sit and just think?????" Well, not for a year or two, LOL! I would put the baby in a sling, and either take a walk, or put on some quiet music, and it was almost like being alone.... But I learned to also be very centered while holding a baby all the time. I would get panicked if they were not in arms after a while. It is hard, but try the sling, FORGET the housework, so when she has that ONE good hour of sleep in the middle of the morning you can just do what YOU want! Good luck, mama, you will survive, and you and your sweet baby will grow and thrive and gain strength from each other. Love, hugs, kisses and blessings, Maggie
Me time? hahahah, "me time" is when my husband comes home, and i "get" to do the laundry/dishes/etc, and *maybe* take a shower (with little people banging on the door, of course). I haven't had a real break since my wedding day (almost 3 years ago), and i'm still *mostly* sane, so there's hope for you too
I do have time, its just that once I have the time I don't know what exactly I should do with it, since I know that at any minute my little one will need me. I try doing yoga and meditation but I can't seem to balence myself inside. I feel ansie, like I am not active enough. I don't think this is nessessarily because of a baby either, I get this way every winter. Maybe its the rain, not being able to go run and play outside without being uncomfortably cold........or maybe because I don't have any friends around here, I think that could be it as well....so I do get some time to myself, but its not really the solution to my feelings. I think once we get our community going and some people out here with us I will feel better. I think I'm just one of those people who needs to be social and since I am cooped up all day in a house I feel a little down. My baby girl brings me joy though
