I asked the chick i liked quite a few days back to which she said "No at the moment". i decided to move on and stay aloof. B Today accidentally i was typing "totally in love with you" to my sister (as it was her wedding) i typed to the chic i liked. to which she replied "batting eyelashes". But i cleared the air that "glad you realised it was a joke" she replied "Aah *phew*". i then said "it was for someone else but got to a wrong window" she asked me "so you wrote love you in a wrong window?" i said yes. "She just replied "AAH " I kind of love her. but this thing was actually meant for my sister(only as a part of a continuing convo. Also she just wrote on her BBM "Yes, and the task is to play it uber nonchalant(careless,ignorant) & cool. #Newguytricks" Later, I told her that although accidentally, I think its good that the love messaged reached her and that I mean it now and this time its meant for you and you alone. She replied saying *blushing* She starts addressing me "baby" suddenly again. However, for a couple of days she hasnt replied to any texts i sent, may be because she was out of town. But even today she didnt reply? I am very confused as to what she wants out of this. Because she said NO when I had ASKED HER OUT.
It sounds like she just likes the extra attention. She said she's not interested so stop with all the "I'm in love with you" crap. You're coming off like a stalker. If you want to flirt with her and she keeps responding positively like before then fine. But just keep it to a light, teasing, fun thing. You get too serious too quick and you risk scaring her off and then she stops responding to your texts, deletes your number, etc. Don't be a stalker!
I completely understand what you're going through, and there is a solution! Like Xxaru said, girls like extra attention. They crave it. A very easy way for a girl to obtain this extra attention is through text messages (especially BBM). All you have to do is get her to hang out with you. You need to become friends, and you need to make her understand that you know her as a person. Don't take her to a movie, take her ice skating or go to a zoo or reptile park together. Don't tell her you love her, don't tell her you're in love with her, and don't be her bitch. Do not let your emotions give her power over you - that will make you seem nice, but weak. You can be a nice guy and a strong person just as easily. The mind wants what it can't get. She can get you easily, and you've made that perfectly clear to her. When people break up, and the guy wants the girl back, the best way to do it is to become independent again, and to stop begging her to come back to him. She needs to see that you'll appreciate her, and she does. She also needs to see that she will appreciate you, and that's the tricky part. My advice: Call her and ask her if she wants to hang out sometime (ask her if she wants to go see a live band or something). If she makes an excuse and says no, just say alright, and don't text her or call her until she contacts you. My warning: Girls like this usually do not understand love. They understand infatuation. Remember this. I'm telling you this because you asked for advice. I don't intend this as a mean post. This is just my personal opinion.
I agree she wants attention but be careful about getting to excited. Example two girls like to try to hook in my son and his buddy by flirting and then getting cold. They did not even bother to tell the boys they had boyfriends. Then after they let slip they had boyfriends they complained about their boyfriends. My son backed off immediately but his friend got pushy and tried to get with one of the girls causing much tension and heart ache for himself. Watch out for girls like that. They just want someone on a hook to real in if ever they get dumped.
I agree with most of what you said, but this is too direct for him right now, IMO. He already asked her out before and she said no. Why would she suddenly change her mind the 2nd time? Going all in like that again is just going to play right into her hand and ruin the already slim chance he has at getting anywhere with this girl. I agree, I think he needs to find a way to initiate contact again. Would be great if he could do it in person. But whatever way he goes about it I'd recommend taking it slow and trying to get her interested enough with the bits of attention he sends her way. Then, if all goes well he may get to a point where he has a fair shot at getting her to go out with him.
Sorry for not stating things clearly. I meant he should ask her to go somewhere with him as a friend, not ask her to engage in a relationship with him and officially become a couple.
She is being good natured, and playing along and not taking much of it seriously. Have fun with it. Keep it upbeat, and see what evolves, but don't bombard her.
yep, sounds like she wants a loser guy to dote over her and do things for her who she doesn't have to reciprocate with. are you really "totally in love with" your sister?
I didn't read the whole OP. Holy fucking attention-whoring childish crap.... If you're interested, be like hey, we should bang sometime, and see what she says. Don't waste your time.
I'd keep it fun and upbeat, but I'd wait or her to make the first move once I had already asked her out directly. I agree what she is doing is childish though, and it is indicative of the quality of what the relationship's communication would be like if one were to start. I might have sex with this girl if the opportunity arose, but a relationship probably not.
