I met someone at a party a few months ago. I still have his number, but he was way too aggressive for my first experience. We kissed, and he got my cock out of my pants (soft), and he basically wouldn't leave my cock alone. I tried telling him that I was new at this, but he wouldn't listen. I went to the john to take a piss, and he followed me and grabbed my cock while I was pissing! :biggrin: He was cute as hell, but a little soft around the midrift. A turn off. ------------ Well, since I'm not sure how far I want to go the first time around, I need someone who can take the initiative, but go slow on me. I'm definitely in for some kissing, cuddling with a cute boy. Thin! The oral/penetration thing is still just a fantasy I might not want to act out on right away. I know with women I am more of a giver, and I might even be more open to sucking a guy off than having my dick sucked. I have also lightly experimented with anal stimulation with women, but just a finger. I'd wanna experiment with a dildo and women first, before I even consider taking a cock. Topping a man will probably also take some getting used to, even though I love fucking women in the ass. Am I too much of a pain in the ass? Or are there guys out there who could appreciate an inexperienced, unsure of his limits guy like me? And what should I say to someone I meet at a club or bar? I don't know if that changes anything, but I'm 35. So, I'm a very late boy bloomer. Any help would be appreciated. How was your first time? Were you a late boy bloomer?
".......Am I too much of a pain in the ass? Or are there guys out there who could appreciate an inexperienced, unsure of his limits guy like me? And what should I say to someone I meet at a club or bar? I don't know if that changes anything, but I'm 35. So, I'm a very late boy bloomer." Hi Cherea, of course there r sensitive guys out there, just that there are so many pushy aggressive guys in the gay scene that many tend to be a bit too forward. For me I always look for slow sensual hook-ups where we can both enjoy exploring our bodies, male or female. I reckon you should stick to gay guys - much better lovers than most bisexuals - and there will be lots of gay guys who will enjoy teaching/initiating a novice. Once you have a rapppor with a nice guy then I think the oral/anal side will follow naturally. Just as always finding that nice partner....... Once you have a nice experience as a bottom you'll love it - you'll start to realise what the women have been enjoying all these years when you fucked them; there's nothing like the feel of a hard live cock inside you - it is such a turn-on to feel a guy coming and getting pleasure. The same when you give them a nice blow-job; as males we can fully appreciate the feeling. Asto topping a guy - well it is nice too but as guys who have been penetrating vaginas all our lives it is nice but not so different except that you can get to play with his cock too instead of titties. Probably like me you'll prefer more effeminate guys - twinks maybe? I'm definitely not into hairy bears! Just my pennysworth Simon :sunny:
Thanks a lot, Simon. <3 It's the second time I hear that. How do you figure? One of my fears is biphobia, and guys who'll freak out that I fuck women. Yes, I am much more curious about bottoming than sticking my cock into yet another hole, now in a male body. Yes, I do like twinks. I like verbal forwardness, though. So, twinks with an edge. Won't most twinks expect me to take the initiative? That's my fear. Who knows, I might surprise myself. I think with guys I'll eventually feel more at ease to take the initiative since I know there won't be a 99% chance that they'll act cross by my approach, or feign disinterest, or blow me off as it is with women. I don't even feel free to talk to women anymore, so it'll be nice to reclaim the initiator part of me once I regain my confidence.
Not trying to hijack your thread here, but just curious why you feel that way? Are you living/from the US?
as far as you being too specific, i wouldn't worry about that. a ton of threads i see on here when guys talk about being open to trying something, the specs you listed are weirdly common to all of them, and actually a lot of the "criteria", so to say, that you've listed, i feel like i could have written- although, i have very limited actual experience which i don't look back on fondly for similar reasons as you mentioned about yours (pushiness and lack of physical attraction to the person i was with- i am picky, and would be should any future situations come up, that's just how it is)
LOL basically have the same problem definitely would have to find a cute hairless emo boy to try it out eace:
I think he was just being to aggressive probably just really horny. I think shy guys are cuter than aggressive. my advice is to take ur time if ur not sure about something don't do it until u become more comfortable with the idea of it anyways you sound cute i want to see a pic of u.
