Let myself go

There is this guy. I'll be short, I just need your opinion.
I met him last year, he does live 1000 miles away. But it seems I can't let it go and its not even my fault. I wanted to move on xyz times, I even told him that. He says he is crazy about me, but we don't talk much. Last time he called me for christmas, I couldnt answer him.
I sent him IM on whatsapp, it wasnt delivered for 5 days. I also sent him text message on his phone it was pending, I also tried to call him. I never got sms delivery report. So I guess I freaked out about it, because I reply to people, its a good manner. I am not one of those who ingore, I rather tell people in their faces when I want to move on and never contact again.
Anyway I was so drunk at New Years eve, I sent him some message and wrote that I love him! WTF :2thumbsup:
Again he didn't seen it for the next 5 days I've seen he didn't log in. Then I was acting like some kid and sent "wrong" message which was for my friend. All i said was sorry, wrong message. Thats when he logged in but didn't reply.

Sorry if I write childish stuff, but I don't know what the f....should I do? Am I being stupid for thinking that maybe he didn't get my stuff by some miracles, that maybe he got it all so late that he is angry about it and thinks I'm shutting him off, which is not true. Or am I just being stupid?
I want to contact him soon like:" hey, how are you? Long time no talk! Did you get my messages at all? I had some issues with my phone"
Is that move desperate or... because I don't know if he is ingoring (which is another word for f....off) me or wtf....

 

Welcome.

Hell I don't even know what you want from reading that.

Do you want him or not? If so let him know, if not you should move on and let it die.

If he is treating you like shit and you like it stay if not maybe you should move on.

 

I want it because I wouldnt posting this here...My question was just will i be to desperate trying to contact someone who just stopped giving me attention for some reason. I already let him know that I want him, I was brutally honest. I didnt push him away, he just stayed there somewhere and told me he is into me. All of the sudden he acts different, I dont get it

 

stop stalking the poor bastard and move on...you sound obsessed and seem to be unaware of the options on every media site in the world which enables people to block you from seeing that they are,in fact,online

the dude is taking a pass on you...as will most dudes if you keep up the cyber detective bull shit

 

I am not stalking anyone! Everyone can see when someone gets messages and whats the last time someone been there. I am just realistic

 

Sounds to me like he doesn't want you in his life. I may be wrong. Why don't you just aske him how he feels about you and take it from there?

 

The problem is that I did ask him and he said he is crazy about me, blah blah blah, that was before christmas. He never did anything wrong to me, he treats me well, just that this stupid contacting issues are confusing me, that is why I am confused and don't know what to think. He says one thing, then he backs off for a week or two, then he again keeps contacting me. Just this time is too long for us not to talk at all and I am confused.
Hope you understad now what I want to say.

 

I hate to say it but it sounds like he has someone else in the picture. If he is crazy about you he would want to have contact with you. How old is he?

 

39 I think so too, but he is really acting bipolar with me... I mean I dont expect him to have any contact with me or anything. But he is doing something else and then talks crap all the time how much he likes me. I guess I should move on and just block him, but first I'll give it one last shot, I think I'll send him what I said above, but not today in a week, two. I got some thought about it right now. Its the only way.

 

I just thought he might be younger than that. You just have to put it on the line and find out if he wants you in his life or not. It isn't right for him to drag you along if he is not interested. Good Luck and let us know how it turns out. I wouldn't wait to long, no need in dragging it out and wondering about it.

 

How old are you? You will feel really sorry if you find out he was in a car accident, or in jail or a mental hospital. The fact is there are all kinds of reasons that people fall out of touch suddenly.

My Dad has been sick since November 25 and then December 29 my brother's house burned down. It is all I can do to keep people up to date on everything that has happened in my life in the last six weeks.

 

sorry another double post. What is up with HF. Talk about communications not working.

 

You are infatuated. Your perspective is skewed because he is not responding. Likely life is distracting him, and those things that he sees daily play a much biggger part in getting his attention. So I would take all this as a sign that you and he are not going to work out for now. Maybe later when there isn't so much distance, you two can try to be a couple.

 

I am sorry to hear that about your dad and your brother. Hope it will be ok... I get your point! But to be honest he is alive and he is not in any hospital or institution, well not yet in the mental institution, because to me he seems like some psychopat...If he can be on his laptop's messenger online everyday I guess he is fine I just don't use those instant messengers often because I dont like that kind of communication! But no worries, I'll be okay, just on moments it feels shitty. Its hard to let go a good player, because they always know do way to keep you "hot" and say what you want to hear. I am 29 btw.

 

Thats right...And thank you for this reply! :2thumbsup: I will back off for a few weeks, working out my busy daily schedule. Then we will see. I'll gave him a last call acting like nothing is going on. Just to see what he will do. Who knows maybe meanwhile I meet someone awesome and this whole thing will make me laugh!
They don't say for no reason:" If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if not they never were!"

 

Thats my main question how to find out if he wants this or not without sounding desperate? I mean I've been there before. Mostly it didn't bother me when someone didn't talk to me for more then 3 weeks. I've always moved on easily. This time is just different.
Don't worry I will let you know how it goes, but you'll need to wait for some time because I decided I'll wait for 2,3 weeks with my silence :2thumbsup:

 

violet29....stay on this site and hang out a bit...we have many very cool people here...not me,mind you, but definitely many cool dudes that you could have your pick of

as far as you seing him on or offline?

if you arent checking up on him[stalking] than why are you even checking?

this site...and thousands of others has an option that will show us as ''offline'' ...i have heard[lol] that some people use it to discourage people from knowing their business

 

Well, since someone said you want to know the news, here are some news!
I didnt contact him ever since my last messae which was a month ago.
He also didnt do anything to talk to me or contact me too. Good news is that we just stopped communicating without any "fights". He never replied to me so I didnt initate things
I know i f. up something, but I feel good! I am moving on!!
Maybe I'll give it a shout in a week or 2 just to send him a friendly normal text. Like: "Long time no talk, is everything ok with you? Hope you are fine. " hahaha, i just like to play dumb and play games on people who treat me bad. I know it sounds a bit depressing and pathetic to contact someone who doesnt any effort, but since I dont give a damn anymore, I just want to test it to see what he is going to say and then if he does say something just ignore him for a while again and act stupid.
But no worries I am doing fine and I dont give a damn anymore, this text wouldnt mean much, just the way I am.

 

Please don't bother contacting him...you sound like you might be in a good place with this right now and as the time goes on you will feel even better. Contacting him, even casually, is going to make you feel like crap if he again ignores you (believe me, it will...BTDT) and if he responds positively and tries to start things up again then you will get sucked back in and the angst will start all over again.

Ask yourself the purpose of contacting someone who has so clearly shown that they are just not that into you....and remember you are worth more than that!

 

I was not here for a long time. Guess what, I did contact him for the last time. I told him almost everything that I wanted to in a nice way. Was it a mistake or not I don't know yet, the thing is that your reply to me is 90% true and that you are right!