Swinging, open relationships, threesomes, and fetishes.

Here's lookin at you, enhancer13! Haha.

Didn't want to continue and derail the other thread. Just looking to talk with like-minded people about this subject. I know a lot of people (not sure more men or more women) are uncomfortable with the idea of their partner being sexual with anyone else, if not just completely flat-out against it. While many people are this way due to their own insecurities, I believe it is very unfair to brand all people that prefer monogamy with that insecurity brush.

That being said, what are your thought and feelings on things like open relationships, swingers/swappers, threesomes with your significant other and another man or woman, or simply getting off on watching your SO have sex with another person (man or woman, whichever)?

I am not in an open relationship for the main reason being the fact that I simply don't have the time or patience for that. I do, however, love the idea of my boyfriend and I in a threesome, mff, and the two of us focusing on pleasuring her in whatever way she wants it. The thought of this is an incredibly intense turn-on for me, and him as well, because much of what I get off on is just pleasuring my partner. Seeing the pleasure translated into body contorting, hearing it translated into moans and sighs and whines, ugh yes please.

As far as fetishes, what are yours? What fetishes does your partner have? Anything considered taboo?

My biggest fetish is one that I am generally attacked for. Usually the attacks come from females, and I am told I am a disgrace to my sex and that I should seek professional help to fix whatever it is that's 'wrong' with me or learn what I am 'so obviously' suppressing. Anyway, I have a rape roleplay fetish; I am so turned on by this that while doing it, I shake almost uncontrollably. My current boyfriend is the only person I've ever been with that has indulged this with me, and he learned that he really enjoys it as well (and of course the same people that attack me also say that I am putting other women in danger because I am teaching him that he can enjoy rape...yeah..). It was thanks to this fetish that we discovered that we both like choking, as well. I had no idea hot hot it was. I enjoy being forced into, being called derogatory names that usually women find offensive, being pinned while he angrily talks to me through gritted teeth telling me I deserve this.


And now I will let the replies hopefully flood in because I need a break from imagining all of this.

 

Sounds like you know what you like and are getting it! Really anyone who gets on you about what you are into should go fuck themselves, because it is none of their business. I agree with you on the sharing your partner with others being super hot and no it is not for everyone. You really need to have great communication and a great relationship with your partner to make it work. It also should not be done to fix a bad sex life, but to enhance an already amazing sex life. The bond you form with your spouse sharing these experiences is unmatched.

As for the rape fetish there is nothing at all wrong with that either as long as you both understand what it is all about and are on the same wavelength. We were with another couple a while back and the woman in the pair was very much into this and being treated like a sub. Their big thing is bringing other men in to act out on this. She was also bi curious so they hooked up with us so she could be with her first woman and he finally got his chance to be with another woman as well. What an amazing night we had with the two of them. Everyone got what they wanted out of it. The ladies both got to get their bi on. The guys got to be with two sexy girls. Both of them got to experience their first squirter. All of us got some time dominating the other woman with his encourgement and my lady got treated very well by the other guy. All in all it was a great night for all.

 

Oh, since we're here now I'll ask again. What did you mean by ads?

I really want to check out a fetish/sex house. I saw a poster for one in Toronto once but didn't end up going. There's a great episode of the show Secret Diary of a Call Girl where she goes to one of these establishments. It looks amazing. A friend of mine went to one a while back and she said every room was a different kink.

 

I sent you a message with the answers to a couple of your questions! Check your inbox. As for the fetish/sex houses we have nothing like that here.

 

Thanks! I'm not on the hip website, I'm using an app that connects to just the forum itself so I can keep my forums in one place neatly, but I will check my inbox as soon as I am able to do so!

Yeah they seem pretty uncommon.

Where are the other replies. Know damn well we aren't alone here.

 

There will be more reply's some positive some not so much! Things move a little slow here. I am sure the night time crowd will have something to say. I did suggest a forum to you in the message I sent that is geared towards swingers of all types. Good folks with good info.

 

I'm all for open relationships, swinging, 3somes, 4somes, orgies, etc. What more can I say :2thumbsup:

 

I've fantsised different times about being in a 3 some with 2 females or with 1 male & a female & just doing what I felt like that I have either wanted to do or haven't yet. But there would be a certain age group I would prefer to be with thou.

 

Very understandable. I highly doubt I'd catch myself bringing home some cougar.

 

is onlie (only?) sexe.

 

3sums, 4sums, swinging, groups, mmm, mff, mmf - all great, bring them on

If we are turned on by the human body then who cares which sex, so long as it's all pleasure and no one forces anyone to do anything they are not comfortable with - it's all about respect.

Simon :sunny:

 

Swingers seem to be most about it, than everyone else. At least in the straight world.

Everybody else likes to talk about sex, but they don't have sex nearly as much as they talk about it. In fact, it's a fad now: chicks who claim to be sexually liberated just to draw attention to themselves.

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That being said, my unicorn fantasy is that a scene like swinging could happen without marriage involved.

Marriage is just plain old dumb. That's why I identify with open relationships. Looks like to me, it'll remain a fantasy. People really care about the ritual.

I can't help but quote Dr. House as a nightcap, "Ritual is what happens when we run out of rational."

 

WOW! Maybe I've lived under a rock my whole life, but I am surprised actually, that there are really sex houses like the one in Secret Diary of a Call Girl. Huh.

I do fantasize about my partner having a woman on the side. I think it would be really got to see him with another woman. Like a sexy young secretary of his or something. But oh well, he has nobody.

 

My wife and I are both bi. I've had threesomes mmf mmm before we got together, but recently a good female friend of ours came over and we had a mff threesome. Hell of a night was had by all, and we done it several times since. We're all comfortable with the situation, and usually all end up sleeping in the same bed. As for kinks, my wife enjoys being chained to the bed and whipped and caned. Our friend had said she enjoys this too, so we'll introduce this soon. Sometime in the future we may introduce another guy, if he's bi, so we can all have a really good time. I get off watching my wife getting and giving pleasure. The more the better.