Im not sure if I can get some insight.. A friend of mine wants me to move in with him. I lived with him before shorty but things ended up not so good. Now that we are friends again he wants me to move in with him. I dont want a relationship and he said thats fine but he doesnt want me seeing anybody if i was to live with him. He wants to help me get back on my feet though and I am 50/50 on moving in. Would I be making the right decision if I move in with him? Anything would help. Please.
if he wants you to move in with him and not see anybody else, that means he wants a relationship with you. if you do it, it's going to be awkward. i guess it depends on how off your feet you are. an uncomfortable temporary living situation is probably better than homelessness, but i would avoid it otherwise.
Yea I know what you mean! Right now I'm sleeping on my moms couch with my 2 kids. I have no car, no job. If I didnt have my kids I'd probably be like whatever but my kids would be with me. They've been through enough with my seperation from their father. I dont want to have them in and out of homes. So I can stay on the couch with them or I can move in, they would have a bedroom and deal with the situation the best I can until I can get my own place. I am just stuck on what to do. :/
He wants to help you and house you and not have you date anyone in front of him. Then he will be controlling your love life an your money situation. No good. And he will expect something in the future you may not want to give him. He may have false expectations of helping you.
Your completely right. I don't want to give him the wrong impression. And if I reject him while I'm living there I might get kicked out. I'm for sure not going to degrade myself to be able to stay there.
I have learned from experience when you move out on someone because of issues and then move back in the issues will resurface. Listen to what you are saying and look at the red flags. You don't want a relationship and he does not want you seeing anyone else(redflag). He wants to help you get on your feet (redflag). You would be allowing him power and control over you. You need to help yourself without depending on someones help. If you are better friends living a part keep it that way. Otherwise you will be feeling trapped and full of regret. You are better off at moms house. When I left my ex and was homeless I had no place to go and ended up in a woman's shelter called Casda in Wisconsin for 6 months. They gave me a room of our own that we could lock and free food. They helped me find a place to live and helped me get my feet on the ground. That is better than being in someones control.
So heres an update.. I told him last night that I can't move in with him right now because it doesnt feel like the right time. He totally flipped shit. He told me how I am a horrible person and how I need to stop taking advantage of people. Completely blew up about it and turned it into a huge falling out. I'm really disappointed in how he acted but to each his own. We both lost a good friend over absolutely nothing. I'm just happy it happened now instead of after I moved in. Thanks for the support and advice guys! I really do appreciate it!!
That guy is toxic and controlling. Keep your wits about you and be strong. Be thankful for your wise choice.
You really dodged a bullet there. Too bad you lost a friend but considering what he is like it is probably more his loss than yours. :2thumbsup: Best wishes on your situation.
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Be glad you didn't fall for his "I wanna help you" scam. He wanted to put your soul in a pickle jar and make it dance at his whim. Look on the bright side, you learned a good lesson and your kids did not have to see you take any abuse from that manchild.
well how is your friend with the kids? maybe he just means he doesn't want you bringing guys over to his place..and that's understandable... If he's a nice guy and it's a better living situation for you and your kids then I say go for it *I guess I missed your update post and just caught it....* is there another friend or another family member you could stay with until you can get a place of your own?
