Sex and Fun only relationships

Fuck friends have to relinquish having a say about what the other one does, feels, or thinks. The best thing about fuck friends is the total freedom, and not the binding obligations that obliterate any fun.

 

if they are "binding obligations that obliterate any fun" then you are with the wrong person

 

By reversing the key elements in the subject line. Fun and friendship before sex. Become "BFFs" *gag* before sex enters into it. Make sex just something else you do together, like clubbing, or beer pong, or whatever. Don't overcomplicate things.

 

In the fuck buddy relationship that I had we would meet up on the weekend and never act like we were together any where and then she would meet me at my place and we would fuck for most of the night. It was a simple relationship: She loved to fuck and I wanted to fuck her. Sometimes we would let other friends join us too, but mostly she just liked to fuck me. I had a gf and she had an occasional bf. We just couldn't get enough sex from our partners. We always kept our relationship free and avoided "falling in love" but we respected each other very much and were good friends.

 

Nicely said newcomer. Welcome to HF. I wish my fuck buddy could see how simple it could be. As it is, "his terms" can bite me.

 

Sounds like you need a new fuck buddy, calgirl.

 

well me and my boyfriend are kind of like that. i suppose not truly though, we are in a romantic relationship, but we mostly have sex and have fun

 

I'm starting to think that the term "friends with benefits" are in reality more like acquaintances with benefits.

In my view, more often than not, the closer the friendship is the more it seems one or both people involved end up slipping into an actual relationship territory emotionally speaking once sex gets involved.

It evolves into a full fledged relationship or it might go sour and have to be ended.

 

Well.....monkjr....both people have to be "pragmatic". It has to be thought of as a same-sex friendship. One where both people share common interests, do favors, have admiration and respect, care for well being, but with one addition. Sex.

 

As of late, my ex-girlfriend has now become my FWB. After we broke up, we went two weeks without doing anything. Then one day, we made a deal. She wanted me to kiss and finger her so I said I wanted a blowjob. It went from there. What kept this from getting more serious is me setting her straight when she asked if we would ever get back together again. I reminded her of our differences and how it isn't logically possible for us to function as a couple anymore. I won't go into too much into detail but I did say that we don't have to continue doing this if that becomes a burden for her. I've even asked her recently how she feels about this and she said something along the lines that we're good friends who have needs. She has no problem "helping me out" so long as I do the same for her. Thus, we are now fuckbuddies until one of us gets into a serious relationship again.

You really couldn't ask for a better breakup.

 

Wait a minute... Calgirl has a fuck buddy now? I thought you never got laid cause you were married to a guy who never wanted to fuck you. Seems like things are looking up for you

 

And I get that, I'm just saying that's hard for people to do. Most people will agree that for the good sex to occur there needs to be a certain level of attraction there, and in our culture, attraction and love are strongly linked.

There's even a hormonal reaction when sex occurs, Dopamine and Oxytocin, promote emotional bonding that lays the foundation of emotions that tend to tear up these kind of arrangements.

 

Is it possible to really like someone that is basically a world away......well I have become very fond of a person and it saddens me that we will probably never get to touch each other or hold hands in real life...but I will be thankful for all the time we get to talk and hold every minute dear to my heart.

 

I'm not into the whole keeping it light sort of thing. I like to have emotional involvement with my victims.

 

We were already best friends so nothing was really off limits as far as our relationship, like we could talk about anything and hung out practically every day.

Only now, 10 years later, I wonder why I didn't try to make a boyfriend of him. He's the only guy that I've ever had great sex with every time. It was so easy.

But maybe that was partially BECAUSE he wasn't my boyfriend so I wasn't getting annoyed by the things I could just laugh about.

We were young so there's things we could have done more responsibly for each other, like not having unprotected sex with other people. But we both came out unscathed.

No regrets.

 

Whoa, Shrubz. Nice to see you around these parts. Hope life is groovy. :sunny:

 

It has become a quest of mine to have attraction without having to work toward love. How about just a good time and positive interactions and a strong sense of mutual desire to spend time together because it feels comfortable.

And another goal (as I study men, and have several friendships, and a few fuck arrangements) is to learn to keep a sense of humor, and respect their rights to be as "annoying" as they want without using it against them.

 

Want be long before that FWB thing is going to come to pass....any takers? the good ones are in other countries and I dont have a private plane...lol....people that want to have sex are thousands of miles away and that sucks....GRRRRRRR!

 

Yup, fighting against eons of evolutionary adaption.

For women, especially young women in prime child-bearing years, sex/orgasm releases a cocktail of hormones & neurotransmitters all designed to do one main thing; establish and strengthen a bond between her and her mate.
That helps to ensure the safety and survival of any potential offspring.

For men in that same age range the opposite is taking place. Their biological imperative is to try to spread their genetics around as much as possible.
So women have a greater biological drive/need to pair-bond with a mate.

Interestingly though, newborn infants will resemble the fathers much more so than the mothers and that is believed to help elicit a bond between father and child further helping to ensure it's survival.

With all that, I think it is easier, both emotionally and biologically, for older people to have such relationships without the entanglements our biological imperatives can impose on our carnal fun.