thinking of dumping my gf for something she did in the past

Dude, it was BEFORE you got together. Be it a few weeks, or a few days, you weren't together then. Let it pass. Everybody has a past. If you love her, then why are you willing to dump her for something she did before you got together?

 

I also say get over it.

Who knows, maybe you'd find out your next girl friend blew TWO people who are 31 years older than her (at the same time).

This isnt 1921, girls suck dicks nowadays. Alot.

And personally I wouldnt have it any other way

 

^31 years. i don't know which part was so reprehensible though.

 

If the 'worst' thing she's done is suck an older guys dick before you were a couple, what exactly is the problem? You have taught her a valuable lesson here though...don't tell you anything she's done in the past! Seriously, sucking an older guys dick is far from unforgivable, or at least it should be.

 

wait... she had oral sex with him... did he eat her out, did she suck him, or both?

i mean... it's one thing to know a girl has had a past... it's another to know details, specific ones, and specific ones with people she still is in contact with like with people at her work

give the OP some credit here. i mean c'mon, the guy is 53, you people can't say that at 22 you wouldn't be pretty grossed out, especially with a short term gf you might not be too in love with yet. i know i wouldn't want to picture his old wrinkly dick like that

i stand by what i said. it's up to him whether he can get over it or not because it's not her problem, it's his issue now, and it's not something she did wrong. it just sucks that he knows it

too bad bro. sucks to be you (pun intended)

 

dicks aren't wrinkly at 53. A person that cannnot handle stories of the past, shouldn't ask about the past.

 

i agree, i would never ask for details. but sometimes we get information we didn't want to know

either way, we're several pages in and the OP remains at a post count of one

one post wonder, perhaps?

 

You seem like kind of a judgemental person, especially with a condemning username as 'ihatecigarettes'. Have you ever done anything your girlfriend would be uncomfortable with if you told her? relationships are give and take, dude. If something like that really gets you hung up in a relationship you claim to be happy and in love in, maybe you'd be better off alone.

 

my husband is exactly 31 years older than me and i blow him all the time!! what wrong with that!

 

Get over it. She didn't cheat on you. It's actually really unfair of you to make her feel bad for something that she shouldn't have to be guilty about. If she was single, she's allowed to do what she wants.

I agree with what someone else said here, that the only thing you're doing here is showing her that she can't confide in you about her past if she doesn't think you'll like it. If you love her, you should be able to accept her, past and all.

 

I have to admit that things of my boyfriends past piss me off and I thought of the same thing but you know none of us is perfect so if she is good to you holding on to her might be a good thing....just sayin...nobody is perfect...best of luck.

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it's the fact that it happened AT their place of employment and the fact that she still sees him everyday that bothers me, and the fact that she was dumped by the person she was with for 4 years a few weeks before it happened. i'm going to do my best to get over it and just accept it for what it is, because I really do care about her.

i also think she is just really mature for her age, like she doesn't act or look like your typical 22 year old. shes a nurse, dresses classy and has the body of a woman if you know what i'm saying. she treats me like a king and does everything for me, i really don't wanna lose her.

 

It sounds like you got yourself a great girl there. I can see how daily interactions "bother" you, but you need perspective on that. She is exposed to a lot of things all the time away from you, and so is any girl that you'll meet, and there's not any way that can be avoided, nor would you want to infringe on that freedom. If there is going to be temptations away, there's nothing you can do to prevent it. Just be a great man to her, as she is to you, and she won't stray.

 

So the are other reasons why you are feeling insecure. A woman who has the body of a woman? No, sorry I have no clue what you mean by that. What's wrong with her being mature?? I'm 21, I dress 'classy' I'm mature for my age, and I definitely wouldn't want to be with someone who would break up with me over someone I gave head to. She sounds like a cool lady, maybe she's contemplating dumping your judgemental ass.

 

I can see that too. The only thing I can relate it to is having exes and knowing that if I'm with someone that I know I'm trustworthy enough not to cheat on someone with an ex and just hope my current man can also trust that.

I notice that people who have been cheated on seem less likely to trust new partners. No one likes being lied to.
Trust is huge.

 

she has assured me that there is absolutely nothing between them anymore and the only reason she did it to begin with was because she was heartbroken and lonely from her breakup and he was the first guy to show her any attention. i'm trying my best to trust that she won't do anything that would jeopardize my love or trust for her.

 

she loves me more than anything, i have her wrapped around my finger ;]

when did i say her being mature was a bad thing? i simply stated that's part of the reason older men are more attracted to her

 

Boy it's got to suck for you to stop by her work and see the spot she was down on her knees suckin like her life depended on it :smilielol5:

 

Oh dear