So, I'm quite new here, and I actually came to ask for some questions. I'll be honest, I have been straight for all my life, until I met one girl when I was 16. She is older than me (some 5 years), and she is gay. So, we hooked up somehow, I don't really know what happened! We were together for about 3 months, and I really fell in love with her, badly... Then my mother found out, shit happened and we had to split (small town, narrow minded people). Anyway, I found a boyfriend, and stopped seeing her, but I just can't stop thinking about her. I still love her, and I don't know what to do. Few months ago we met and talked, and we kissed again, and now I'm not sure if I should just break up with my boyfriend (relationship lasted for 3 years)? What do you think? Has anybody had a similar experience? I'm just really confused, and I need help! Sorry for making this post so long...
its your life. your parents don't get to tell you what to do. if your mother rejects it, ask her if she would rather have you be unhappy, and live a lie, than to be happy and straightforward with everyone about who you're attracted to. go see if that girl will forgive you. tell your boyfriend you've been thinking about this girl too much.
Thank you both for advice! I hope I'll have enough courage to do this... It ain't easy... but I want it so much!
of course it ain't easy. but do what makes you happy, and fuck everyone who tries to tell you what to do. bottling up sexual feelings (or any feelings) isn't healthy. you shouldn't deny how you feel, unless you know it'll be detrimental to yourself and those around you. (like a a drug addiction)
Yeah what everyone said. But you and your boyfriend been together for 3 years, that's a long time. YOU must tell him out of respect. don't let him find out which will make it worse.
That is quite the biggest problem I have! I don't know how to tell him, I'm afraid he'll do something with himself. He is very possessive and jealous (but he's good to me, really - I'm the bad guy here) and after three years it is a bit weird to suddenly tell someone: Hey, look, I think I'm lesbian and I have to leave you 'cause I love my ex girlfriend...
Tell him the truth. You owe it to him. Being in love with another person while you are with someone is basically like your whole relationship was a lie. You either tell the truth or say you dont want to be with him no more. Do you even love him?
I'm with him for three years, we were a quite happy couple, and yes, with time I really learned to love him. I care about him, and he means a lot to me. I tried to forget everything else, but I always had some thoughts about my girl, you know, late at night, when you just can't sleep... Everything would be fine if I haven't seen her that day... That was just like someone hit me in the head with a bat..
Yeah I understand how you feel. Being in love with someone is the craziest/hardest thing but you can not help it. Even if it is going to hurt him, you will have to follow your heart, or you going to be living in a lie.
That's what's bothering me the most. I feel very guilty towards him, but I also feel guilty towards her. I talked with my boyfriend yesterday, told him that I don't feel the same, we both cried. He begged me to think a little more about it and not to leave him. I had no choice, but to say I'll think. On the other side, she won't even let me see her. She said that she needs some time to think... This is not going very well...
well, perhaps some time alone would be best. this sort of thing isn't going to figure itself out in one day. you're going to feel one way, then another. time alone would be ideal. figure out who you are. have fun. you don't need a relationship to be happy
Just wanted to inform you what happened. She doesn't want to be with me. She says that it was a mistake and that it should never happen again. That day when we kissed doesn't mean anything to her, I guess... I still love her, though...
There are so many girls. That you couldn't get over her despite having an ideal relationship with a guy, means you swing the other way. Try your luck with another woman, if you don't like it, you can still choose the other path.
