Hi guys. Need some advice. I met this girl a week or so ago (well first time in person, we met on-line lol). We met at Bondi Beach and had a great time. 3 hours flew just like that (talking non stop). She walked me back to my car. At first I was worried because she said on the way to the car that she wasn't necessarily looking for a bf. But then she said she would be keen to meet up again So I wanted to play it cool and waited 6 hours before saying thanks for a good date. She replied positively, but didn't say anything about meeting up again. I emailed her 2 days later and asked her when she wanted to catch up again. She didn't reply straight away, but then said she was busy and couldn't catch up again for awhile. I can be pretty insecure so I thought she was blowing me off. I basically told her to contact me when she got some more spare time, but only if she really wanted to. I also gave her a compliment about her great smile. No immediate response, not even thanks for the compliment . I had pretty mush resigned myself to another one gone, when today she emailed me that she does want to catch up again :sunny: So my advice question has gone from should I forget her, to now how should I try to progress this? That may seem like a silly question, but it will be my first "second date" in 12 months! Also although she's incredibly cute and seems very intelligent, I get the feeling that she might be a bit shy about the whole dating thing and it may be a low priority for her. Would drinks be a good second date? If she seems interested should I try to kiss her before she gets in a cab? I'm not clueless but for some reason I don't have any game and I don't want to screw up again if she really does like me (e.g. I've had about 5 girls in retrospect be in my room clearly wanting sex, and I stuffed it up, and another 5 or so change their mind at the last moment - but that's another story for later!). Sorry for rambling but any thoughts would be appreciated. Heath p.s. this other girl I was chatting to wants to meet up with me tomorrow. I told her all about the other girl I was keen on and she understands that, but she still sends me suggestive texts etc. Would it be wrong to do anything with her? I agreed to meet up with her when I thought girl 1 was blowing me off. I don't feel bad about meeting up, but what if she wants to fool around (unlikely but still)? Would I be allowed to? H.
I'm a big fan of plan B in dating. I am familiar with many stratagems for picking up women, but I use none of them. I don't think stuffing and beating up your chest in front of the mirror or any positive thinking mental masturbation will help you, either. Tonight, I might be going out with a bunch of women. One of them is my platonic friend, she's sort of matching me up with a co-worker of ours who's super hot. I met her on the beach in Rio last week, on vacation and I was suddenly possessed to be machoman again that I hit on her really hard. It's uncharacteristic of me of late. Part of me is scared shitless of her, of course. Another part of me thinks that I can make her cum reeeeal easy (and I don't think that about every girl). What I'm going to try to focus on is first my sexual state. I want to be sexually charged but not sexually frustrated at the time I meet her. I also want to be well-rested, fed, and hydrated. I probably will work out today before we go. And, finally, I want to have a plan B. Which, it sounds to me you have. So, if anything, I would fuck the girl who's cumming on to you harder before going on a date with the shyer girl. One of the reasons I came on so strong to the hottie at the beach was because I had had amazing, trailblazing sex the afternoon before. This chick is way out of my league (9/10) and it would be a stroke of luck to be able to hook up with her. Especially in a setting that I no longer enjoy, vanilla nightclubs. So, a plan B will keep my goals realistic. As much as we would like to think otherwise, the rest of it is random chance.
good god, fool around with the girl that wants it already. she's not off limits because you met someone else that you might be interested in dating, but aren't yet. you really think the other girl doesn't have a backup guy? you should have already kissed the other girl. she's probably taking so long to get back to you because you're just a friend now and it doesn't matter if she blows you off for a few days.
So you're thinking of blowing a possible sure thing with one girl off because there's another girl you want more (who's not even sure when she wants to see you again)? What's wrong with that picture? If you want my advice, you take what's in front of you for the time being and continue to work on the girl you really want. When you get the girl you really want to be with, then you let the other(s) go. Unless you play it where they're all cool with you fucking all of them.
BTW, I set up going to the movies with the other chick tomorrow afternoon. So, now I have a cushion. If it doesn't work out with the one way-out-of-my-league chick tonight, I got options. Focusing on one girl before you fucked her is asking for it, IMO.
Thanks for the advice guys. Not going to meet up with the other girl anyway. Firstly she blew me off, then when we re-scheduled she says she will only meet up if I pay for her. Wtf? So just going to focus on the girl I like and I will try not to jump to conclusions when she doesn't reply to my emails and texts straight away! Cheers H
