Tight clothing versus loose clothing

Everywhere I go, I see women wearing form-fitting clothes that show their curves. At a former job, I got talked to about my clothing. Mind others, I wasn't wearing low-cut tops or mini-skirst. Just the type of clothes that you buy at express. My female boss said, "People are complaining about your clothes. Since you're pretty, it's more noticeable. If you weren't pretty, your clothing wouldn't matter."

Her comment made me feel very conscious and bad for dressing the way I did, so I threw out my tight clothes and bought some baggy clothes. Honestly, I don't like how baggy clothes look on me or on other women. Loose clothes also feel like they're going to fall off.

Now that I started a new job, I see all of the female workers wearing skinny jeans and boot cut jeans. So, are form-fitting clothes really that bad?

One thing I have noticed is that it's older women (50's and 60's) that complain about me or tell me that I should wear loose clothing. My current job is mostly dominated with woman my age (late 20's), so nobody cares. When I talked to my friends (who are my age) about my clothing being inappropriate, they also felt that my clothing wasn't even tight or provocative. Yet, my supervisor at my old job thought I was dressing inappropriately?

I also find it weird that one can get away with wearing tight clothes if they weren't "pretty." When I was being complained about my clothing at my old job, other people were wearing the same thing. Even my boss that talked to me came in wearing a low-cut dress in the summer time.

 

No. People are just idiots.

 

Place I used to work at had a young woman who dressed well, classily and very sexy. After several complaints from fat old women she told us to stick our job and left. Didn't blame her.

 

I think that may have been the case.

 

How very disspiriting.

This sort of bitching is a form of bullying, and frankly I'm disappointed at the management playing along with it rather than telling the complainers to stop whining and start acting their age rather than your dress size!

 

Beachball- When my boss was my age, her boss also reprimanded her for wearing form-fitting clothes. We work in the mental health field and were told that our male clients already have enough problems as it is, and that we don't need to give them more problems by looking hot. hahaha........


Frankly, her views can be argued. Who is to say that we women are responsible for a man's sex drive? Do we really think that men can't control themselves? Considering that many women at the mall and the grocery store dress in the same manner or even worse, I wonder how these same male clients will react.

What if a female client gets very aroused at a good-looking male worker? Does the male worker need to stop being good-looking?:afro:

 

There should be a dress code at most placed of business that you can refer to. If you're following the rules, the rest of them can suck it.

 

Why would you want to wear uncomfortable clothing, though? Tight clothing, to me, is like saying "I care more how I appear to others than how I feel." Sitting at a desk all day is bad enough, sitting at a desk in tight pants would be my personal hell. I'd be happy your superiors were saying "tone it down," I don't think there's anything so wrong with that--on the other hand if you were told, "your clothes aren't tight enough" I'd be down there with my protest signs tomorrow...

 

Surely tight clothes needn't be uncomfortable? what about leggings for instance, they must be comfy?

 

Depends where everything clings. For me, I hate shirts that stick to my sides but I can go body stocking first and then a tight shirt and it won't bother me. Leggings are always comfortable unless that have scratchy piece that becomes annoying.

 

if your planning on leaving your job any time soon, remember to show off as much as you can to make them well jell. theres nothing like making the envious squirm:devil:

 

I remember the whole "you can't wear that because it looks too good on you" speech from my mother. It still doesn't make sense to me.

Anyway! At my job, I stuck to the dress-code rules, but that didn't stop me from wearing form-fitting or flattering clothing.
I mean, my boobs weren't popping outta my top, but you could at least tell I had 'em.

Then again, as a Librarian, we're expected to be repressed/kinky anyway, so no one's ever shocked. lol!

Peace,
- FM

 

I got talked to for wearing leggings too! I was wearing leggings with a long sweater. My boss said, "You can't wear that, because the shape of your leggings are showing."

HUH? At my new job, everyone is wearing leggings with a long shirt.

 

My clothing probably does not matter because I am not pretty but I hate being confined by clothes. My clothes don't fall off but I feel more comfortable wearing things that are loose.

 

I like loose too Specs! I really can't be bothered with the hassle of being restricted by what I'm wearing. Shoes (when I wear them) have to be flat and comfortable!

 

Exactly !! especially about the shoes (when I wear them) :2thumbsup:

 

I don't believe that just because your clothing may be form fitting that it's inappropriate. I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with their own bodies, and as such, deflect that on others who are. As long as you're not showing an excessive amount of leg of cleavage, I don't believe there's anything wrong with wear form fitting clothes if they are comfortable.

 

I am totally totally comfortable in my own skin that is why I don't care too much about what I wear apart from the comfort factor and it has to be linen, cotton or wool and ethnic. I do think though that the poster who mentioned jealousy as a factor in the "that is not appropriate" work scenario is absolutely spot on. Covering your own inadequasies(just made that up) by slagging someone else is truly petty and horrible!

 

i hate tight clothes, especially around my waistline area. it bugs me. loose, cotton clothes and jeans are the best.

 

I was about to post that I think it's silly & in fact I rather appreciate a well-dressed attractive woman in the workplace... albeit I frequently end up sleeping with them, lol.

It's nice to have some eye candy around, even if nothing more. But on the other hand... a beautiful woman is great to see - well dressed or not.

But then I read this:

Quite frankly, I think she is right there!

You have no idea the thoughts that go through the male mind & working in the mental health field, you should understand that thoughts can become quite a bit stronger in people with such a disposition.

Dressing well and showing off could lead to you being raped, do you want to encourage that?

Or on the other hand, jealousy from less attractive women... that could spiral into violence.

It's not all who will be quite so affected... but all it takes is one.

Working in your field, I am a little worried you haven't considered this.

Take some time to think about this - you may have had a talking to for your own safety, not an older-woman's jealousy.

Responsibility is irrelevant... you will never be the same again if you get assaulted - would you not prefer to reduce the risk rather than increase it?

And again, think... the human race are still animals... some more than others... animal behaviour should be expected and planned for.

Be careful, be safe.