Age difference in relationships, should it matter?

I have a friend who is 40, she is stunning and successful, young at heart and just started dating a guy who is 23 with much reluctance at first because he is the same age as her son. I said age shouldn't matter, and just to enjoy your time with him and what the relationship has to offer. But having listened to her concerns about what the outcome could be as she gets older, I can see her point. As she reaches 60, he would be 33, and in his prime. Her concerns are other women. He is a cutie pie and the women adore him. I do think from what she has told me that he is smitten with her, but she has a roaming thought that she may loose that 'appeal' and he will eventually wander. people don't stay in love forever, and she dosen't want another broken heart. They do have a lot in common and that is a big plus. But it's always at the back of her mind that the age gap is just too big.

What do you think? Can a guy stay true to a woman half her age? Would the age difference eventually start to show as she got older?

 

it all really depends, age doesn't have to matter, sometimes it turns out to and sometimes not.

what seems to be most important to her situation though is that it's always at the back of her mind, and she doesn't want another broken heart. if she can't get past it what does speculation matter?

 

your friend should check her math. he'll be 43 when she's 60.

age difference does have affects on things in the relationship. i'm not saying people of significantly different ages shouldn't date, but the age difference does matter in various ways.

 

On a practical level, your friend's concerns are valid. If they both like each other, then maybe it's not a problem. It's only a problem if you think it's a problem.

I prefer not to date people significantly older than me, because I can't ignore the practical downfalls. While I know I'm going to get old someday, I can't bring myself to feel strong sexual attraction to someone that reminds me of my father or older uncle. That's just me.

 

Thanks, you put into words my feelings on the matter, even though I am positive about the relationship. Deep down she knows the score regarding the practical side of this, this is why she is being cautious.
Wizely so.

 

I agree with this.

And then there is the other practical issue of, him wanting biological children of his own. If she's past her prime to have children, that could cause problems in the relationship.

Him being 23 now, may be to early to determine if he even wants kids someday.

Now if all these problems are addressed and resolved it CAN work, but you have to tackle these issues head on.

 

I think age matters. A lot.
And to be completely honest, if they do end up getting together, I give them a few years. I doubt it can work out long-term.

 

I think its weird when someones who like 20 years old dates someone who is in their 40s

 

That's one of the reasons I don't date men half my age. But for a woman like Carole(my friend in question) she has a firm grasp on what she's letting herself into...and she's playing along with her heart firmly held in check.

 

Does she really though? I mean, since she's even thinking about what could potentially happen when she's like 60....

 

Well, I think I will place this concern to her further, tomorrow. Before the rot sets in.
thanks Piaf.

 

Groan. Cutie Pie? Smitten? So gay


Your friend talking to you about it wil just change to apricot~sky speach (man even that username is so gay). So talking about 20 years ahead might just be about talking about what she thinks you are going to go on about.

We dont know, only have your side of things, might be just chasing beefcake toyboy thing.

Or she might be more like you and She's doing a Lopez, and this 23 year old we are talking about is a gay guy. Oh he's such a cutie! acting like a couple to everyone else, when all she wants to do is cuddle uke:

I keep using the word gay even though its gayer than anything we can come up with.

Age gaps are fine, as long as its about anything other than mommy or daddy issues, even goldigging I'd have more respect for. Goldigging, Hardcore fucking, maybe having a thing for the generation they are in, even trying to relive your youth, but not wanting to play mommy again, its too fuckin weird

And another annoying thing, as you mentioned, its going to be about all the other chics in the end, retarded trying to blame the guys for everything, acting like all females are made of sugar and spice, when its most likely to end with her imagining clawing the face off the younger skank that steals him away