I want to understand woman's sex drive, please teach me!

What are the differences between men's sex drive and women's? I guess no one can really answer this question, because no ome experienced both. But at least, I want to understand this subject better.

My girlfriend never let me touch her, until one day, we went to the Niagara Waterfall together. In front of that waterfal, she kissed me, and I didn't even ask for a kiss.

I was so confused. Why was she turned on by a f*king waterfall? Another time she got excited was when we played firework together. I really want to know how women's sex drive work.

 

If you want to know about a woman's sex drive, the most important thing to know is that every woman is different.

Some women have very high sex drives where they want it more than the man. Some have "medium" drives. Some have little to no interest.

Different things can trigger horniness for no reason. I had no sex drive a few days ago, but someone said something very sweet to me that turned me on. Another woman may not be turned on by sweet behavior. My girlfriend hates loving and romantic talk during sex, and wants it rough and dirty. Whereas I need to see a degree of respect and softness established before I can get rough and dirty.

 

Yes, I know there are individual differences between women. But there should be something universal. Some guys are good at turning on women without even know them very well.

 

...when you can snatch the pebble from her hand, grasshopper...

 

don't we all...

 

10% Of The Male Population Don't...



Cheers Glen.

 

I can't give an exact answer, but I can give you a theory.

It's emotionally controlled, and because everyone responds to emotions differently based on their personal subjective memory and experiences you see much variation in what turns on one woman versus another. But the goal is to get them to trust, and feel both comfortable, and excited around you (aka: fun).

Other factors that come into play are: (not listed in any order of importance)

1. Looks
2. Timing
3. Expectations
4. Being aware of surroundings
5. Being aware to improvise
6. Money
7. Body language / touch-communication
8. Sense of humor (When and how to apply it, and when NOT to)
9. Sexual skills (If she had a good time, she'll most likely remember and come back for more)
10. Individual biology (genetics/age/hormone levels)
11. Gossip (girl gossip sometimes does all the work for guys)


Note on #10: Sometimes a guy will get approached by a girl out of the blue, and from his perspective he won't know why this girl suddenly is expressing interest. But the sterotype is that most guys won't care and go with the flow and ultimately end up getting laid.


But what could've happened, and does, is that girls talk about who is great in bed, and other girls get interested and want to see for themselves. (and here lies the foundation of lots of girl drama, but that's another topic)


Hope I answered your question and that the females in this forum can either approve or disapprove of my theory.

 

women are conditioned from an early age to find things like waterfalls and fireworks romantic.

 

This is what I meant by "It's emotionally controlled, and because everyone responds to emotions differently based on their personal subjective memory and experiences".

Those subjective memory experiences, include childhood conditioning.


Did you agree or disagree with my theory Meliai?

 

I also find waterfalls and fireworks beautiful, but when I am in situation like that, I put my full attention on waterfalls and fireworks. When I am bored, I look at my girl. My my girlfriend does the opposite.

 

So everything is important.

 

To varying degrees yes. Why would you even consider anything not important?

 

Pretty gay isnt it

 

You have no chance of coming close to understanding the female mind. It's easier just to buy shoes for her on a regular basis. Jimmy choo, gina and louboutin work best

 

Those sound like meaningful moments men's sex drive is like an on/off switch, we can feel romantic in 0.1 seconds in almost any situation. A woman is more like baking a pie . . . takes time, can't rush it or you'll burn, and have lots of good ingredients.

Sort of reminds me of my friend's advice for anal sex. Step 1 : buy her a steak dinner with lots of wine.

 

I agree with it although I would advise him not to overthink it too much because an easy confidence that you actually have the ability to turn a woman on is a turn on in itself.

 

Heck, I don't even think I understand my own sex drive. However I think that a guy who is confident about himself and sure in his actions is attractive. Personally speaking guys who try too hard to empathize with women and understand their point of view tend to loose that masculine attraction. Women arnt silly, we know guys are different and approach sex from a different angle, just ignore the sexist banter women tittle on about - it's just our way of pretending we don't find all that macho BS sexy. Just be yourself, make mistakes, I'm sure you'll find your own way through

Shayla x

 

Waterfalls are sexy. By their very nature, they represent our inner world, flowing, receptive, moving. Moments in beauty like this heightens our senses. We tend to be naturally more receptive than men, and need to feel everything around us is in sync. We enjoy the build up to sexual encounters slowly using our imaginations and our surroundings are paramount to this. It feels more special this way and attatches more meaning.

It is a good sign from where I am sitting that she has waited for that very special moment to make a romantic move.:love:

 

You have a good grasp on the female psyche

 

Haha, it's not really that hard, but gifts are good.

Women have a passion for spectacle, luxury and pleasure. Just watching carry on Cleo over xmas reminded me of the female mind in it's glory.