I think when folks don't get the parenting they need to be emotionally stable, the dysfunction continues into their relationships. If you were abused as a child, you will often seek out that "norm" in a partner. Im one of those who chose pain in relationship. Since drawing this conclusion im putting the wheels in motion to rid myself of this ongoing nightmare. im in an abusive situation atm and am going to end it. I need to be alone to heal and to grow. I hope those that abuse me will leave without consequence. It has been very painful and left me feeling suicidal more than once. I need to be free or ill break down. I can feel myself slipping and need to make some serious changes. At the end of the day i know i can call the police when the abuse starts, but rather than run a rats wheel i must make a stand and ask them all to vacate my life. That is the only way to heal I think. Thanks for your comments.
Kick some ass! Way to go. If you know a destructive pattern, change it. Keep us updated on your progress.
Thanks for the reps guys. Im fighting rediculous head space with some help. Recognizing the process is the most important. Thanks for caring people.
i really feel you on the not getting the needed parenting thing and that messing with relationships, although my situations don't manifest in abuse, i know what it's like to feel like the past has conditioned you anyway, i think it's great you realized that you need to take some time to be alone and sort things out... i feel like often times people are pressured to just be with someone and it'll all be better not so much, it really does take some real growing, like you said. it's not an easy fairytale for people like us who have a lot of deep-rooted stuff to work on. doesn't mean it can't happen! just be easy with yourself, you can shed the bad people fast but you can definitely take your time in building up the good things and the good people and yes please do keep us updated!
