I am in a relationship with a girl, she is my bestfriend aswell, the thing is we both havn't come out yet, i am happy to come out but she isn't. our relationship is secret, people just think we are best friends when actually we are together and have been for about 2 years. I really want to have a future with her, like live together, have a family ect. She says she will come out when she is ready but I dont think she ever will. If she doesnt come out then we cant have a proper future together. she tells people she has a boyfriend (referring as me) when actually she has a girlfriend. I just duno what to do to help her, and what to do about out relationship.
Don't forget, the hardest person to come out to is yourself. Don't worry about labels, announcements. enjoy your g/f as she is. An announcement won't change who she is.
It can be difficult and scary for people to come out of the closet. I remember having a really hard time of it. I don't know what your social/family situation is, but depending on where you guys live, she might just not feel comfortable or safe. The important thing to remember is that coming out is a very big and personal decision. You certainly should be there for her and offer your support to her in any way you can, but definitely don't push her to do something she isn't ready to do.
It's no big deal is it? Just take your time as you may well both want to come out together.....when you are both ready
I have this problem too but at the end I guess its way better for us to stay in closet...and only let few people know about us
My gf always tell me letting people know or not doesnt make a difference, since it's our own business after all. I agreed. But, i would want her to tell those people who go after her (she has lots of admirers) and she did most of the time. sometimes come out doesnt mean the best way to have future together. But yeah, it depends on your family/friends' surrounding. Regards
I have a similar problem with my girlfriend. She's fine with telling people that she is gay, but she has a serious problem with showing any type of affection in front of people. The way I look at it is, if we are in the mall...we can hold hands if we want to. We are never going to see most of these people again...but she doesnt like to be judged. And im not sure how to help her.
So, that's probably the problem. My gf never wanted to hold hands in public, but now (after 1.5 years together), she always do something like touching my face and kissing me in public
