Problems getting wet/can't orgasm during oral!

Hi! I'm 20 years old and have a few questions...

1. I have an issue getting wet/aroused during foreplay. I was on birth control for about 5 years or so and just got off of it about 1 year ago. I noticed that about 2-3ish years after being on the pill it was harder for me to get wet by myself or with anyone else. I've noticed that it has become worse since I have been off of the pill and it's very frustrating for my husband because he thinks that he doesn't turn me on...which he does but I don't know how to fix this!!!! We are tired of using lube because it doesn't feel as good as the natural thing. Did this happen because of the pill? Is there anything I could do to help get my 'wetness' back? My husband gives me oral to try and get me wet...which brings me to my next question....

2. Oral sex kind of works to get me wet but sometimes I go completely dry halfway through sex and we end up having to use lube anyways I also can't seem to get off from oral. I don't know what's wrong...it feels almost like my clit is overly sensitive which doesn't ever make me orgasm. I don't know what to do! Are there any oral techniques that my husband could try to help me orgasm?

Any advice is appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I heard that drinking plenty of water may help, but also consuming flaxseed may help, as it contains omega 3. However you say you are still getting turned on, but has sex become kind of a routine thing, is it generally the same way everytime? Maybe try some different foreplay, new exciting kinky things to turn eachother on.

 

Yeah sex has become more routine for us...we've been together for over 2 years so we don't really know what to do to make it exciting. I am not sure what other foreplay we could do lol we aren't exactly the 'kinky' type we stick with oral and that's pretty much it..

 

He might try doing oral on you a bit differently. It seems natural to dive in and start with the clit right off the bat, but he might spend more time kissing and licking other areas down there before he goes for the kill. Have him almost worship every inch of you down there. He can suck and lick all over. Another effective technique I've found I like to call "avoidance." Have him tease you by avoiding your clit. Have him kiss down your body, past your crotch, then lick and kiss up one leg, past your your crotch again, and then down the other leg. Then go in reverse, each time making you want him to lick your clit more and more. Let the anticipation of when he actually does lick your flower build and build. Fight the urge to touch yourself, other than your nipples, perhaps. At some point, you will want to hold his head front and center and pull him toward paydirt, but again, try not to. These techniques make foreplay last longer and can build your orgasm when it does happen.

A variation is for you to take control of the situation, and don't let him lick you there until you tell him it's ok. You can almost make him beg for permission to lick you to an explosive orgasm.

Another thought I had is that perhaps you're putting too much pressure on yourself to perform (orgasm). Have you masturbated lately, and if so, were you able to orgasm? If so, it was probably in a non-pressure situation and you were relaxed. If that is the case, I would relax and say to yourself, "If I cum good, if not, that's ok." The act is called "making love," not "making orgasms." Enjoy the fun in the sex and concentrate on making him cum. Your orgasms will follow naturally.