Hi, I just joined and I have a question. I'm bicurious, and when I masturbate I've tried tofinger my asshole but I've been having problems. I can barely get close to that region. Is there any way to ease into this? Thanks.
I've had same issues - I just can't get the finger right and still be able to JO. My wife has a vibrator/dildo I've tried but didn't work - need to hit the toy store and find the perfect match
best way to try is to get a toy of some sort. a smallish buttplug with a base on it so it won't get sucked up inside of you. relax when you insert it and don't force it. it could feel weird for a bit, but will become an enjoyable experience.
Start slow, start small. Most people who have a bad first experience with anal tend to not want to try it ever again, so make sure you're going to enjoy it. The key to anal when you're first starting out is that it should never feel forced. If you're relaxed enough and using enough lube and have the appropriate sized toy (be it fingers, butt plug, or dildo), actual penetration should not take much force, if any. Your ass will kind of "suck" whatever it is in. I always recommend fingers at first, since they're a good size for getting used to having something inside you for the purpose of pleasure and stimulation. Get some lube from a drug store or sex shop, don't use anything around the house. Again, do it right. If you're worried about mess, put a condom on your fingers/toy, and give yourself a quick cleanout with an enema or douche. Also, forget about what you see in porn. That's not a realistic view of what anal sex, especially your first time, will be like. Start small, and once you've gotten comfortable with ass play in general and start seeing your ass as a sexual orifice as well as a functional one, work your way up to bigger and better things.
