Hi there, I am new to this website so if I rant a bit then I'm sorry! For starters; I am an 18 year old male, I have a girlfriend who I have been with for quite some time now. I still love her more than I ever have and I am in no position to want to be away from her love. Although, I have thought I was bi-curious for a while now. I have never been physically attracted to another guy that I have met or become emotionally attached. But around 7 months ago I started to become close to a guy in my school who is also in my group of friends (There are about 15 of us). I started to have feelings for him around the time we started speaking, I thought he was insanely cute and I wanted to be where ever he was. In the last 2 months we have become very close and he is one of my best friends now, I thought my feelings would fade but eventually they have just grown stronger as I have got to know him more. I'm not sure he's fully straight, I have flirted with him before and he flirts back, I've called him cute and he took the compliment well. But he seem's like someone who would never have guessed I would have feelings for a guy. Only one of my friends know , who is a female bi-sexual , and she just said it was cute. One of the weirdest things is, the guy has the exact same amazing eye colour as my girlfriend! A kind of piercing blue/greyish shade which is pretty rare. Anyway, this guy has a girlfriend also. But around 2 weeks ago I found out that he wanted to break up with her because he liked someone else. I was kind of happy about this but wondered who else he might like, I even thought it might be me for a while. But he told me it was a girl in our group who we're both friends with, I became quite jealous and ignored him for a while and I don't know if it was consciously or sub-consciously but I started speaking to her over text a lot and she started to become really flirty with me whenever I seen her, and the worst part is he always heard it. She would sit on the arm of a sofa and ask me if she was my favourite person! I would always see him look over though and give me a look. One night after a party that we all went to I got pretty drunk and decided to go out after it and get a lot more drunk. Me and the girl were texting and flirting heavily and I was complimenting her a lot, we both said we liked each other which I now regret because I don't like her. At the time I'm pretty sure I just didn't want her to like him because I was being possessive. Lately I have been trying to tell her how good he is to try and get her to change her mind, but she always say's she see's him as 'too good of a friend' and that she 'doesn't like that type of guy'. But now I'm stuck in this weird love triangle and I'm the only one who knows it exists! I like the guy, he likes the girl, she likes me. Only my best friend knows of it as she is the only one who know's I have feelings for a guy. So my real questions are: What should I do next? Should I discuss any of this with the guy? Is this really as messed up as it seems?
The day after I said it I said to her 'Sorry about the other night, I was pretty drunk' but we haven't really spoken about it since. I know, I'm not trying to lead her on but it's difficult when we speak everyday and I don't want to lose her friendship
In my experience trying to pass a girl who likes you off to someone else just doesn't work. So scratch that idea. I say let the girl think whatever she wants. You were drunk when you said you liked her anyways. Why don't you try getting drunk with the guy for a change and see what happens between the 2 of you then?
I agree xxaru , I didn't think it would work. I have a perfect chance for that on news years eve, but I don't want it to ruin our friendship if he rejects me. How should I do it, in your opinion? And the girl will be there, her face will be memorable if she see's something happening between that guy she like's and the guy that like's her
That I don't know. I have no experience in that realm. Perhaps some of the bi members here will chime in and lend their expertise.
Thanks for your opinions though, have been helpful I'll wait a bit and see any bi members want to give me a bit of advice on the guy though
