My son is five. I just got a new next door neighbor that has a son, 11, who comes over and bosses my child around and plays with his stuff. One day the memory stick from his game cube went missing and he stopped coming over for about a week. I dislike this kid so fucking bad. He's only an eleven year old. I don't know how to be nice to this kid who comes into my house and steals from me. Every time I try to tell my son he's a bully and I don't want him here he says I'm a bully and he's his friend. I'm only hesitant because all of my sons friends are thirty minutes away or more. I feel bad that my son only has me to hang out with at home other than this douche bag next door. On a side note, this kid comes over and clogs my toilet every effing day with toilet paper and imposes on dinner most nights. I'm a poor person. I can barely feed myself after my son eats. How do I kick this kid out of my house for good? Am I not supposed to get rid of him? I feel weird disliking a kid this much but, I despise his obnoxious influence on my son. It's like letting your kid watch spongebob and they start acting like spongebob....augh.
I wouldn't let him. It's your decision, and if you think that the kid is a bad influence on your child and you don't want him picking up on his bad habits, then forbid your son from not only hanging out with the neighbor but you need to tell the neighbor specifically that he is no longer welcome in your home. He is 11 and is certainly mature enough to understand if he is done something wrong and will know why you do not want him around your son or in your home. If you son doesn't like it, you need to let him know that you might be a bully now, but that's just too bad and you do it for his own good. If I would have listened to my mother every time she told me someone was a bully/bad influence, I woulda been in a lot less trouble than I'd been in in my childhood years..
Yeah. It's awkward as hell but, it'll have to happen. Thank you for helping me not feel like a butt for not letting this kid back in.
Parenting is awkward all the time. We take a stand to be advocates for our kids. We can't expect anyone to understand these very personal decisions. There was times I pulled rank over the schools even. Be strong, and remember to use these experiences as building courage for what is to come.
And keep a close eye on your son after you 86 the bully. You never know. 7 & 11 year olds with a gun tried to rob someone the other day. Plus--the headlines.
a) Change your job. b) Earn handsome. c) Be rich. d) Use good quality toilet papers which don't get clogged in there. :2thumbsup:
That's a tough one. Since he is your next door neighbor, you can't eliminate him from your life. He could always do some mischief when your not around :devil: You have an ally- your age. You might try some psychology on him. Be nice to him, talk to him, try to get into his head. Try to awaken his mind to the effect of his actions. It might make him view his actions a little differently over time. I had a similar situation. The little brat: opened my birdcage on the porch and I lost the birds! he also put firecrackers in my gas tank. I wanted to strangle him but I knew I couldn't control him when I wasn't looking, so I tried the above approach and had incremental positive change over time. He was only 7 years old, and by the time I moved he was 12. Things did get progressively better over time.
I get a bad feeling from this..an 11 yr old has no interest in playing with a 5 year old. I think he just comes over because he's bored and enjoys being a nuisance. What are his parents like? My advice is to go talk to the parents and let them know what's going on and that you don't feel comfortable with him coming around. They need to respect that. Don't put up with that, don't tolerate him. Him bossing your kid around is ridiculous. Stand up for your kid and teach him a lesson about people. Some people try to use you...stop them. That kid is a bad influence and walking all over you guys. Are you sure there are no other 5 yr olds around to play with? Maybe try searching for a play date online? I found someone for a playdate for my 1 yr old on craigslist..
An 11 year old has no business playing with a 5 year old, unless it is his own family. This kid is not a friend, he is a leach. He just wants a free meal and toys to play with. Do you want your son to pick up these behaviours? I'd put a stop to this, enough is enough.
molest him. or, if you're squeamish, pay an older man to do it for you. you can most likely find one near a park/playground, or at a bus stop. 9/10 chances he will stop coming over. unless he starts coming over more. then i dont know what to tell you. you may have a bigger problem on your hands.
As far as I can tell he lives with his mom, her boyfriend, and her boyfriends daughter (who is my son's age and has never come over). His mom has come over once to tell me she's leaving to run errands and her kid should stay at my house until she gets back.... That was almost a month after he started coming over. Regardless, I found an old friend of mine who's had a few children. His oldest is four and we've got a playdate for tomorrow. Hell yes! They live in town and everything. So, hopefully this all goes smoothly enough. Thank you all for your awesome advice.
