There's this girl which I plan on asking out and we're friends and she knows I like her.. girls always know. We studied together once but since then I can't easily get her alone. I suggested we eat together on one occasion before but she said she was too busy. I would like to ask her out in such a way, that it won't look like I had to go out of my way.. but yet I don't think I'm going to really get that good an opportunity within the next week so is my only option to view her like a lion would view a gazelle and catch her on the way out of class and ask her out on the way to the next class. Don't really have a plan which is kind of annoying. Sometimes when I walk through the busy corridors, etc, I fear I might see her and not know what to do. Of course after I pass I'd later think about what I could have done/said. One can't exactly just stop her in front of her friends and say, 'we must meet later'. It would look bad if I just said 'hi' and then walked right by because she moreorless knows I plan on asking her out anyway.. so who would I be fooling. Before when I'd see her around & when I'd be unsure as to whether I should approach or not; I'd instead decide to leave her be, and try give the impression that I've got other important things to do.. because I don't want her to think that I go around worrying about her. But now if I see her it could be the last time!! The thing is that we get the holidays on the 17th. I share three more classes with her between now and then which she mightn't be at, and I won't see her then until about a week or two into January. I'd really like to get this anxiety out of the way with before then so that I can look forward to good things over the holiday season. I really don't want this to be dragging into next year. What would YOU do if you saw her in the corridor????????
they sure are good at pretending otherwise. i dunno, just go for it. facebook her if you have to, although face to face is infinitely better.
Easiest way to get around the group of friends is to find an event (like a party... should be a few of them going on for the holidays) and invite them all to come out. You get the benefits of asking her out, without having to do so directly. And you play like it's no big deal if she (and her friends) don't want to come. They'll just be missing out on all the fun if they don't. Then when you're at the party (or whatever event), it's up to you to get past the friends and make your move.
This assumes that she's the party type though. The OP said nothing indicating this is a viable option for him. @Raincheck, I feel you man I was in your position in early high school and I actually did go up to the girl among her friends and ask her out. It was bold, and I think my boldness kinda shocked all the girls standing together. In retrospect, it put her on the spot and that backfired because she was too immature herself to handle that kinda public pressure, but I've had success at other times with other girls. A lot of success:failure depends on "school reputation" to pull a stunt successfully like that though. You also have to realize that she might have just friend-zoned you and there is not much you can do about that. But the worst thing you can do is over think this or dwell on any success OR failure, and you're already beginning to do this by "giving her the impression" that you have more important things to do. THIS IS DETECTED BY WOMEN AS DISHONESTY OR BEING FAKE!!!!!!!! Instead GENUINELY, fill your life with activities, and DO NOT get fixated on her. (the badboy/player types don't get fixated on chicks, and this is my hypothesis as to part of the reason why they get past a red flag in a lot of young girls heads, age being 10-20) If you wanted too a good old love letter asking her out and mailed to her house might work. (DO NOT PUT LOVE LETTERS IN THE LOCKERS) Also do not feel bad if you get rejected, if you got the letter route, always leave an out for her to let her know it won't be awkward if she doesn't feel the same way. How long have you known or had a friendship with this girl?
What would I do if I saw her? I'd say that guy you have been making excuses not to see alone is stalking you. Seriously, she has turned you down already.
just grow some balls and be like, "hey. i like you. we should go on a date some night." move on from there
Your frustration is a valid emotion, but don't get angry at all women. Making an over generalization about women in general after getting rejected here and there is the origin of misogyny in my humble opinion, but it's not a valid conclusion you can make with logic. (Sidenote: And I thought according to another sterotype men were supposed to be logical ones, and less like this) Also you cannot assume she's not in class because of your actions, but I sense you're making that assumption. Regardless let her go dude and move on. And it's true your not stalking, but you are harassing. If you go any further you might get a restraining order man or get into trouble with school policy.
yeah, as much as he says she skips class i assume she's just a godawful student. if it's because of OP, he must have truly scared the shit out of her, and she's in the process of transferring to another school.
You nailed it. But to be honest, the fact that Rain has already admitted that getting rejected is getting him frustrated/angry, is kind of scary. There is no reason to get into a state of mind about rejection to the point of becoming misogynistic. If you reach that state, I find that kind of scary and I'm a guy who has been rejected sometime in my life.
Actually asshole, how could it possibly be stalking if I hadn't even asked her out yet. Look up the meaning of harassing
I'm trying to sympathize with you man. Also for the record, I actually did not accuse you of stalking.
I'm offering a different perspective on the situation you find yourself in, you are taking offense to it as if I'm attacking your personal character, which I am telling you I am not. And it's never about what you think you're doing when it comes to matters of the heart, it's always about what THEY think you're doing and how you are making them feel emotionally because of it. And I was saying that from an outside point of view, which is probably the girl's point of view too, is that she feels harassed/annoyed/pestered/scared, whatever you'd like to call it after you've given her clear messages you have a crush on her. Both of you guys are how old again? I'll also give you a piece of advice about rejection, you cannot allow it to get you upset.
man don't ask people on forums for help with your situation if you're just gonna get all upset like this. It's a fucking forum man. You'd be better off banging your head against a wall than arguing with the internet. I'm not saying you're stalking her either, or anything, and I understand your frustration, but if she did reject you and you don't just let it go from there, whatever you do in order to pusue her afterwards might end up just becoming obsessive. If she didn't yet reject you, then do whatever feels right. I'm also a very frustrated and angry man and have some issues with women, but you can't let that stuff get to you. Becoming hateful of women or misogynistic is one of the worst things that can happen to you as a man -- no matter how much women can fuck with our heads.
