Fallen for a girl but always been straight, advice would be greatly appreciated

Hi guys,

I've always been in relationshipswith guys and thought I was straight. I've had the odd moments where I've kissed girls when I've been drunk and thought about liking women but I have never had feelings for a girl before. One of lesbian friends introduced me to her friend who is also gay and now I've become really close with her and we're together but I know she's freaked out cause I always thought I was straight and I'm scared too because none of my friends will get it, my parents are strict and I have always seen my future as with a guy so now I'm all confused as I'm really happy when I'm with her. I'm also scared about hurting her if it doesn't work out as she's been hurt in the past. How do I know if I'm bi or not? If anyone has time to chat I'd really appreciate it.

Thanks,
Talia

 

Also to add.. people only get confused because they try to put a name to their sexuality.. who cares if you are homo, hetero, bi, pan, a.. you are some kind of sexual. Stop confusing yourself by trying to put a name to something that really doesn't have too fantastic of a descriptor anyway and move on with it.. try it out like I said

 

So do you think I should just go for it and see what happens? What about telling people I'm with a girl? I told one friend and she freaked out, it was really uncomfortable. And what about if it doesn't work out and I end up hurting the girl I'm with?

 

First of all, yes, go for it. If you're not comfortable telling people, then don't.. you can be gay without being all I'M HERE AND I AM FUCKING QUEER, BITCHES! you know? I mean if you live in a place where being gay is illegal then I wouldn't go shouting it from the rooftops. But that aside, I'm going to highly doubt that and just move on past that point.

If you want to tell people that you're with a girl, then do it. Your friend freaked out? Then fuck her. If she was really your friend, then she would be supportive on you through all of your neutral and positive endeavors (I can't expect her to be supportive through a negative one.. but everyone should want what is best for their friends) and being with someone of your same gender is certainly not a negative lifestyle choice.. so if she is uncomfortable, then either she needs to get over it or she isn't your friend.. kind of like the old saying 'Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind". If it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out.. but you'll never know until you try. And you can't base your life decisions on whether or not you're gonna hurt someone else.. I mean yeah I wouldn't make decisions that leave people crippled or dead but come on.. everyone breaks up with someone eventually and everyone gets broken up with.. she'll get over it, generally everyone but psychopaths with a stalker personality disorder does. Everyone has been hurt in the past and they learn and move on

 

Who cares what other people think. Do whatever your heart desires.
It's your life.

 

Thank you guys, it's really helpful and I do think you're both right I should just go for it and see what happens and I know my friend was shocked but she is a good friend and I'm sure she be fine once she knows I really like the girl, I think I just found it hard to say I really want to give the relationship a go because I knew she wouldn't really get it. But she won't stop being my friend I know that

 

Well if you know she won't stop being your friend, then what's the hold up? Go for it and try it and honestly, stop caring what other people think (Unless it puts your life in certain danger, I guess, then you should probably care a little bit).


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:iagree: with aceouses.

 

Okay, I will try to stop worrying! Thank you

 

I dunno. This seems like a trip to Lesbian Vegas.(The place where straight girls go to play) The person who will get hurt here is the lesbian girl, once you've had your fun and move on.

I'd make sure it's not just titillation that's driving you here.

 

I wouldn't just get with her for fun, I really like her. I understand what you mean though because it's new and I'm confused but the one thing I'm not confused about is how I feel about her. It's everything else, like my friends and family and in case it doesn't work out I do worry about her getting hurt, but then any relationship is a risk right, whether it's with a guy or a girl

 

iI you don't pursue it how will you know. Obviously you are having something pull you toward this girl. Maybe that's why relationships with men have not lasted.

 

Don't worry so much about labels. You like this girl then give the relationship a shot.