Is he interested in me? (Dating an older man)

I've been seeing this guy for a month now. At first I didn't think he was my type but things are progressing. In his first email to me, he stated he wanted a partner/live in companion. On our first date, he took me to a nice restaurant and surprised me at his place. It was my bday and he got me flowers, 2 movie tickets and a bracelet. We talked all night and ended up making love.

I decided to leave the next morning because I was embarrassed. He made me a smoothie before I left. He told me to call him when I got home but I ended up falling asleep. He left me a long voicemail saying he missed me. Keep in mind he is 25 years older then me and I am 25. Anyways, he is very busy with work since he has his own biz. He went on a business trip for a few days then he called me again when he got back. We talked every day for the next few days. I didn't bother to call him because he called me. If I try to get off the phone, he loves to drag the convo.

The next date we went on, he took me out again. He never let's me pay when I offer. Whenever I eat out with him, he stares at me if im not looking. I told him this makes me nervous but he just chuckled. Also, he holds hands with me alot, kissing me in public. Also, when we got back to his place- he cups my face, looking deep in my eyes. We can't seem to keep our hands off each other as he is an amazing lover. I know he's a very busy man because he always had to fly out of state for important meetings but the next morning he asked if I could drive him to the airport instead. I said I couldn't because I only have to work in an hour and the commute was 40 mins away. We hugged and he walked me to my car.

He also said I'd be at his place more then I thought and told me to ask him what drinks/food to stock up on, in case I get hungry while I'm there..

Anyways, after his flight- he called me that same day early in the evening, leaving me a playful voice message. He just said he was worried if I got home safe.

I know it's too early to tell, but what's up with this guy? Does he dig me or something ? I'm afraid of getting hurt so I'm trying to push away emotions.

 

so, there's this guy i'm seeing. he wants to do nothing but spend time with me. he pays for everything, and he cries if i have to spend 5 minutes away from him. he proposed to me 6 times now, although i always say i'm not sure, yet he just keeps proposing. yesterday, some people tried to mug me, and when they shot at me he jumped in front of the gun and took a bullet to the throat to save my life.

i know it's too early to tell, but he hates me, right?

 

Don't fuck with this dude's feelings 'cuz you're scared. The male is emotionally invested too. Sounds like openly a lot more than you too. Stop to think about not only yourself *(I know that's hard to do, as a woman)*. He even calls you when you "forget" to return his calls. C'mon now.

By us telling you he likes you (the obvious), you're likely going to run away and give him the impression you're not interested too. Great.

 

It's possible, but he hasn't exactly shown her to the world in the way that many guys do if that's what's really going on.

So far this relationship/fling, has remained private and intimate between the two individuals.

I'd say unless you see some real danger in being manipulated, don't assume anything.

But seriously, try to stand your ground to at least pay something, like the tip of a fancy meal date.

 

you're dating a desperate old man.

proceed as you see fit. you say he has his own business?
milk him for everything he's got.
i hope there are hot 25 year olds like you when im 50 so i can take advantage of their naivete and get laid like a boss

 

I can't understand how you can ask if he digs you. Of course he does.

 

True, but the OP sounds like she's aware of those problems and wants to try anyway. As long as he remains respectful and the relationship doesn't go in a bad direction I really don't see a problem.

If the older guy is ONLY about the arm "cute young" aspect of this relationship, it's a get out of that situation ASAP, regardless of the age of the guy. (Because let's face it young guys are the same way sometimes)

But you're right 25 years of age is a huge age gap, and you do have to weigh your options over time with things like:

1. Your own desire for kids; handling raising them alone if they die (adopted or biological)

2. Health problems of the older partner as they age, and monetary costs with that.

3. Sexual dysfunction problems because of the age gap

4. Possibility of being middle-aged and alone with rusty experience with a changed dating world with a new pop culture of whatever the future brings.

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All things to think about but not anything I consider worth holding off genuine happiness for.


Adding to the conversation though, I think the OP better take a lot of effort to make sure she's not "the other girl" in this situation.

Make sure he's not married, and is casting the illusion he's single.

 

lol, I know right. WTF, is this chick waiting for the lightning bolt to strike her dead before she finally gets a sign?

 

I could never date a 25 year old. They'd kill me. Theres no way in hell I could keep up.