I love my fiance' but the sex sucks. Advice?

My fiance' is an amazing man. He treats me so well, is a faithful, loyal, handsome military man. I love him so much and can't imagine not being with him. The only problem is the sex. It leaves me disappointed, and unsatisfied. I hate feeling that way. I love him and want our sex life to be healthy and make both of us happy.
When we first started dating I noticed that the sex never lasted very long, but I just thought that maybe he would build up some stamina after awhile. Well, 6 months later, it's not lasting any longer. If anything he's cumming ever quicker. When I say this I'm not exaggerating, sex never lasts longer than 5 minutes. He's not very big, about 4 inches. I would be ok with that though if he could just go longer.
I'm a very sexual and adventurous person. I don't want to live the rest of my life without having enjoyable sex with the man I love. And, I don't want to go anywhere else to get pleasure. I've tried toys, costumes, kink, and different positions, hoping it would somehow make him last longer or that I would atleast get off before or when he did. But nothing has worked and I'm losing hope. I want the idea of having sex with him to be an exciting, arousing thing, but instead it's something I try to avoid and I can't live like this.
Does anyone have any advice to offer? Thanks for your time.

Just a little side note- He's 25 and I'mm 22, and we're both in decent shape. He has to be under a certain weight in order to stay in the branch of the military that he is in, so I don't think the reason his stamina is so low is due to his weight or anything.

 

Viagra, or whiskey? Kudos to you for staying loving to a man with 4 inches.

 

First of all good on you for not wanting to run around behind his back to get some! Good to see someone who understands respect. You really should talk about this with him. Nothing is better then honest communication in resolving things. If the sex doesnt last long tell him to give you more oral or you could get him off with your mouth or hands once then get him to play with you untill he is hard again for another round which he should last longer for. It doesn't have to be just about intercoarse and it can last for a long time if you work together and tell each other your wants and needs.

 

Thanks for the advice enhancer13. We have talked about it some, and he knows I'm not satisfied. I will try what you suggested though.

 

You might try 69 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/69_(sex_position) or have sex about a half hour after he has cum . Many men cum too early , but can go a long time the secount time around . desert rat

 

Anyone else have any advice? Maybe someone else has dealt with a similar situation?

 

More toys? Maybe a french tickler...
But that could simply serve to please you... Him on the other hand... Um... maybe a Fleshlight with extra "attachments"?

 

Yes well... Most men never learned the joy of multiple orgasms, that is very... difficult for most men. To learn this we need to... (Just... Google search, I do not enjoy filling my copy paste cache with web adressess like I would need to link to). But with this ability, sex = Unbelievable for both partners. Or so I've been told...

 

if she has to wiki 69ing, it might just be hopeless for her..

 

...I did not exactly wish to word it as such but you did it for me, so... Ya. This^

 

Hi lks430

I agree with enhancers' post, but because he's lasting so little, instead of letting him cum try this below.

You need to build up his resistance to sensations his penis gets. Give him a blowjob so he's nice and hard and enjoying it but dont let him come, then stop for a while to let the sensation go and start again. Over time compared to what your mouth and hands can do, he should learn to last alot longer while having sex. He needs to understand why you and he are doing this, theres no point if he is quite happy for things to last 5mins."

I have always believed that my obession with blowjobs has meant that I can last longer when having sex. A past gf of mine just loved having sex for as long as possible so we'd do it for a hour at a time minimum before i'd cum and thats not including foreplay, yet if I want to I can cum in less that 5mins.

 

On a lady not knowing what "69" , on a post on this forum a year or 2 ago . A young lady did not know how to master bate http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masterbate I thought this was strange , but another lady forum member stated in some cultures young girls are tought not to masterbate . To lks 430 there is a teq. where a guy can move his eyes , while closed , up , down , side to side ,roll clock wise , roll counter clock wise , for a minute or two just before orgasim . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm This will delay orgasim . Its a bit tricky and is easy er while he is on the bottom . There is also trantric sex , I can post more if asked . http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tantric_sex#Tantric_sexuality desert rat

 

Have him cum with his hand while you watch. Then let some time pass, and have a session. Be on top.

 

These wiki pages contain links to other... "useful" information and some other info that is really not so much useful. But the male section of the "Orgasm" link contains some useful shit for males. Females can have orgasms in rapid succession without much difficulty, us men cannot do that very easily and (I at least) envy you all for such capabilities.

 

in our culture young boys are taught not to masturbate, but 99.99999% figure it out anyway.

 

Oddly enough lots of people just don't talk about it anymore and then children are exposed to it in some way or another eventually and then shit just happens.
It is disappointing.