Are guys really more sexual than girls in nature?

My boyfriend and I are almost 1yr into our relstionship and we've been dating since the first day we met. I've posted abt him on here before, abt how it took us a while to feel comfortable with each other and act as best friends. He is open abt his sexual nqture and how he would like to fuck other girls but it wouodnt be worth it as it would hurt me. He's clearly stated that he is only interested in being with me and I know he loves and understands me a lot. Recently I confronted him abt the random times that I'd find him checking out girls because deep down it'd been bothering me. I know its just a look but it makes me feel like I'm not enough if he is tempted to fuck other girls. He told me he's been with hookers in the past (3 times) and desires to get one in the future except he wouldnt cus again it would hurt me. I can appreciate the honesty but the truth still hasn't rly settled well with me. He tells me not to take it personally and that the sex we have is great but "guys like variety".... I suppose I feel like shit and just frustrated because he says he wouldnt feel comfortable with me wanting to fuck someone else, and its like I'm supposed to understand his urges just because he's a guy.... and also I guess sex means something more intimate for me. Im a pretty sexual person too but I don't even fheck guys out.... it takes much more to become attracted or interested in a guy so its hard for me to accept what he's told me. Do you guys think this is okay? Am I supposed to understand that this is in every guys nature and that I shouldn't take it personally?

 

He kinda sounds like a dick, the way you're saying it, but he's being honest. No matter how happy I am in a relationship, I will always fantasize about sleeping with other women. That doesn't mean I would ever act on these fantasies.....I've never cheated on a woman and I can't see myself ever doing so.

It's ok to enjoy the beauty of art as long as you don't take all the paintings off the wall.

 

If I were you I'd take it personally... as a sign that you're not satisfying your man enough. Fuck him 8-10 times a day if you have to, every time before he goes out. If his dick was sore from all the sex you guys were having I doubt he'd have much motivation to pursue other girls.

 

Ok, it seems like you`ve conceded his point here. He does want more variety than you do. Would it be ok if he fucked other people without letting you know?

If all you want is him, and he wants more...why not let him have it? You can still have him, and he can have what he wants too. The precondition being that he stop rubbing it in your face by ogling chicks left and right.

 

Or you have sex with him constantly. Either way works out great for him.

 

He does sound like an ass.. my boyfriend would never say that to me..in fact he tells me he can't really get off to porn anymore because he's too infatuated with me. Now he and I can check out other people all we want, but to come out and say that we're tempted to have sex with another person? Never..even if someone feels that way it is just a little rude and incosiderate to inform their partner...

 

well, which one is it?

that, like a normal person, he is attracted to people of the opposite sex even though he doesn't act on it because he is with someone? yes.

that you're taking issue with it? i suppose it's ok but it's probably not great for the relationship.

well yeah. unless i completely misread, all he does is look. what the hell more do you expect him to do, castrate himself?

 

Just as it is in every womans nature to take over the life of her partner until she strangles the spirit from him.

 

Oh for fucks sake. Stop dating stupid bitches. There are plenty of cool chicks out there, Debbie Downer

 

Gee, thanks for your help.

 

If it bothers you tell him. If he doesn't stop then you have a choice to make.

 

Thanks for saying this dude..there are so many guys on hip forums that seem to think all women are bitches because they dated a couple of bitches. The misogynist tone gets on my nerves, especially when it's clear these guys simply have bad taste in women. I know too many awesome ladies to believe otherwise.

in regards to the op, I'm in a happy relationship and I still check other guys out so I don't think guys are necessarily more sexual. I do think it's a dick move for your boyfriend to do it so obviously and to be so upfront about wanting to have sex with other women. Honesty isn't the best policy when it's unnecessary. I would be more concerned with his insensitivity than with his sexual fantasies.

 

Maybe you should start fucking dudes.

 

This doesn't sound okay to me. If he wants to fuck other girls then he should let you fuck other guys if you want. Be-that-as-it-may, this is something that you don't seem to want. Talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. If he still feels the same about fucking other girls, then you have a choice to make. Stay with him and feel like you're not worth it, or leave and find somebody who only wants to be with you.

 

If he was dating a playboy model do you think he'd risk losing her because of wanting to have sex with someone else?

Basically you like him a lot more than he likes you, despite what he tells you simple!

 

I have an alternate theory. I think people are seeing him having sex with other people as you getting shortchanged and that there is an inbalance in the relationship.

I disagree. I feel that if you are comfortable with him getting some of his sexual needs met elsewhere and your needs are still met by him then it can be an awesome relationship. This doesn't mean that he doesn't like you! In fact it's very likely that he cares about you deeply. The reason I say this is because he was honest with you and wants to keep the relationship going. Lesser men simply cheat!

Best of luck and make sure to give us an update!

 

When we go out I know my BF checks out other chicks, I am kool with that....afterall that's what some men do and I am not that insecure that it bothers me because sometimes I check out other guys.

 

This is true, and not just because women are concerned about getting pregnant. Studies have shown that it holds true even among homosexuals. Gay men tend to be promiscuous while lesbians tend to form a relationship before having sex although there's no fear of pregnancy. It's hard-wired in us.

 

so it's fair to allow her to cheat because he has natural desires that he doesn't act on?

did i miss the post where he started actually having sex with other women?

 

I agree that it's a jerk move for your boyfriend to talk so much about sex with other girls. Being attracted to other people while in a relationship is something that happens but I know it's not something I want to hear from the guy I'm dating. If you haven't talked to him about this upsetting you do so, maybe he's genuinely oblivious to how it upsets you. If you have and he continues to do it he's an ass.