So I'm talking to my friend, having a smoke

I ran into him after getting off my bus. He yells my name, I look over. We're chatting energy is good. I'm being personal and chill, trading glances & smiles with a girl or two as they're passing by. This chic in question is I notice hovering a bit. I stay with my friend but 3, 4 times I look over, she just happens to be there... I think getting closer @ one point. As me and my friends conversation ends, she casaully makes it a point to walk by & around.

Really? Is that all you really feel you have to do? Like I'm going to finish my conversation then chat you up too, because you happen to make eye contact for a brief few seconds?

Makes me think back to a time this cute nerdy looking chic made real eye contact, did the stand facing sideways from you thing, & even afterwards 'accidentally' bumped into me (& then apologizing super loud). I fucking pussed out that day daisy, but it makes me appreciate that effort far, far, more.

Girls why do you think all you have to do to get a guys attention is glance over a few times, stand nearby, and if he's a man, he will come talk to you?

Now I want that nerdy chic to bump into me again. I get it now and would definitely start that conversation, but this hovering chic was lazy. & disappointing.

 

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Fortune favors the bold my friend sounds to me like you let both ladies walk right past you

 

She showed interest, you didn't. She took the message and left.

 

^This. Everyone is different, maybe she is a bit shy. I have never ever in my life approached anyone, that's just not me. I'm the shy silent type.

 

hmm i get quite a few looks and smiles from pretty cute chics but they never seem to get in my business like that and i am usually clueless on how to approach them, so you are pretty lucky my friend.
Usually the reallyy fine chicks dont even look at me it fuckin sucks, i really think i am due for a haircut and a shave thats prob half the problem. Also my rapist stache proly aint much help lol.

 

So because I can't switch from 'I'm talking to my friend" to let me accost this stranger who I think may be trying to get my attention, within seconds really, I'm not interested and rejecting her?

Tiniest window of opportunity I've ever seen to get to know someone.

I didn't reject her at all. I barely had time to think and approaching a girl who I've never seen or met , on an assumption nonetheless is going 0-70 in seconds.


We won't even go into what comes next. Rejection is still at her calling. Texting. Dating. Etc. All she has to do is come nearby for a few seconds, the entire rest is on me? Can you blame a guy for not enticing the idea of starting the romantic uphill battle after seconds of you "hovering nearby"?

 

Maybe I'm shy. Or not an approach machine.

I feel dumb about the first one. Albiet imo unnecessarily round-a-bout, that's probably the best you can ask for from a chic.

So no other women agree with me that the system is horribly one-sided, creates very little room for people to actually get to know each other, or are they just going to continue enjoying their pedestal of admiration and luxury?

 

she looked at him, he looked at her. that's her showing interest, and him not showing interest. kind of proves the whole point he was trying to make i think.

probably because it works often enough.

 

Well put. Concise as well. I wonder if calgirl even sees the hypocracy in what she wrote, and how she and maybe other women interpret such a situation.

I'm sure some think they're weeding out the confident go-getters from the 'weak.'
Sadly you're only weeding out those who are still normal or diverse and those who have decided to throw away who they once were for the sake of results.

You are promoting 'the game' and the game is horribly shallow, one-dimensional, and emphasizes certain things to unhealthy ends, while discouraging sincere discourse. More and more men are however finding out they have no choice. :seeya: Thanks vagina.

 

Approach machine sounds like a good band name!

 

Trouble with waiting for the guy to do everything is its more likely the guys that dont really give a crap that will come up and talk to you - the assholes


It may not seem like its the way its supposed to be, but the girls should do the chasing, initially anyway.

Then you can hold out for 6 months until he proposes, and end up in yje same place anyway, married, bored and fantasing about every guythats not your husband

 

I don't feel I'm a hypocrite. They made eyes at each other, and no one made the next move. She walks away.

The only way it could have moved forward is if someone interrupted the chatting. She could have done it, but that is normally rude. Kok could have done it, but didn't. If she were to hover for a break in the chatting, how long would she have had to hover? It's very awkward, and I need a sign or I would have to move on.

 

IDK OP, maybe ur gay?

if not your seriously stepping on your pecker being shy and trying to intellectualize your poor performance. Own UP!

Kids these days are becoming social cripples because of Facebook!
Go outside and meet real people stop being a computer geek.

 

Seriously, I've never seen anyone complain on more separate occasions of members of the opposite sex not coming on to you often/strong enough.

Sounds like you pussed out again.

You say it's rude for her to wait around and want you to come talk to her when you're done your conversation. Would it be less rude to interrupt your conversation to initiate small talk?

You have to understand that women are humans too. Not all of them are going to be absolutely confident. Also, men can be just as hard to read as women. Unless one person makes a concrete move then for either individual speculation as to what the other's intentions/desires are could be all over the place. You can't go around getting signs and ignoring them and then complain because someone else ignored your signs.

 

I don't see what the big deal is. It was a missed opportunity for both of you. You both pussed out. Better luck next time

 

I was waiting for that one, just cos he didnt drop everything for some chic that was probably going to be a pain in the ass that somehow translates to him beating off over guys.

Has to about the guy, cant possibly be that most of them are a pain in the ass.

As I said before the girls should really do the chasing, especially if it is a bit of nookie they want, otherwise its just going to look like its about attention or goldigging

 

I've never done the "glance" thing...yeah, I've looked at a cute guy, but I've never been the one to make intentional eye contact. If I want a guy, I just go up to him and start talking.

My assumption is that the girl was feeling you out, trying to read you.

Next time, just go up and grab a boob.

 

Whenever I walk by a reflective surface I give that hot son of a bitch a once over. I pretend like I'm fixing my hat, but I gotta blow myself a kiss everytime I walk by a display window.

 

It must be tough having women stop and try to get your attention all the time.

Get some rest.