Over the past few days I've been reading some materials on pornography addiction and I realized that I'm definitely at a mild level of addiction. Since the day before yesterday I decided I'd stop watching porn and masturbating for a month. I hope to be rid of porn altogether and perhaps masturbate very little in moderation after the 30 day period (maybe once or twice a month or week...). Have any of you attempted to quit the porn trap? And what are the benefits or drawbacks of it? -Wolfe
yes I wonder if it gets in the way of trying to bed women.. avoiding masturbation if you're not in a relationship is hard, even when I was in a relationship I masturbated.. dropping porn isn't an issue, self-pleasure is.
I've noticed that the times when I stopped masturbating and watching porn (quite by accident really) I ended up being intimate with several women and being more confident in initiating conversation. I want to be THAT GUY again. I've turned into a meek, helpless little man in many respects. Maybe not touching my balls will help me regain them!
this spring, there was about a month where i had no internet access. unfortunately, during that time i didn't really see any attractive females either, so the imagination-based wank was difficult too. benefits: i dunno, a little more free time i guess. drawbacks: man gets a little cranky when he can't get off. and when i did rub one out, it took a long time with so little visual or mental stimulation, thus kind of negating the one benefit.
That is due to your subconscious mind, which you can control...with much effort. You believe that watching porn & pleasuring yourself is wrong, you may even believe that only "bad people" do wrong things. So, when you go out, subconsciously, you think you are a bad boy...not in a good way. You just need to think differently, you are a man with a pulse, so you need sex. That's the way God (or whatever you want to think) made us. Some need more or less than others. Porn can become a nasty addiction, just like drugs, alcohol or tobacco. But, we all have needs & why not fulfill them the best way possible, as long as you're not hurting yourself or someone else? Depriving yourself will definitely give you more drive to get out there & "get ya some" & depending on the way you think, may give you more confidence. Even if you hook up with the hottie of your dreams & get married & settled down, a day might (WILL) come when you want/need more sex than her. What then? Watch porn & jack off...don't go out there & bring back home a STD to the one you love!!!! Believe me, that is not a good experience!!!
Ok trial period begins now.. how long will I go without manual relief? will I avoid porn? will I get off with a woman before? will I go mad?
Well, not doing it is actually easier than you think. Just avoid being alone and unoccupied LOL... I find if I'm really really busy, I don't even think about it. it's when your hands are idle and you aren't focused on doing something else that those Horny instincts come back But yes, keep occupied, avoid tight clothes, and sleep in your underwear... Good luck.... :afro:
all good advice apart from the sleeping in your underwear bit.. just not comfortable.. think I'll keep viewers posted with regular updates..
well, the only reason for the suggestion is to keep it less exposed.. Shower times can be tough too. But you aren't going to wear a bathing suit in the shower so.... :afro:
I think you shoud realise that you are talking about 2 entirely different issues here. First & foremost, not only is there nothing wrong with masturbation, but it has been medically proven to have many benefits, both physically, as well as mentally. Therefore, to deny yourself could be doing more harm than good - or more to the point, wouldn't be doing any good at all. As far as porn is concerned, well, that's really a matter of how seriously you take it, and the genres you tend to prefer, and if you find yourself believing you have a fetish simply because you've seen it on a few videos etc. Anything that leads to subliminal brainwashing in this way can, of course be considered harmful, but when it comes to straightforward sex videos, there's nothing wrong with using them as a bit of mental inspiration during a masturbation session. Come to that, if you ever have to provide a sperm sample at hospital, they will even provide you with a selection of porn in the form of magazines & videos to help you on your way. Personally, I often masturbate in bed - usually upon waking with the typical 'Morning Glory', but I get best results, and more enjoyable orgasms while sitting at my PC with some decent Amateur porn - and the more Amateurish the better.
well. i have stopped masturbating for cca 5 months in 2010. and as I can remember there is only one benefit that is an ENORMOUS ORGASM 1st time after. the negative side: for me it was some irritability + quite a lot of wet dreams
Thanks for the insightful posts! A quick update: it's been 5 days and so far I've had good results which I started seeing yesterday. I've gotten 2 phone numbers (one yesterday and one today) and I suspect I'll keep meeting new girls as I'm more ballsy. It isn't solely due to craving vagina more since I'm not jacking off, I've also started to work on putting my ego aside. And to respond to PineMan: I'm not trying to demonize porn and masturbation. I just feel that when I do it, it has a negative overall effect on my goals (having sex with women and being more confident and outspoken).
Well kicking out the porn has been easy.. as far as the masturbation part - no success.. I did go out with a new girl at the weekend though but it's still in the early stages.. let's see what happens..
Dude that's awesome! I haven't had that much success. I met a girl yesterday who happened to be beautiful and we spent like 30 minutes together but then she told me she had a boyfriend. oh the dread...
After 11 days I feel like porn is easy to drop but I haven't been able to ejaculate on a girl and as a result I am going insane. Time to fap.
Masturbating is fine, just get some baby oil and you are good to go. But the whole porn is not exactly "healthy". I used to watch porn all the time until a year i quit and it was one of the best decisions ever. About 1-2 months after stopping porn, i was amazed how i could just take one look at girl, imagine how soft and smooth her skin is and how good she'd smell and i would instantly get a raging hard on. Its like Boner-On-Demand, and its free! This was something i could never do when i watched porn as i was trained to get hard only to giant tits on a computer screen. Good for you for quitting porn, just stick to it and you'll be very proud of yourself.
