Life is hard

Plays for me...:2thumbsup:

I love Johnny Winter

 

I've never conformed. Never fit in. I am a thinker, and overthinker. With others I decide quickly whom I will converse with. And subsequently whom I will build friendships with. I won't be friendly with certain types. I don't talk about typical stuff amongst women. It doesn't make me popular.

Around 40, I finally was glad for being odd woman out. It was nice to be different. I like setting myself apart. Inside I felt very confident about what matters in this world. Sometimes I catch myself being too aggressive about it. That's the main thing I have to rein in.

We are late bloomers. About yourself, you know what you know. Now take a step!

 

I can very much relate to what you said. I'm the same way. I would say life has been bitter sweet. Thanks for giving me something nice to read and something I can relate to..cuz Well, I'm up right now and can't sleep either. I'm thinking about how lonely it feels to not be able to relate to people and in the rarities when I can relate to someone it's usually someone I find online who seems to live light years away from me..

 

PR, sounds like a pretty normal life to me.

One of my joys as a parent was when my daughters realized that most of their friends lives/families where as or more fucked up then ours, regardless of how nice the lawn was or what they drove.
Point is, who's gauge are you using to evaluate normal?

Me: Diagnosed "Hyperactive" (before it was politically incorrect) at age 6.
Prescribed Ritalin which took until age 11 1/2. Then they put me on Dexedrine, but I soon discovered the joys and profitability of speed, so that ended abruptly.
Tested at age 12, I.Q. = 132
Pissed all my teachers off because I turned in zero work and got A+'s on all the tests.

So your life sounds rather normal to me.

 

Never judge your insides by someone elses outsides.

 

Sounds like there were a lot of expectations on you to be great, and it was too much pressure. That was your IQ back then. I have been told by a child psychologist that it changes as you grow.

I've got a child with a high IQ and deficiencies in social skills , but I just let him do what makes him happy. He's planning on university (engineering), but I don't pressure him about it. He doesn't care to have friends over or hang out. He does play a couple of sports and that is social enough for him.

The social stuff isn't mandatory. Don't look at it as stuff you're "supposed to" be doing. You need to think about what makes you happy, and do it. try joining a club or something to meet more people with your interests.

There are lots of idiots on facebook posting 1000 pics of themselves partying who aren't any happier than you, they just want you to believe it. I also find it amusing that these same people have 4523 "friends".

 

A French girl once told me, "Don't worry about other people"...I found this very useful advice.

 

i think you'd benefit by living somewhere other than the US for a couple of years. move out to halifax, nova scotia and it will make you realize that other people are awesome.

 

I could easily see myself in your situation but luck favored me with athletic ability, good looks, and height, which has allowed me to progress throughout life in a relatively normal fashion. I’m not bragging I’m just stating fact.

Every time I feel I’m about to regress I’m propped up by some unseen force, I’ll get a promotion or raise when I need it the most, or I’ll meet some girl when I’m in desperate need of companionship, something always happens to reaffirm my faith in this life, otherwise I could see myself feeling as you do.

I think what you need is an outlet for your emotions which I find by playing basketball. Every shot, every hoop, every dunk, gives me a feeling of power, and after a couple of hours of running up & down the court every problem I have seems smaller than it did before



Hotwater

 

why would that piss them off? it's pretty much what i did and most of my teachers seemed to love me.

 

really??...do you hate pressed rat or something?

east coasters (newfies excluded) are the most annoying people ever...always waving and saying hello...always wanting to have conversations when youre busy...and everyone pretends they know each other..its sooooooooooooooo annoying..and they always talk about the weather

 

not a genius but smart enough

not the most confident person but confident enough.

my life is perfectly fine.

 

We all waste at least part of our lives floppin' around and trying to figure out where lies our path to happiness and contentment in this sometimes beautiful and sometimes horrendous journey through life we've been given. It's a gift,Rat. It's a real gift just to have been lucky enough to BE. It doesn't last long--many of us here that are on the downside of life can attest to it. Is it possible to change the course of ones life by changing the mundane ,everyday trajectory/habits of what seems like a useless existance? I think so. Maybe start doing things you've never done before. Walk the Pacific Trail with a backpack. Go to Europe. Volunteer somewhere where there are people that have serious issues. Learn to sail. Work out several times a week. Just change up your routines and for your peace of mind--DROP THE POLITICS FOR AWHILE. We cannot do much except realize --yes--many,many people really are dumb as hell. Conversly many are smart,funny and worthwhile knowing. It is what it is and you shouldn't take so much of it on yourself. I don't know,man--maybe quit that fricken job that's bugging you. Probably haven't helped you--but I hope so. DO IT. DO IT NOW!!

 

As you can see, MANY people can relate. You're not so much on the outside as you think. Dare I say, every mind, if left long enough to its individual self will think the EXACT same way you do.

*There's a famous stick-figures with thought bubbles on the subway meme. Describes this & most people's problems perfectly. Wish I could find it.*


Also, if you are a "smart individual & non-conformist," why are you desperately trying to fit in? Why are you measuring the success of your life by standards set for "normal people?"
Sounds silly to yearn for what you aren't, don't it? Nobody individually fits in anyways, actually. :bulb: Tis a myth. We all can relate.

& your'e a lot more normal than you give yourself credit for anyways. Barely anyone is rolling in the money, super social, not struggling. You only see the surface of others.


Try harder @ your job situation. (if it's bothering you that much)

As for socializing, avoid using your super intelligence to think of something super witty (all the time). Practice just being in the moment with people, whether you're nervous or not. At least then you're ballsing up, and have no doubt that people will appreciate you for being there with them and feed off that energy.

Good luck. Overthinking does not amount to happiness or peace, imo. Find some balance in your life.

You just got negged.

 

You are on the dot, life IS hard.
To be concise, life is what you make it. Though that is infinitely easier said than done.
At least you can take comfort in knowing you're intelligent. Although intelligence is commonly associated with depression, self-criticism, and bitterness which all support the claim that ignorance is bliss.

I don't know if I'm intelligent or not, maybe somewhat, but the only reason I'm not a bitter recluse 100% of the time is thanks to the help of a close intelligent friend.
I know, it's extremely hard to find someone that you are not constantly seeing through the bullshit with, but it is possible. And there are others that I will hang out with not for intellectual stimulation, but just to get out.
I've attempted to deny it many times, believing that I am special in the fact that I don't need others, but as a human being I do.

Whether intelligent or ignorant, having human contact is essential. Go to the library and chat someone up, hell take a fucking pottery class, it'll help I swear. It'll make everything a little less bleak.

Long term as scratcho said, travel. You have the mind to fully appreciate the the world, so utilize it.

I don't know you, so I don't know if this response is suitable. Though I feel where you're coming from, and these are some things that helped me out a little. I doubt I have anywhere near a 159 IQ, but from another human being these are my thoughts.

 

such assholes, always saying hello and offering a helping hand... such pricks.

and they don't pretend they know each other... there aren't really that many people to know out there...

 

You're not hip to some peoples imagination.

 

I know you're a music nut like me PR so you might appreciate this one

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HH0-_c882vU"]Gil Scott-Heron - Lady Day and John Coltrane

I find life hard as well from a mental point of view, I carry along but have trouble being positive.

I think the way forward is, as others have said, to engage more with people socially,
however hard that may be initially. It does pay rewards in the end. As long as you have a basic
standard of living and are not scratching to get by I think the next most important thing is human
interaction and friendship. It can drag you out of yourself and if you have others in your life
who you then care about the focus is not exclusively inward.

Good luck man, and I'm on the same journey

 

i'm assuming you mean this.



i did a google image search for "everyone else is a sheep" and it was right there at the top of the results.

 

Life isn't hard. It's impossible