We have sex once every couple of months!

This is my first relationship, I was 16 when i lost my virginity, and he was 20, I'm now 18, we've been together for a year and three weeks. When we first got together, we would meet at our local park and go to his and hang out, Have sex and all that fun stuff, And four months in to our relationship, I stupidly moved in. (he lives in a studio flat) And as soon as i moved in, we stopped having sex as often as we did, from once maybe twice a week, to every night (excitement of me moving in) then all of a sudden we had no sex for three months straight. I know he hasn't cheated on me because all he does is sit at the computer from the time he wakes up to the time he goes to bed(even a laptop in bed!)
and when i tell him what he's doing, He accuses me of making him the bad guy, When I lay on the bed all day because being stuck in a box for the last year has taken it's toll on my mentle health, but when i say i need to get away he thinks i'm breaking up with him!!
And i spoke to him about the sex thing, and he's all like "it's normal." but i know it's not, and i told him that it wasn't a proper relationship and he's all "you've never been in a relationship, This is a perfectly normal one"

You know what we talk about?! His games. ALL THE TIME! the only time i see his face is when he either gets up to tell me about his game, or to go to the toilet. I even asked him for a hug this morning, And he said that he couldn't be bothered!

now my problem is that i want to break up with him, Cos i'm getting nothing at all out of this, It's just two people sharing a space. but i broke up with im about three weeks ago, but i went back to him. Then i came out of my little bubble i felt i was all happy in, and i feel exactly the same way i did before we broke up!! How do i end this?!

 

That is not the life you want to lead or need to be in. It is killing you mentally and emotionally. He has no time for you so get out and do not go back. There are a lot better people waiting for you out there, dump him and go find some one who truly cares about you. Good Luck.

 

Not everyone wants sex all the time.

 

Purchase A Second Games Console....

Problem Solved...:2thumbsup:



Cheers Glen.

 

I've tried playing the games with him but all we end up doing is fighting becasue he's shouting in my ear about what to do :/

 

my advice would have been try teasing him when he is sitting at the computer, stroke him unzip his pants reach down there while kissing his neck and ears. if you try that a few times and he pushes you away then you werent made for each other. if he lets you play with him then there would still be hope. and if it works he would step away from the chair and move over to the bed.
but it seems like you just want advice on how to break up, and the only advice to that is have somewhere better to go before you leave him for good.

 

my mother's been begging me to move back in with her as she thinks he's not treating me right, So i've got a perfect little farm to go back too and i've tried your suggestion many a time- he chose his game every time!

 

Mmmmmmmm......:troll:



Cheers Glen.

 

He has made his choice now it is your turn.

 

From your posts it sounds like you need to return home to your family. There's many more fish in the sea, go find a fun one that makes you happy.

 

There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.

 

If he's going with the video games over sex...well it's time to move on. Something about that just doesn't seem...well...normal at all !

 

just another rude, arrogant, and mostly selfish 20 year old guy, nothing new about that, all 16 to 21 year old guys are like it these days, and they think the whole world revolves around them and owes them something.

welcome to the "now" generation.

tell him to piss off and pack your bags, your life is doomed if if you stay.

 

Girl, You gotta go!! This is obviously not what you want & you shouldn't be there. All that you have said it just seems like a dead in road. There is a lot that goes into making a happy & healthy relationship & if he doesn't even care to put down the game controller for sex then I see no way he would work on any other parts of it either. You are young & have a lot of options & some where else to live. My advice to you is to pack up your stuff & go back to your parents place. Focus on you for a while & get to know yourself again,what you like. Then find a man that deserves you!!!
Good Luck sweetie

 

maybe he is using her to help pay all the bills.

 

Maybe he came to terms with his homosexuality.