I think I might be a bit of a slut and its upsetting me :(

I'll start off by saying that I am 21 going on 22 years of age. I have only had 2 serious relationships and I have only slept with 7 guys. Also I only lost my virginity when I was 20!

However ever since I lost my virginity with my first proper boyfriend I have become steadily yet increasingly "slutty" ever since in my opinion!

I was quite inexperienced up until I lost my virginity but ever since I lost it I just love having sex so much! I get especially horny and slutty when I am drunk on a night out and don't mind going off with a guy that I find attractive and sleeping with him even if I don't know him!

However I always regret it the next day though and wish I didn't do it! It really frustrates me when I get really horny when Im drunk and have to have sex with a guy that very night. Although I wouldn't have sex with any kind of guy I would have to find them attractive.

I have decided from now on not to sleep with a guy the first time I meet him because No.1 it is slutty to sleep with someone the first time you meet them and No.2 they might just use you for sex after that even you get attached to them which has happened to me a couple of times!!

What I really want to know is am I acting really slutty, just a little slutty or least likely am I overreacting a bit??

 

aren't you just using them for sex when you bang them shortly after meeting them? why is it bad when guys do it to you, but not when you do it to them?

this sounds more like you have a problem with alcohol. if you keep making poor decisions while you're drunk, stop drinking.

that said, there is nothing wrong with being 'slutty', as long as you're comfortable with it and you're using protection.

 

"Slut" is just some stereotypical word some ignorant person came up with.
You may be overreacting a tad; there is nothing wrong with sex, it's a natural, basic instinct.
Enjoy it, just stay safe. Don't get attached to the ones you sleep with right away, at least not at first. Me and my ex did it the first time we met, not really sure if it started things off on the wrong foot or not.

 

The main reason why I wrote this was because I was chatting to a really good looking guy on a dating website. Not bragging or anything but I am a fairly good looking girl just to add! Anyway he was complimenting and all that jazz but he let me know straight away that he just really wanted to have sex with me and that was it!

Straight away I was wary of this because guys that I meet when I am sober I try not to have sex with straight because I like to get to know them first.

Anyway he kept pushing about having sex with me at some stage and he even suggested a day and he kept asking for my number which I kept ignoring and then he started getting really narky with me calling me ugly and all.

Then he quietened down a bit asking if I still wanted to meet him to have sex so I just assumed he was just mad at me and then I kind of started talking dirty to him and I was almost tempted to meet up with him but then he suggested his friend fucking me too so I told him to eff off then!!

He kept pushing for another bit but then he finally gave up and told me I was a dirty slut and that he wouldn't touch off me at all and he was just taking the piss all along! I don't think he was taking the piss, I think he was just mad that I didn't meet up with him but I still feel there is a possibility he might have been testing me so I feel a little down over it and feel I am VERY slutty after that!!

Sorry if that was a very long story but that was the main reason why I decided to put it up but also for the other reasons that I pointed out in my first post!!

Maybe I am overreacting a little bit but I really regret sleeping with guy for the first time and want to try and stop doing it!!

 

don't worry. let's have a talk about this over drinks

 

I hate chicks like this. Your life, your body your fuckin responsibility.

 

that guy wasn't testing you, he was just pissed that you turned him down and he was being a dick

just connect with somebody nice, wait a little bit, then have lots of sex with them on a regular basis

 

Aww.

Look if you really want to take care of being drunk and horny I say invest in sex toys.

Go get tested for STD's right now, ask for a full workup for herpes everything because of your recent risky behavior.

Then focus on your life, job, school. Stuff other than sex.


Pm me if you just want to talk in a supportive but serious context.

 

...especially if you are hot

oh yeah, pm me too! me too!

 

so, where is it that you like to go drinking?

 

eggsprog made a lot of good points, but this is an important one that you need to address OP. Alcohol could be a problem in all this- which is likely a symptom of the problem that leads you to sleep with random men- you need to have some self control.

Also consider- are the sexual impulses deceiving you, or is the guilt? Maybe your guilt is what's misplaced here and needs to be changed. Maybe not... that's your call ultimately. Just consider.

Although going out getting drunk and going on dating sites typically brings you some real keepers, so I'm confused about that part

 

I feel like you are boasting more than looking for help. I think you need to learn to be honest with yourself.

 

They call sluts down here putas. I'm a male slut, or a puto. I love to putiar.

Accept it, embrace it, nourish it. You'll never change. I know I haven't.

 

Well she hasn't pm'd me so she must not have wanted genuine advice. Anyone here who has pm'd me knows I give legit advice and counsel, not cyber.

 

this is exactly why i haven't PMed you.

 

Dem bitches clothes be falling off after a drink.

Old news.

If you can't handle drinking, look at how you're drinking, and if you can't take control of it, stop drinking.

Duh.

 

This really makes me wonder if I even believe in "sluts". I don't think enjoying sex is wrong. However, having sex with random people doesn't settle with me very well. Maybe you show find a sex buddy. Somebody you trust.

 

LOL, legitimate advice over drinks?

 

This is an alcohol issue, not a sex thing. When you drink to the point where you do things that you regret the next day, you're on the road to disaster. You can't consistently practice safe sex while you're drunk out of your fucking mind.

If you still want to sleep around when you're sober, that's a lifestyle choice. Get the drinking under control first, then go from there, and see how you feel about promiscuity. Good luck.

 

Sounds like booze is the problem and you not being able to handle it well at all. Do something about it. Someday you might just find that one guy and then when you go out and get drunk do something stupid with someone else. If that one guy is anything like me he will not let you use the drinking as an excuse for your mistake and will boot you to the side which in my mind you would deserve. If you can't handle something don't do it.

You also sound super insecure if you are willing to think about getting together with some guy online that is cutting you down one minute and wanting you the next. You don't think you can do better then that?