I never knew the clinical definition of "Premature Ejaculation" and had no idea that it applied to me until I was almost 30. Ever since I lost my virginity (at age 19), the longest I've ever been able to fuck non-stop has never been more than about 5 minutes, and typically it's less than 2 before I cum. None of my partners ever complained, but they were all virgins when they met me so they never had any other "data points" for comparison. The only other guys I'd ever watched fuck were porn stars and I always just kind of assumed that they were sexual freaks, for being able to last as long as they could. It wasn't until I'd been married for 6 years and my wife and I began a 6-month long threesome with a male friend that I found out differently. He could go on for 10-15 minutes, every time, without really even cracking a sweat. Consequently, my sexual self-confidence has pretty much sucked ever since (and that was over 25 years ago.)
There are things you can do about that, or to work around it. It's sad that you've lived with low self-esteem because of it for so long.
There are many things you can do. Most involve using your hands, your mouth, and toys. No reason to feel inferior when you have so many other tools besides your penis. Seriously, your dick is there for two things, reproduction and your personal enjoyment. It is not a necessary tool in satisfying your lover. So what if actual vaginal sex lasts two minutes, foreplay can last hours! A man's real skill lies in how well he uses his WHOLE body, not just his dick.
Understood, and I already think I'm a pretty good lover with my hands and mouth. However... I want to be able to last longer for a couple of reasons. First, although she'd never admit it to me, I'm sure my wife would like it if I could last at least 5-10 minutes (instead of my usual 2-3.) I say this because we were in a threesome for about six months (a little over 25 years ago) with a male friend. When he fucked her, he'd typically last for 10-15 minutes and she really seemed to enjoy herself. (Of course, a good part of that was probably just being fucked by another guy while her husband watched, but still...) Second, I want it for ME. I like all aspects of sex, but vaginal intercourse beats everything else hands down. I love the feel of stroking in a nice tight, but well-lubbed pussy and hate that I get so little time there before I cum. So, yes, I have alternate means at my disposal overall, but that's not what I'm missing. (BTW, I have a prescription for Cialis and it works fairly well, but it only lasts for 2-3 days, tops. The stuff is just too damn expensive to me to use all the time, so that's not really an option either.)
To bad that the medication is to expensive... Don't worry about your first reason, but your second reason... Well, can't help you there. But I would like to ask you, can you get it up again within an hour of cumming? If so, you should last longer your second time around. Maybe masturbate before you have sex... I know not everyone can actually get it up after coming though, so that might not help you.
Unfortunately, that's not an option either. Currently, once I cum, I'm done for the night. Now, I'm also overweight (but am presently shedding pounds at a pretty good rate.) I know that excess weight adversely affects performance and am hoping this will help. Unfortunately, I've had this problem a lot longer than I've been carrying the extra weight, so I'm not terribly optimistic.
One cum and your done... Well, that is the case for most guys, even young ones like me. If I'm exceptionally horny I'd be able to cum twice in a night masturbating, but I'm guessing you don't need it as hard to masturbate as you do to get it in a vagina. I'm a virgin so I wouldn't know...
It hasn't always been like this for me. I'm in my mid-50s now, but when I was 29, I once fucked my wife five times in a single 12-hour period, and I came all five times! Since then, my performance has greatly diminished, due to age, weight gain, and a variety of medications (hypertension, bipolar, type II diabetes.) It all adds up (or down, in this case.)
the most common way with a normal PE is how long can you last afterwards, meaning you jack off and then when you jack off again you can last longer. I use it sometimes and I get a good twenty and if i really try hard sometimes it goes thirty five i suffered from ED before I taught my dick with lube and a fake vag not to peter out from lack of stimulation. I no there must be good PE I would search online, if unsuccessfully I would find a sex therapist; life to short for unsatisfying sex. good luck! exercise is a great first step, eating well, yoga, stretching, are all great for the penis
