i don't feel pleasure when recieving oral

Am I invisible or are people talking over me?

 

No we see your posts. The OP responded to you, and said she was not on any medications, did you see her post?

Your other post, had no questions in it. It was just a statement so nobody needed to reply.

 

Oh, this is a girl, definitely.

 

no, no. it's better when they can take their teeth out cos then their tongue's longer!

(I speak as an experienced toothless cunning linguist.)

 

Oh, yes. I have whiskers too!

 

Hi, How do you get on stimulating your own clitoris with fingers or toys? In my (limited?) experience all women are different and a guy needs to adjust to the individual.

 

I've found the same. During foreplay when I move to stimulate the clitoris I've found there's no one best way to do it, so I just place her hand on mine & get her to direct my hand to to action she responds to best. Some like the 1st 2 fingers circling the clitoral hood - others like the whole palm to do it. Others like to get the index fingers lubricated with the vaginal fluids, and then stimulate the clitorais directly. Some like combinations of them all whereas others are very particular about which method is used.

 

Well when he does it with his fingers and palm and goes all out it feels awesome, but not with his mouth... its weird cuz I feel and see him go all out with his mouth too, its obvious he knows what he's doing but I don't feel pleasure... its just licking, sucking and stuff that I feel... idk how to explain it, but id rather have him use his hand than his mouth

 

Interesting thread. I actually came to this forum to start a thread asking how common it is for women not to like oral sex. I'll just follow this thread for now to see how the women respond.

I'm interested in the topic because my girlfriend often doesn't want for me to go down on her. As for me, I'd rather eat pussy than breathe!

Okay, some background. First off, I know what I'm doing, that's not the problem. Secondly, she's never had an orgasm, not with me, not with anyone. She really enjoys straight fucking, and also enjoys giving head, but going down on her can really be tricky as for as what her response will be.

When she does seem to enjoy it, it's when I'm sticking my tongue inside of her. Stimulating her clit with my tongue seems to have no effect. At other times, she just doesn't want my face down there.

I don't know what the problem is. She's always super clean and fresh, so that can't be the problem.

I'm stumped at this point.

I'm thinking that if I can finally get her to have her first orgasm (oral sex is usually a good way to get to the first one), then she'll really enjoy oral thereafter.

Any ideas?

 

Do you not even feel aroused just looking at him when he's giving you oral?
That should be a great turn on for either males & females to watch their partner giving them oral.

 

Yessss u have NO idea how much it turns me on and how badly I want it to feel amaziiiing cuz he looks like he knows what he's doing, its just fucken weird... I told him to try just his fingers and he went at it and that was awesome, maybe like one of the ppl said, maybe its the pressure?? Idk I shoved his faced harder down and he was all over it, it looked awesome but id rather have his fingers..... hmmm

 

Well I've reached orgasm by myself and his finger action but for some reason his mouth doesn't take me there, sounds like me and ur gf have the same problem

 

Mental block. What else could it be,given that you are the same as most other women. If you are not the same ,that's another deal.

 

Well, she cleared something up for me last night. She told me that it's not that she doesn't enjoy oral sex, she said the problem is that she gets so excited so quickly that she wants me to stop and fuck her.

I went down on her last night and she was totally into it. I suspect that what's happening is that since she's never had an orgasm, she doesn't know how to interpret what she's feeling. When the feelings get really powerful, she stops me and pulls me into her.

I'm thinking I need to have the willpower to say "no, just relax and let me continue to play". Eventually she'll have her first orgasm. She's sizzlin' hot right now, loves to fuck. I can hardly imagine how the girl will be once she discovers the pleasure of the big O.

 

back in my teens, when i started being sexually active, i was sooooo self concious about what my 'parts' looked like down there, and was always very nervous about what a guy would think about what i looked like. gotta love the insecure teenage years, lol.

so yeah, i never felt pleasured by oral sex before my early 20's, too pre-occupied with 'omg, does he think my pussy is normal looking?'. once i started to let go of those insecurities and just allow myself to let loose and enjoy, i thoroughly love getting oral (as long as the giver knows what they are doing, lol). that could be the case of these girls that don't enjoy receiving oral - a guy's eyes are mighty close to the mouth, and if the mouth is right there, the eyes are right there too.

 

I don't know what to say. That's unfortunate?
Maybe just experiment some more? It could just be the guys who are inexperienced.

 

I'm not insecure so that can't be it

 

Bullshit. Not every woman is aroused by oral sex, and there's nothing wrong with that. I find it fun for a few minutes, but I get bored with it fairly quickly. Direct clitoral stimulation is too intense to feel sexually pleasurable to me; I need indirect stimulation to orgasm. Oral sex to me feels about as pleasurable as a good backrub, and about as sexual... and that's IF my partner is good at it. Most guys focus way too much on my clit, and that's just way way WAYYYY too much stimulation. Total nerve overload.

 

That could work, but don't be too disappointed if she doesn't. My first boyfriend thought the same thing, which ultimately led to total frustration on both our parts. I was orgasming from all kinds of things decades before I had my first... and so far, only... orgasm from oral sex.

The best way for her to learn to orgasm is to first learn to masturbate to orgasm, and then she can bring that knowledge into having sex with a partner.

 

Yeah, it's not your deal. Not everyone gets off on that kind of thing. I enjoy it, but I don't really get anything OMGSUPERSENSATIONZ! out of it.