spicing up the sex life in a relationship...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3.5 years...things are not stale by any means, but I noticed things are getting a bit routine. Can anyone give me suggestions on what they and their partner do for fun? Get as kinky as you like!


Thanks!

 

Dressups. From simple stuff like fishnets and racy lingerie to full-on uniforms.

Role play, usually in conjunction with dressups. Sounds corny but is lots of fun.

Do it in a different location. The backyard, the laundry or the car.

Porn (if both are comfortable) and act out what the movie is showing.

 

Thanks for your response! I forgot to mention, we love oral, we have tred anal once and liked it, he does a lot off ass play with me, we love watching porn together, he loves when I ride his face, or let's him eat me out from behind, he loves watching me masturbate..etc... And I dress up for him regularly... Maybe I was looking for more specifc items and ideas we could do?

 

With that menu I think you could give advice to most people....

I can't help with specifics, other than maybe looking at fetish sites (fetlife is one).

Happy screwing!

 

firstly, you dont mention a lot about the things you already get up to during your time together, so more info would be helpful.

i will firstly suggest that you and your partner go visit a good adult sex shop and get a set of good quality hand/feet restraints (with velcro straps) so you can attach them to the bed and use to restrain each other, because these things can certainly, and instantly, open up a whole new set of games you can play on each other.

then while your there, throw in some other toys that takes your fancy, just to spice things up.

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then next i absolutely suggest that you go buy a 1 litre tub of Nuru Gel (standard is the best one) and a plasic/vinyl type blow up mattress and start doing some Nuru Massages, because i can tell you, a nuru massage would definately turn your sex life on its head if it is a bit on the boring side.

im not sure where you live, but we buy our nuru gel from a lady who sells it here in australia.

http://nurugelmassage.com.au/

the mattress can be bought at any good retail outlet very cheap, similar to the one in the following link.

http://nurugelmassage.com.au/how-to-give-a-nuru-massage.html

 

Hi,dear!

3,5 years is nothing... Are you committed into a long term relationship or it is just a somehow loose relationship?

Okey, in both cases, some questions...

- is your life equilibrated and satisfactory in other planes? do you both have an own space, friends, hobbies, and/or sport activities? let this balance and peace of spirit fill your live and only after that, go and enjoy your partner! Maybe do you need sometimes some support from him... go and request it!

- Don't know if it's the case, but don't spend your time together at the coach, and then expect things not getting routine..

- do you travel together? do you surprise him or does he surprises you with a nice dinner or do you really enjoy spending big time together.... then just let your sexual drive come up to light, set up your mind...do things to feel horny youself and surprise him when he doesn't expect it! I'm sure he'll keep your pace!

- do you love him? If so, make sure he gets the message often, clear and loud! And then just make love to him! let tons of light, or openspaces surround you when you make love after telling him you love him!

- do you think you can take an active role in sex? Myself I feel very aroused by a woman that can take an active role just as a man would do and dominate him a little bit!

- Do you really know his intimate desires? his fantasies? are you ready/willing to hear him? You may hear him and then play the cat and mouse with that fantasies desires, just explore him and let him explore yours but with a bit of mistery.... be active but little bit enigmatic... reserve some of yourself, some secrets, some fantasies, some surprises for future times.. keep him horny with what he can get, but had to win the right to!

Yeah! I also love sex.... all sides of sex... and i this is what i would want from my wife after 20 years of relationship and 2 kids! Please someone go and tell her

A big Hug!

 

And finally...take it easy! You can not expect everyday to be the best time ever! you have been together beyond the 3 years... do you have anything new, some change in your live that you're heading to? Absence of projects can make the best things, if repeated everyday, look boring and routine!

A big Hug