I've been with my gf 4 years or so now and we moved in together a year ago after a reasonably long distance relationship. And it's been downhill from then on. She says I don't appreciate her, take her for granted, make her feel invisible never think of her and what she might be feeling. She says she's living my life. I'm a Mum of two little boys and I work full time, she works from home freelance. She moved up to be with me but says she hates where we live, she hates the house, she has no one to talk to, I don't show her any love... Now till about 4/5 months ago I thought all was ticketyboo until she suddenly says that's it I'm leaving I pleaded with her to stay and we tried to sort things out. Trouble is I really really don't understand what she wants from me. I love her, I tell her I love her, I do the odd little thing (she is far more romantic and passionate than me so she does more for me). I live to a rigid schedule with school and work. I don't know how to change, I simply do not know how to solve this. I'm so very very lost. The crunch came about a month ago when I told her I don't know how I feel about her anymore because of what's been happening - she says I haven't loved her since she moved in (which is bs). She keeps dredging up things that have been said and done. we go round and round in circles. Last week she left, but we're still talking and she says she still loves me. I'm in a complete spin. I think I want her back, my heart aches but when we speak she's so cold and I don't know how to show her I mean what i say. Help, it's such a mess.
Seems like the Reality of an actual everyday face to face relationship has hit yall kinda hard. Its easy to do the long distance things because your not with each other every minute , and not seeing each other during bad or boring moments. Just keep talking , and stay friends , and if its meant to be , yall will get together and stick it out.....good luck , and keep us posted.
