Polyamory

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by bibearman, Oct 13, 2012.

  1. bibearman

    bibearman Member

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    Have any of you had a polyamory relationship? I have been invited to join a husband and wife in Nebraska for just such a relationship. I have heard more and more about them ever since.
     
  2. Aerianne

    Aerianne Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    They can be very nice if everyone is loving and mature. Be sure to lay ground rules in advance. No one should have any reservations or jealousy.

    I recommend reading "The Ethical Slut". It's a book full of very helpful suggestions on how to negotiate these relationships.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut
     
  3. bibearman

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    They have been in poly relationships in their pasts, so they have filled me in and have invited me in. I would really like to join them, but for the time being am tied to where I am until divorce is final. I t really sounds like something that would interest me though.
     
  4. bibearman

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    They have filled me in on a lot of this, and sent me various links to things on the web.
     
  5. Irresponsible Hermit

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    Please clue me up a little more ... Are we talking about you moving in with these people ... rather than being invited to form an occasional threesome?
     
  6. bibearman

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    I had started emailing the wife, and she cleared it with her husband to keep going with me, since then the three of us have continued emailing, sent pics of each other, etc. I would go down there to them in Nebraska and stay with them for awhile at least, and see where things went from there.
     
  7. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    Open relationships? Yes, I have. Two.

    A threesome? Yes, I have. One.

    A bunch of lovie-dovies living in the same house and getting into each other`s business? Not interested.
     
  8. Irresponsible Hermit

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    so if yr going to "... see where things went from there" you have no clear goal, right?

    and 'polyamory' centres on notions of 'love', right? yet I can't see you've mentioned 'love' in the things you say.

    so, seems to me there is little or no basis for enduring relationships here ...
     
  9. bibearman

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    Ooooh, you're harsh :) As I have said, we have not met in person, can you truly love someone that you have never even met? I don't know. I would have no clear goal, that's true. I actually probably will not even stop there when I leave here for good on my way back home to New England.
     
  10. Irresponsible Hermit

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    not harsh, I think ... it's just that if life's a journey this looks like a short detour ... Cheers!
     

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