Would / Have You Hug A Stranger In This Situation?

You are at work or elsewhere & a total stranger of the opposite or same sex looks to be crying or depressed: Do you go up to them & ask if they would like a hug or ask them if they want just to chat or do you just ignore them totally?
I would & have given a few hugs to a stranger's when I have seen them in an upsetted way. It was appreciated that someone showed them some compassion / attention / care . One of them had gone thru a recent NZ disaster & had lost her home thru a large earthquake. Their looks & age & appearance are not important, it's the way you show you care.

 

Sometimes. Other times, if they look like they need more help than I can give, I offer to call someone for them.

 

yes, I helped a girl traveling alone in Guatemala and she was lost and it was getting dark. She was crying and I took her to a cafe and bought her a coffee and helped her find a hotel and helper her find other people that spoke German (I don't speak German). She wrote me an e-mail later and thanked me. It was a good feeling

 

One time this old man was really upset so I gave him a hug, but he turned out to be a dirty old creeper so I kicked him in the dick.

 

Guys, If you gave a stranger (female) a hug because she was crying or was in a similar looking appearance - what would you do if she made romantic advances towards you (kisses you) if you were married or not?

 

I knew it wouldn't last...

 

Some couples have met in this situation thou. I met a woman (a stranger) aged about 60 last year & she hugged me for my caring words I had said to her & she kissed me on the side of my face but that was her showing me her feelings. She had gone thru hell in recent times & just wanted to show her appreciation - in her own way.
I do have emotional feelings I do show or feel towards people in different ways that are not always sexual in any form. I just show them in one way or another.

 

You saw my reply right? :sunny:

 

Sometimes you don't exactly know how a person will react if you hug them or touch them physically - not sexaully . Some may just want to talk - other's like a hug as well.
You apologise if they think you are going too far & they tell you in one way or another.
We all show our own types of personalities & feelings in ways others don't expect & they are either aggreeable or see otherwise. Some of my very friendly co workers & I give each other brief hugs or touch each other in other physical ways but only because we like each other for different reasons or flirt jokingly just to have a bit of fun at times.

 

i would ask them if they needed help..maybe offer my cell phone

then id stick around at a comfortable distance and keep watch so some creep doesnt come around and try to take advantage of their situation/emotional state


but if they looked crazy or like someone who just wanted attention id keep walking right on by

 

Touch is important. Touch is healing. Touch is therapeutic. That's why it's good for people who live alone to have pets.

 

Yeah true, but only if they ask for a hug or you offer them one & they accept, then thats fine. You just do what they need the most - stay & comfort them or they tell you to leave in one way or another or ask you to stay a certain distance away?
Sometimes it's nice to be needed or try to help someone. We are only human!

 

You can touch someone emotionally too not just physically.

I read this poem - years ago:

Walk beside me & I'll be your friend, follow me & I will lead you, walk away & I will (?)

 

I've had people reach out to me when I've been upset in I SO appreciated it. If the person were alone, and in a setting where we could be private, yes I would like to think I'd ask and show some compassion.

 

Yeah but context is also really important as well.

Having some background information on someone's culture, will hint at what you should do to not cross an inappropriate line of behavior when trying to comfort someone.

Also I advise not randomly hugging someone they might have an aversion to the sense of touch, and it would not be soothing to them. (Possibly autistic in those cases)

 

I've given people hugs in situations like this. But not always.

Based on my experience, giving a stranger a clean handkerchief gets better results than offering a hug.

 

These days it's just too risky. The slightest approach, innocent or otherwise, & you could find yourself on a lawsuit for Sexual Assault.

 

Classy, I like it. Just gotta make sure the handkerchief you give em is clean though otherwise it's going to backfire.

 

Sometimes, nzmale, i wonder how you have survived to the age you have....

 

For some reason the word "work" sticks out to me. When Mom died I went back to work after a week off. I was OK for the most part and was able to concentrate on the work at hand and discuss work issues with people but if anyone asked me how I was doing, I would just crumble. Then I would have to go off to the ladies room and try to pull myself back together and get back to my office.

I hear what you are saying but I think the situation is also a factor. Someone at work cannot just get up and leave the situation if they need to. In other situations I can certainly see doing this.