We have only known each other a week and this guy REALLY likes me already???

Ok first off I met this guy off a sort of dating site, well it was more like BEBO to be honest lol!

So anyway he drove over an hour to my place to meet up for the first time. It turns out we get on great together and he is so funny and cute! Plus he never stops complimenting me!

We met up again a couple of days later. He collected me at the bus station and dropped me back to my place where I go to college which is about an hour away. We met up again a couple of days later to go to the cinema because he couldn't wait until the weekend to see me again!

He is always texting me and we have great conversations. He even proposed to buy me a new phone when I told him my phone keeps acting up!

I do like him but I think he likes me WAY more. The only reason I am saying this is because we have only known each other for just a week and he is really touchy feely and loved up with me already. He keeps saying he really likes me!

And now for the reasons why I am holding back from really liking him instead of just liking him........

He is 29 and I am 21 and.......he has 3 kids from a previous 7 year relationship to a woman whom he never really got on with and only stayed with her for the kids sake.

The ex doesn't bother me at all, its the fact that I have never had any experience with dating a man who has kids. Also I am wary about telling my parents if things start to get more serious just because I don't really know what they would think of it.

But back to my main question connected with the extra baggage, is he coming on too strong in such a short space of time??

Is it to do with the fact that he is 29 and he wants to find a girlfriend sooner rather than later???

Or does he just really and truely like me and is just showing me how much he likes me???

 

I guess you need to investigate further.

 

I think he probably is really excited about you

 

Without being there first hand it is pretty hard to say what the deal is with if he really likes you that much or if he just likes the fact of having another girlfriend. As far as the age difference who cares. This is not a big deal. You are both adults. As far as the kids thing as long as he is not pushing them on you and expecting you to be there new mommy then I don't see this being that big of a deal either. People have pasts and children should never be considered baggage.

I am speaking from the point of view of a 41 year old man with two kids from a past marriage that is living with a 28 year old woman in the best relationship either one of us has ever had. It should not be about the person he was before, but the person he is now with you.

 

Thank you for your great comment!!

Anyway he did tell me he is looking for a girlfriend and not just a fling! However he said it has to be with someone he gets on well with and then he turns and smiles at me!

The only reason I asked was he coming on a bit too strong too soon was because when I told someone he proposed buying me a new phone, they thought that was a bit strange!

But maybe it isn't strange, if you really like someone you would do anything for them!!

 

Run.

 

This.

People who rush a capital "R" relationship are control freaks, at best, and possibly seriously disordered. He's known you a week, FFS. Once he's got you where he wants you, he'll turn psycho. Guaranteed.

 

Exaggeration much??

I think I would know if a person is seriously disordered even if I have only met them for the first time......

 

He is going overboard way too soon. If his intentions are for your well being, it would not be going like this. Your instinct is to come here and ask the question. Follow it.

 

Ummm they're just telling you their opinion...which is basically what you asked for.

I don't think it's not normal to offer to buy a new phone for a person you met only recently, no matter how much you like them.
That and the three kids part would really put me off.

 

Nope. You think wrong. Whether or not this guy is or not isn't known, but the crazy doesn't always come out right away.

At the very least this guy is clingy and smothering. At least his behavior this early on is pointing that way. Some people dig that though

 

I don't know, because I don't know this guy and maybe he is crazy, clingy and controlling, but maybe he is not those things. Might be that he is an affectionite guy that feels like he has finally found that someone that is for him miss right and he is doing whatever he can to show that he is feeling that way. This can happen after someone has came out of being in a not so great relationship with someone who was not the person that was right for them. If he is not giving you enough space then just tell him nicely that it is moving to fast and you would like it to slow down a bit. If he is a good guy he will respect that and back off a bit.

 

That is why Love can be a gamble. Good luck with your bet OP

 

Yes he is over a year out of a 7 year relationship with a woman whom he did not get on with. This is what he told me anyway. He tried to make it work because of the kids

So maybe thats why he is being overly affectionate and proposing to buy me a new phone even though he hasn't brought that up since so maybe he was just saying that to be nice!

Anyway when he came to my place yesterday and he knocked my phone off the couch by accident and I passed a comment saying I really have to buy a new phone and he didn't say anything!

Because I will admit that would have a been a bit too much if he had actually ended up buying me the phone!

He might be showing his affection towards me very strongly but he is not a creep by any means. And I have come to the conclusion that we have very similar personalities. We also have similar interests.

And he doesn't put pressure on me either because he always asks me just before he leaves so do you want to see me again, he doesn't just assume I want to see him again!