Positions and Practicalities!

Hi, I'm a newly Bi woman, I have been with women for the last 17 years and not had sex with a man since I was 24. I recently met someone and am hoping it will turn out to be more than a one night stand. However, I am feeling totally clueless about straight sex! I'm not too worried about him, I will pick stuff up again as I go along, it's MY orgasm that freaking me out a bit. I am not at all interested in having sex and not coming - working on past experiences, it's probably one of the reasons why I've not been into straight sex for 17 years - not a slur on all men, just the ones I've been with!

The only way I have ever had an orgasm with a man is by touching myself whilst being fucked, no man has ever made me come by just fucking or even by touching me himself. However, there is quite a big problem with this new guy, he doesn't seem to like me touching myself and I stopped him from touching me this time as I started to get anxious that it wouldn't happen - big turn off. Also we don't speak the same language so communication is very difficult - I suspect there may be some cultural differences about what's acceptable and what's not - I tried to get him to finger fuck me at one point and he was having none of it.

My last straight relationship was not great and we didn't really have sex that much so really my straight sexual experience is stuck in my teenage years and is pretty limited. I would really like to learn how to come from just being fucked or, as he seems to want to do it all himself, I want to know how easy is it for you guys to touch a woman and make her come whilst fucking face to face? I don't really like getting it from behind as I prefer the intimacy of front to front. I've fucked women in loads of different ways and I know how difficult it is to co-ordinate a strap-on and hands from the front, you kind of get left with the thumb and it's a bit clumsy, it's ok if you're slow but it's difficult to be precise enough when you're really going at it! I want to encourage him to do it but feel really nervous about showing my inexperience if I try to get him to do something that 'not done'!

So women, which face to face positions get good clitoral stimulation - enough for orgasm? Again, the strap-on experience is not a great teacher for me as I've always just touched myself and in any case, there's the whole bits of leather and rings etc etc - different beast. Also, would it be easier if I wax? If yes, is it hollywood or is brazilian ok? - I don't really want to be completely bare.

Also, another newbie question - I'm used to sex lasting a really long time, how long can one realistically expect to get fucked by a man for, say the second time around? Ha ha.....

Thanks everyone!

 

if this is the kind of situation you tend to get yourself into, no wonder you went lesbian.

 

^^ I agree with the donkey. I love it when my partner gets herself off while I'm inside her. I simply don't understand why men impose these restrictions on women, and why women seem to accept them.

OP, it's YOUR orgasm. Have it how you choose.

 

Well, thanks for the support guys. BTW, there's no such thing as 'going' lesbian - homophobe.

 

oh, you didn't actually want advice. sorry, i didn't realize you were one of them at first.


i think this is what you're looking for: dont wory! it wil b grate! theirs no way nething will evar go rong wit dis! yul b happy wit him 4 evar! i luv u!

 

You are not alone.
You would be surprised at how many women, when having penetrative sex, to achieve orgasm need to finish it themselves.
The sex gets you to that beautiful plateau, but a personal twiddle is necessary to get you over.

It's no reflection on you or your partner.
Like you, I've never orgasmed by penetration alone; I have to touch myself. I know other women who do the same.
I would think it is more common than you know.
Don't worry. just enjoy the new experiences that have opened up for you.

As to your other questions - it's much more fun finding out for yourself.

 

Idk I make all the ladies squirt and I can last for 4 hours my dick is 14inches tip to hilt with an impressive 3 inch circumfrance.

 

Your not alone there. I can't orgasm just from penetration alone, and need a little bit of playing with my clitoris to get me over the edge. A guy who knows what he's doing can make it work, but usually if I haven't cum already I play with it myself while he's inside me. Position wise missionary is easiest. Not very creative of me I know, but it works, and allows me to concentrate on the sensation, which allows me to orgasm