How many of you had have 'experiences' with best friends

Hi

I have been reading lots of forums (here and elsewhere) and there seem to be so many examples/experiences of women (gay/bi/otherwise!) who have ended up having a thing with their so called straight best friend.

Just wondering..I keep falling for my female friends (I have never had any experience of being with a woman but keep falling for my friends). I have never had anything come of it but am still hopeful.

I am currently madly in love with my straight best friend (who incidentally) thinks I am 100% straight (i am married ) I have been 'falling' for women since I was 13 but never had anything come of it..

With my best friend, we are very close, cuddles, hugs, I love you's etc..she is single..but I sometimes think there is something there but as she assumes I am straight..she thinks she is straight but there IS definitely a spark.

Just wondering who has had experiences with their best friends, how did it come about and how did it end up..

Please don't judge me..I am just interested in how your experiences came about and ended..

xxxxx

 

I feel like my giving you advice would be silly - being 18 (Sorry for assuming you're older, if you're not).

I have had some sexual experiences with friends but I had the big crush on my best friend for years - with her having boyfriend after boyfriend.

I finally get over her and she proceeds to get me drunk one night and try to kiss me to, and I quote, "see what it was like". Eugh it makes me mad just thinking about it!

I told her flat out then that I wasn't interested in her any more and to make me think that she WAS interested was just plain unfair. She then gets mad - never having been turned down before.

Straight girls are bitches.

 

^Same thing happened to me. She was the type that would use everyone around her. I got sick of her shit.

 

I've had experiences with two close friends. One being bi and the other "so-called" straight. Bi friend didn't develop into much but the straight friend...we had so much sex in high school. We decided to terminate our sessions since she did have a boyfriend. But with both friends I still remain very close with

 

Well I was the straight friend for the bi woman. Shortly after we met, she went on a slow and subtle at first campaign to seduce me. I had never even looked at a woman before in that way so you could imagine my surprise when I found her head between my legs one night. We had an affair for about 2 years. The sex was great but she was too controlling and wanted to introduce others into the relationship. Then she moved far away. We still hook up a few times a year though. Very hard to say no to her.

 

when i was younger i remember making out with sum of my best friends but remember only what i can remember of sum experiences, for examble one time my best friends mom was babysitten me and we were upstairs in her room and we were making out and hands wondered i think so friday nite was her 21st i haven't seen her in 9 years since we moved towns and as i got dwn to dat village again aka her home we went to the meal and her ex girlfriend walks in i never felt as alkward in my entire life i just wanted the ground to open and swallow me whole , then i literially felt sick at the meal, so we went for drinks her ex gf came to from what i knew and she sat beside the birthday girl and flirted and started touching her and i ammit i was jelous i just wanted to leave at this point but home to me was 3 hours away and u think from the amount of traveling i had to do she would hav at least aknowledged i was their then as we got to hers she was living with a family friend then she lay on the floor and i sat on the sofa watching mrs browns boys smoking a few cigarettes till her lesbian sister cums in with her gf kinda ruined our what could have been our moment i think then as bed time came we went upstairs and me and the birthday girl laided next to eachother so i went into teh restroom to get changed and as the time i got into the bedroom she had already been into the bed then as we lay all i wanted to do was get ontop of ehr and kiss her cause she got a tongue pierceing in and i still was attracted to her so badly i couldn't sleep so i laided waken and we talked the whole night abt our past as kids and as i i couldn't get comfortable i started to feel my tummy and she said what u doin and she pulled dwn the blankets and felt my tummy and then she said feel mine i was like omfggg lol then hers was so flat i wanted to go further dwn but over the blanket went i knew frm the way she was acting she didn't want to have sex with me cause of our friendship but i was laying their and she showed me this picture of this girl she is for meeting the next day i felt then i wasn't their, then as the next day came i had to leave cause my brother got rushed into hosptail i told her i couldn't go to the other town with ehr and her sis cause i had to got tp the hosptail n i think she was upset but what could i do then as her sisters gf asked me what me and the birthday girl got up to last nite she asked did i go with her i said no and bite my lip but she didn't believe me then when the brithday girl came in samantha sniggered to colleen aka the birthdya girl and said did uz and i went upstairs to grab my stuff then as i came bk dwn the brthday girl totally ignored me i felt then i did sumthig wrong and her the one inviteing her ex and making me feel alkward nw no txts at all shes sending me !

 

Yes!! That is how I came to be where I am now. My best friend and I played a game of truth or dare and her husband dared us to make out for 5 min and the rest is history LOL.

 

Yep, I've experienced some friends, imho it kind of ruins the friendship.

 

I had a huge crush on my best friend when I was in high school. It was not really a sexual crush, it was just she was so much fun to spend time with. I just felt like I loved this person for who they were, it didn't matter if they were female or male. I never told her for fear of public humiliation. Later in life though, I came to realize that I enjoyed sex with a female much more than with a man.

 

I lost my virginity to my (straight) friend when I was 16 and she was 15! Most awkward morning ever... but it was amazing in the moment. We were drunk and the next day I had to pretend it didn't mean anything

 

I think that when young, the "Best friend" is often the most advantageous, and easiest outlet for sexual exploration.
It's just reality.

As you get older, I think many people realise that "best friend" is just that, and why complicat things with sex.
There's an old saying about birds not sh****ng" in their own nest.
It's a bit like complicating a great friendship with sex.

When the sex dies - often so does the friendship.
Not for me. Friends - real friends - are far too valuable.

 

My two closest friends are both people who started off as . . . almost girlfriends(?). One, we were basically f*ck buddies and it evolved into a friendship, the other (my roommate) I dated briefly. Her I am actually very much in love with, but I would rather have her as a friend than risk losing her completely, and in time that love will change from romantic to friend/family. My ex, who I was with for 8 years, we started off as friends, a night with some wine turned into 8 years lol

 

My best friend was the one who made me realize and okay with the fact I'm attracted to girls. I was in love with her by the end of it all, and if she had lived closer, I'm 100% positive we would have gotten physical. I ended up "experimenting" with a girl I couldn't stand instead. Damn.

 

I've only ever had experiences with my friends. (I'm bi and they are all straight). It was never awkward after, more just experimenting and it never led to anything more than just a one night thing or occasion session. We never developed feelings for each other in that way so I can't really say anything about the emotional side of things.

I did have a major major crush on a fairly good bi-sexual friend. She would lead me on and flirt with me so much, we shared one kiss which for me was lovely but for her obviously meant nothing as she got a boyfriend not long after and completely cut me off. I was quite upset about that I remember..

 

I've had this weird luck where i would eventually end up hooking up with my girl friends. Mainly the close ones. They were never straight, however.

Now i'm dating my best friend. It's definitely fun thinking about him still being my best friend from time to time.

 

Hello,
I just joined this forum because I am very confused about my best friend. I saw this thread topic, and thought it would be appropriate to post it in here; although, it it not quite exactly the same.
I am very confused about my feelings and my best friend's feelings.
First, my best friend and I are both straight. I have made out with a few girls while I was in college, but I never gave it a 2nd though/and or thought anything about it. She has never 'experimented' before.
Background: We have a very close relationship. I've never been this close to any of my best friends before. We talk everyday from 8am until we go to sleep. We tell each other everything, and I also see her 4-5 days out of the week. She has a boyfriend that she has been dating for the past 6 years, but she recently found out that he was cheating on her. I've been there for her during this entire time, and it pains me to see her upset and hurt. I am also dating someone but it isn't anything serious.

The issue: We make out all the time when we're drunk. At first, it was just being prompted by others. Recently, we have made out a few times while having 'sleepovers' i:e no one else was there. We were always drunk when it happened, but it was more passionate and we always cuddle when we sleep together.

None of this ever was a problem for me until we started making out when no one else was around. It's just a very confusing situation.
1. I don't know how I feel about her. I have strong feelings for her. Part of me thinks that I would date her if I could, but part of me thinks i'm just confusing my feelings of friendship. We might text 100 times in a day, but I don't get butterflies in my stomach. She makes me laugh and I enjoy talking to her, but I don't get 'that' feeling when talking to her.
2. Her boyfriend is not affectionate and she is going through a lot emotionally right now. I know she is probably just clinging to me because she is confused and upset right now. I don't want to read too much into her actions.

Overall, I'm just confused. I'm not really sure if my feelings are more than friendship and same with her. I don't plan on discussing it with her because I don't even know how I feel, and I don't want to ruin our friendship. It's just for the amount we talk and the amount we have made out (maybe 10 times when prompted and 4 times when no one else is around). It's just a lot to digest because I've never felt this way about a girl before.

 

The only way you will ever know is to talk to her. She is your best friend, she will understand. Good Luck !

 

I love that picture with your post. I should quote those words in an altered form to the millions of people who keep asking me why I do not come back to church.

 

Without a doubt, this has never been more common or accepted in America than it is now. I think it's great. Nobody really knows themselves sexually until they try some different things, and it's better to deal with people you trust.

My best female friend has always felt this way. We've done a good bit of passionate kissing and breast fondling many times, but she won't go any further. I'm not convinced that she'll never give in and do everything with me. She knows that I love her and would never intentionally do anything to hurt her, and I know she feels the same way about me.

In this mean, nasty, and dangerous world that we live in, I think that your true friends are the people you should be having sex with. Fortunately, I do have one other old friend (and her husband) who agrees with me. Our experience has been that physical intimacy only makes a friendship better. Sharing orgasms makes those emotional bonds deeper and stronger. If I had my way, I'd sleep with all my friends at least once.

Looking back on my college years, my friends and I should have been fucking each other a lot more than we did, with so much easy access in the dorm, and time on our hands. I don't know what we were thinking. I guess it was mostly just the times we were living in, with all the negative stereotypes of homosexuality in the '80's pop culture, and our fears of getting labeled as more gay than straight. Bad-ass bisexual slut was the label most of us wanted.

You just need to be patient and open-minded. It will take a while for this situation to play itself out. Don't worry so much about labels, and see where this leads. Fortunately, you can enjoy life experiences and grow from them without having to analyze and understand everything about them.

Are you 100% sure that you'll never get a chance to do anything with her? If you're still in touch, you could just say to her that you'll never have a sense of closure until you have that intimate moment with her, one time. If she says no, at least you'll find out if she felt the same way about you back then. Maybe I'm off base here, but it feels to me like there is some unfinished business that's going to bug you forever unless it gets taken care of, one way or another. You don't want to have any regrets when you get old.

If your boyfriend is a typical straight guy, I'm pretty sure he will think this is the best idea ever.

 

Well, she passed away, so pretty sure that's way out of the question. But it would've been totally cool if that wasn't the case! I definitely have regrets and unfortunately will have to live my life out with them, but she knew I loved her, and that's really all that matters to me. 4 years have passed, I have gone through the stages of grief, and am living my life now the fullest I can without her. I'm doing it for her, it's what she would have wanted. Also, I sent her some dirty pictures when I found out she was trying to get my boyfriend to send them to her without me knowing. Hahaha.