finding the right person to share a life with isn't easy. The thought of the commitment and sex turn me on. But i feel really good about it because he mentions it from time to time. That amongst other things reassures me that he's the right guy for me.
Married sex is loaded with baggage. Married sex is boring. Or at least each is a common problem. That, and money arguments.
Mind blowing. I cried it was so beautiful. It was slow and romantic then it was amazing and primal. The best part was him going down while I was still in my dress (which was knee length) then flipping me over and taking it from behind while still in my dress! I agree girl, marital sex is soooo much better! I'm still a newly wed though so I don't have much long term experience to offer! I just know that after the I Do's were said - we felt so much more connected. You just have to find the right person, someone that is on the same page as you. Marriage isn't for everyone, but those of us who love commitment and loyalty, marriage is a beautiful thing.
One of two things will happen for myself and marriage 1. I withhold sex on honeymoon and weeks after to let her know who's the boss (Tony Danza...I can't be married to someone until she recognizes this truth) 2. We don't actually get married, but instead cut ourselves and hold hands before going on a ravenous killing spree like in Natural Born Killers holy shit this is turning me on
If you have no money you have nothing to worry about, and more time for sex less need to go shopping! Sometimes people just like to fight with their spouse, which is BS!
I live with my boyfriend, and we go half on everything we buy, including going out to eat.. and we don't have any join accounts. If we ever do decide to get married i wouldn't want a joint account, And we'd still split everything..
My hubby works in a factory. I've been trying to find a job but haven't had any luck. (Long story.) But he has a checking account. I've asked to be put on it but we never get around to doing it since he works til the banks are closed. We don't fight over money. Not really, we discuss it but we never fight about it. We believe that money doesn't control us. We either have it or we don't. We spend it on what we need to and any left overs go to what we want. It's simple really, people always stress over it and make it a bigger deal that it should be.
Seems like you were programmed at a young age to believe that the 2 must go hand in hand, so now your Natural lust for sex is attached to an unNatural lust for marriage.
I don't think marriage is unnatural. It's very common, in all societies. We all need someone to love and to lean on and to care for, for the rest of our life. That's where loyalty comes in. Some people don't know how to be loyal, either because they didn't have a good role model for loyalty or they are just selfish and want all the sex they can have with multiple people. Which, might I add, we already know leads to the spread of disease. THAT is not natural!
I've been married for 26 years and sex has always been an issue. I have always wanted it, but my wife has never realy seemed to need it. It drives me cazy sometimes. There have been years when we have had sex only twice in tweleve months. I usually have to do things myself, and that's not always fun.
^^this. My ex eventually made me sleep in a separate bed. Soon after, I left. I've been broke and happy ever since. Marriage CAN work out. But it often doesn't. There is a reason there are so many jokes like What food destroys a woman's sex drive? Wedding cake Why does a bride smile as she walks down the aisle? Because she knows she's given her last blow job and so on. Sure, there are exceptions-perhaps many of them- but not the majority, IMHO. Too many married couples don't have great sex. That isn't to say husbands aren't to blame, they often are. Not many men stay in shape or are as sexually attentive as when they were single. That's why there are jokes like Why are single women slim and married women fat? Because a single woman gets home, sees what is in the fridge and goes to bed. A married woman gets home, sees what is in the bed and goes to the fridge.
