The girl at my local take away restaraunt..

Why worry about rejection if she says no? Men ask women out (and vice versa) 1000s of times every day. After breathing, eating, shitting and sex, it's the most natural thing in the world - so why the embarrassment?

Using 'tricks' or fancy chat up lines risk you looking like a right idiot if it all goes wrong. Many women like a confident man, but not an arrogant one - so tread carefully between the two. Why not simply ask her to call or send you a text if she's interested in meeting up? Having ur contact details already available on a piece of paper is quick and simple.

Ask her, slip her the number and wait. Perhaps try and single her out for a special "Hi" for the next few days, then ask her again after say a week. If she says no - move on fella, life is most definitely too short.

However, keep your options open by continuing to acknowledge her when you visit the shop - you never know, she may change her mind, so don't blow it by being embarrassed, avoiding eye contact or ignoring her

Good luck

 

+ rep...Good Advice...:2thumbsup:.



Cheers Glen.

 

thanks for the positive support guys. I appreciate it. In the past year or so ive lost my mojo so just trying to get it back. Normally i wouldnt have to plan it out, Id just ask. Its been a rough few years but like i said.. appreciate your positivity

 

Had a pal who's approach was "Want to get stoned, get naked, and fuck?" He had better than average results......rock musisian in the Haight in the '60s

 

your awesome ranger

 

Good for you, you at least had mojo, I always make such a big deal about simple thing like asking girl out. I told myself hundred of times: " Be a man, go there and JUST ASK HER. Probably the worst thing that could happen is her negative response. So what, simple no won't kill you." And I usually overthink it and almost every time my conclusion is that she will reject me, so , why bother.
My losers logic won't take me anywhere. I sure hope you'll be smarter. Put smile on your face and simply ask her.

 

"Your always serving me, why don't we switch it up for a change?" And then make her food. Its cheaper and more romantic then a date out and physically making food for her says a hell of a lot more then paying someone else too.

 

At the risk of sounding like a "me too", could you PM your trick to "me too"?

 

I WILL SAY THIS since no one pointed it out. cuz i understand from knowing cool/hot ass bartender chicks and waitresses.

they are there to make money, and flirting w/ you or other guyz, or seeming very people person like is their job. that is how,, they make their money.
but hey ya never know

 

I have the same problem but there's an additional complication: I'm married and the ring is kind of a dead give-away. I'm not about to take my ring off and hide the fact, as they'd eventually find out and probably feel like I tried to lie to them. Still, as I said, it's a complication.

How do I approach another women, tell her I think she's hot, and I'd like to get together with her and fuck?

(BTW, my wife is totally OK with this.)

 

don't you think telling her that you want to get together and fuck sounds too old-fashioned and mushy-romantic?

what you should do is scream "BITCH I'M GONNA FUCK YOU NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and then rip her clothes off

 

Besides the other good advice given here may I suggest paying her a compliment as the ice breaker? Girls love compliments. Maintain good eye contact the last thing you wanna come of as is a creeper. Idk man good luck!

 

yeah, but most women can't tell the difference.

 

First of all I'd suggest you check (preferably with her, rather than with any of her colleagues) if she already has a partner. By asking her this, you are, at least, letting her know that you are interested in taking things further (if she has, then you know not to waste any more time on trying). Then, perhaps, offer to take her out for a meal sometime, where she wouldn't have to be doing the serving for once (a touch of the light hearted). Then take things from there.

 

Absenth, the paying her a compliment is a great idea. Thing is, what can i compliment her on? They all wear the same uniform

 

So they look all the same? Duuhhh ....

:willy_nilly:

 

lol i mean, ideas for what type of compliment i should give without sounding too over the top

 

No Offence Mate, But Posters On Here Have Given You Lot's

Of Good Advice....

It's Now Up To YOU To Sift Through The Replies, And Make Up Your Own

Mind On How You Are Going To Approach Her.

I Wish You Well....



Cheers Glen.

 

Eyes. Hair.

 

Yeah, there's only so far we can go with advice.

Otherwise you'll sound scripted, and girls can totally tell and you come off as fake.

You don't want to get stuck in the originality paradox when flirting.

Lots of the most successful flirting is improvised based on the unique qualities of the current conversation you get the girl engaged into. Being calm but fun while you interact with a girl or girl(s) sends the message your comfortable and not over idolizing a girl, yet noticing her.