In the passed we tried anal. For both of us. I'm not sure she enjoyed it, but when she was givin me oral and she stuck a finger in my ass and I really liked it. How do I tell her without sounding gay. (no offense).
It is understandable, actually. Women tend to not enjoy anal sex while men do, because men have the prostate while women do not.
tell her you like when she sticks a finger up your ass. just make sure you say "no homo" at the end of it.
It continues to astound me that people associate interest in anal pleasure with necessarily being gay. It isn't so. Some straight men like it when a chick noodles their butt. Some straight women like the same, or like anal penetration from a STRAIGHT man. Being "gay" isn't determined by the sex act, but by the gender of the person you are having sex with. And anyway, being "gay" (or bi, or anything else) is perfectly cool. It's your wife, dude. No point in having secrets from her. Tell her upfront.
yeah the stigma of being "gay" is a real issue here with straight guys who like anal play, and even now after years of being married i still feel a bit guilty asking my wife to go all the way with my anal play during our weekly sessions locked away in our room. she now massages and licks my perineum, rims my anus and will tongue fuck it, and will sometimes finger massage my prostate as part of normal foreplay, and she now allows me to rim her anus as a progression from licking and massaging her perineum as well, but that about it as far as she will allow, tried anal fucking her years ago and it hurt her too much. we recently bought several new strapless strapon dildoes which act as a G-Spot stimulator for her when she inserts the shorter thick bulb part into her pussy, and they have an 8" penis extending from the bulb section that she uses to fuck me with in various positions (the thick bulb part also helps to lock the dildo into place rather than having straps like on a regular strapon dildo) and even tho she is now used to doing this on me, i know she still thinks i must have "gay" tendencies because she still doesnt realize just how orgasmic anal play and anal sex is for me when using these toys, even tho i can actually "cum" by ejaculating a fair amount of sticky clear liquid which to me is like a cross between urine and pre-cum but is not semen, and she is totally amazed by this. yes, i totally agree, my wife thought i was "wierd" when after 14 years married, i finally told her that i wanted my anal area touched during foreplay, and took nearly 8 years to get from just touching my anus to now having full penetration using our new toys, usually i had to buy my own dildo's and use them solo while i had time on my own, and although its was ok, i always wanted this to be something she would actually be involved with. when i was younger (in my early 20's) is when i realized i liked anal play, but there was never any way back then i would have mentioned it to any of my girlfriends, that was certainly taboo where i came from back in those days. just approach the topic with her in a very "around about way" first to guage her reaction, even during foreplay, if she licks your balls, just try to guide her head further south and ask her to lick your "perineum" area between your balls and anus and see what her reaction is, and if that works, there is only one more stop in the southerly direction m8, and the next step is rimming you anus with her tongue, and after that, well the sky is the limit be sure to be clean down there, if you know your going to have a nice session together, have a shower, or a good wash, just so its not unpleasant for her, AND if your inclined, shave yourself down there, i can tell you she will definately enjoy going down on you a whole lot more if its shaved, and i shave my pubes, balls and anal area once a week because my wife loves it that way, and wont put her mouth near my ass while its hairy, its a big no no for her.
