Hi there, I'm new here and I have a problem... I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend for about three months now, and it's been great. We started out as best friends, so basically the laughs and respect is still there, but, I'd like to give him more. He hasn't put any pressure on the fact of us having sex but I'd like to try it. One tiny problem. I'm a virgin and the only thing i know how to do is give handjobs (and it was with with a guy which I have no feelings for, and in my school bathroom...). I wouldn't know where to start... First of all, should I tell him it's my first time? or will I just blow the romance off? Second, what the hell goes on? do we kiss and go straight to sex or should i give him a blowjob, ANOTHER thing which i do not know how to do. Is there some sort of ritual? Kiss, HJ, BJ, and eventually sex? And after that? what happens? do we just lie in bed? not to mention, when should i put the condom on? SOMEONE HELP ME!
Your questions,in my opinion are questions most girls ask themselves prior to taking the next "big" step in proceding with that part of their lives. I don't know that for sure,but it seems logical to me. I guess the women/girls here will be able to give you some answers you need. It's great that these forums are available and that you came here to ask--there are some very smart and caring women here. Good luck.
I would talk to your bf. if you feel comfortable enough to take that next step, then you should feel comfortable talking with him. What happens is different for everyone.
I thought of that, but 1) I thought it would be awkward and kill the romance 2) Maybe I thought it would have been nicer "surprising" him? but I wanted to be prepared!
I think that if you feel the need to talk about it, definetly tell him and just go from there.... you'll have plenty of time to surprise him in the future About the romance thing, you dont have to negotiate the sex right before it happens, just talk to him, figure it out, and then when the time is right it'll just happen naturally....
IF you're ready for the next step, all you have to do is rub him in the right spot (pants on and all) to see if he was waiting for you to open up. Going slow is never a bad thing. If he doesn't have a reaction to that, I'd be wondering if he's going to be a very active sexual partner.
I'm not a guy, but I think he would want to know that you're a virgin before you have sex. That seems like a no-brainer to me. Guys?
he wears the condom, not you. and yes, he should probably know you're a virgin. he probably already does. yeah, but you left out the goat sacrifice.
As a man of god there is a ritual it involves a pint of rum, a cigar, a live rooster, and an ordained minister. I can get the first 2 and the last one. Don't skimp on the rum, and the rooster has to be alive. KFC doesn't work for this shit. Stay Brown, Rev J
