my bf and i have been dating for about 7 months. we werent friends prior to our relationship so it took us a while to get to know each other well and become best friends. however lately.... i feel as if he treats me more as a best friend than a girlfriend. it's not the worst thing but i want a balance of both, and it seems as if he's gotten "too comfortable" with me or something. we still have sex and act affectionate towards each other but a little less so on his part lately. this has caused me to become insecure about myself, mainly my appearance. he's open with who he thinks is hot and admits to wanting to fuck other girls like "most guys" but the urge is not strong and he says that he wouldnt do that to me because it would hurt me and it's not worth it. sometimes we watch porn while we have sex, and at times im okay with it and other times i just feel insecure. i dont care if he finds other people attractive but somedays i tell myself that attractive people are everywhere so why me. i know we get along well and understand each other well but why do i still feel bad despite knowing that it's more than just the physical when it comes to our relationship? what should i do?
Honestly if he treats you like a best firend that is a good thing as long as he is still giving you what you need and want in the bedroom. Yes there are going to be other people out there that both of you might be attracted to and that is normal. It sounds like what you have is way more then just sex and that can only be a good thing. The fact that he respects you enough to treat you like a real person and doesn't want to cheat on you should be enough to tell you that there is way more to it then just sex to him. Being insecure or jealous will only hurt a relationship in the long run and if anything push someone away. Yes there are alot of beautifull people out there, but there is a whole lot more to being beautifull then outside looks.
I have to agree with the above poster. You two have a great relationship. Being attracted to other people is normal. Though it can make you feel insecure and jealous, take comfort in the fact that he is comfortable enough with you to speak the truth about such things. Honesty is a cornerstone in every relationship. Though his truths might hurt sometimes, let it be known you can completely trust him. You should also be able to share what's bothering you. I'm not talking about the attraction stuff. Just tell him to be a little more romantic and affectioniet.
I had these feelings when I was young and newly with my boyfriend who is know my husband of 32 years. What I eventually realized was that he was with me, not anybody else. That he wouldn't have been with me if he didn't want to be. I decided I needed to learn to trust that his intentions toward me were true and give up the bad feelings that I erroneously harboured. It set me free to love and to be loved.
