prostitutes

i hope you dont mind, but i would like to share my story with you people if i may, but its totally up to you if you want to read it or not.

anyway, i have only ever had 2 experiences with prostitutes, 1st is what i know as a typical experience with a prostitute, but the 2nd one i dont think of it as being anything the same, for me it was a love story more than anything else.

anyway, the first time was in sydney in 1987, i was walking the streets, i walked past a sex shop, beside the shop was a door to a staircase going up to the 2nd floor, i went up, and saw all these girls sitting in what looked like a waiting room in a doctors surgery.

i walked in the door to kill my curiosity, and this woman came over to me and offered me a drink, told me sit down and relax, have a chat with the girls, she bought me a beer, asked me to pick one of the girls i wanted, and she would take me to her room.

i actually shit myself, and then it hit me, holy shit this was a massage parlour, so i thought ok a massage wouldnt be so bad, so i picked this real cute asian girl, she took me to a room, asked me to undress and take a shower in the cubicle over in the corner.

when i finished, she had one, she toweled off, i got on the bed lying on my belly (it wasnt a massage table but i was none the wiser) then she told me to lay on my back, she climbed on me and sat on my groin, she slid up and down my groin and got me erect, she leaned over to the side table and got out a condom and put it on my cock, she grabbed a tube of gel, rubbed it on the condom, she sat on my cock, rode me like a buck horse, i came in about 3 minutes, she got off, pulled the condom off, cleaned me up, she grabbed the towels from the shower cubicle, and walked out telling me to get dressed and go pay the other lady on the way out.

that was it, thats exactly how it wend down, very robotic, and it cost me $60, a wank would have been free, and would have felt much better better

the next experience it was very different, i had no idea this girl was a prostitute for about 4 days.

anyway, i was in jakarta on a holiday, staying at a nice motel, went to dinner at the resturant on my own, and there she was, this beautiful (but very tiny) waitress who came to wait on my table, and it was strange because these girls, even tho they were waitresses, were actually dressed in these beautiful, long cherry red satin evening dresses, and during the dinner we struck up a nice friendship and i got her number from her and arranged for her to join me in the night club upstairs after her shift finished at 10pm.

this girl was nice, and we has a few drinks in the night club, we went for a walk, and i took her home in a taxi, that was it, so this just seemed like a normal thing.

i met up with her the next day, we hung out, she went to work again at 5pm, i met her afterwards for a bbq meal down by the beach, i took her home, again no sex, just a nice night out.

for several days we met up and she took me sight seeing out to the islands and other places around jakarta, i even met her family one day for lunch at her parents house.

on the 4th day i picked her up to go out for the day, and she asked me if i could take her to the doctor to pick up a script for something, so that was fine, no big deal, was in there for like 45 minutes, and off we went sight seeing for the day.

that night was her night off work, so we went out to a different resturant for dinner, and that was where it all came out in the open.

she spent an hour telling me all about her job, and what her 2nd income stream was, because these girls are not paid much for waitressing, and it was very difficult for her to do this, especially because she seemed to be enjoying our time together, and i think she looked at me in a different way than she probably did with other guys, and i saw the distress in her eyes.

then, she got out this folded up sheet of paper and showed it to me, and it took me by surprise, it was a health check certificate from her doctor stating that her health status was checked on that day and she was given a clean bill of health.

these girls actually get this done on a regular basis, so that trip to her doctor was for this checkup, but she told me she did it because if something was to happen and we ended up sleeping together, she wanted me to know that she was ok health wise.

she spent the next 3 days with me 24/7 and not because it was her job, she didnt do it for the money, she did it, and i did it, because it was what we both wanted, she was a wonderful person, she was very shy and naive with the sex because she had never had sex any other way, all the sex she had was the "wham bam thank you mam" type stuff with guys who didnt give a shit.

i continued on my travels thru asia for the next 6 weeks, and on the way home i went back to see her, and she was gone, never to be seen again, and i reckon if she was there, i would have continued a relationship with her in some way shape or form.

2 very different scenarios.

 

WOW thats amazing and very sad and touching all in one bubble.....
No telling what happened to her i hope nothing bad

 

thing is, life is what it is, our life is mapped out for us the moment we were created.

if i had of arranged with her a definate plan to return to jakarta on my way home, or if i kept in touch while on the rest of my travels, she may well have been part of my life now, and not my current wife, nor would i have my kids.

i have no idea what happened, her family had moved from their little concrete house on the outskirts of jakarta, no mobiles back then, so nothing could be done.

1 years later exactly i met my now wife in sydney (a filipino girl) and i have typed up my very first thread in this forum all about her, and a few things i wanted some opinions on, as yet i have no replies, maybe people got bored reading my story.

thats life.

 

98% of the "never have, never will" answers are bs. I have, several times. Why? Cause women like playing games and want you to take them out on several dates and act like you give a shit about them when all you BOTH want it to get off. So, I took the cheaper, easier alternative and had safe sex with a gal who needed money for college And by safe, I mean that there was a condom on me from moment one of contact to the very end and I kept all else away from her holes. And yes, I know condoms fail, but you have as much of a chance as banging a girl at a party that has something.....

 

You gotta find a women with a job.

 

Like that has ever stopped gainfully employed women from being conveniently "old-fashioned" whenever it`s time to pick up the tab.

 

WTF, so your saying that 98% of guys who say they wont pay for sex (with a prostitute) actually do, if not, can you explain in more detail what you actually mean, because i think your post was somewhat confusing to be honest ???

it also sounds to me like your just a very disgruntled man with no respect for women.

i know a lot of guys, and i can tell you most of them that i know the most will never go with a hooker, or pay some chick for sex.

in my post up the page i explained 2 cases where i came into contact with, and had sex with 2 prostitutes, the first which happened purely out of naivety as i thought it was a massage parlour when i got inside the door (although some of these places do offer sex for cash) and when i realized i wasnt there to get a massage, i went thru with it because i didnt really know how to go about bailing out of it, and ended up doing it for the experience, but it was a dead fuck, a complete waste of time and cash.

the other case i explained was, to me, totally different, i didnt go looking for it because i will never (again) pay for outright sex just to get my rocks off, and the girl in question was working a legit job, but took on private clients a few nights a week to support her income, she did not work thru a brothel or a pimp out in the streets, her clients were from the hotel resturant where she worked, and in our case, there was most definately something real about our relationship, and she never once asked for any money from me, and i never offered her any cash for spending any time with me in the week i was there after i met her, and nor did any money change hands for her sleeping with me from the 4th night until i left 3 days later to continue my travels.

 

Gap he was just saying that if you buy dinner for a girl then you are paying for sex...the cost for sex that night would be the cost of the dinner. He was either saying that or that all women are prostitutes.
cherea, my comment that you quoted was to the comment that you pay for sex by buying a house and car and gas. The early dating phase of course is a different story usually. My last girlfriend would insist on splitting the bill sometimes and even paid a couple times. I always would pull out my wallet and say I got it but when someone tells me 3 times that they want to pay im not gonna fight about it...i usially just took that money and would buy her something else with it.

 

well both scenarios are one and the same m8, there is no difference between them, she either takes cash for sex or takes a free meal for sex, in both cases she would, according to him, be a prostitute.

what if i went out to dinner with a lady and she paid for it, and we happened to have sex afterwards, am i then prostituting myself to her ???

i take my wife to dinner a lot, but she isnt a prostitute, nor am i paying for my sex afterwards.

he sounds like a guy with a nasty attitude towards women.

 

Or he could be socially awkward which would be why he finds it easier to just give money for sex rather than create a relationship.

 

yes, i agree, or he has had a really bad experience with woman and it has tarred his mind forever.

either way, on the whole, i dont agree with him.

 

i've done it a total of 5 times with 6 different women(one time was 2 at the same time), ive dated and had relationships but sometimes its just too much work and its easier to pay for it and be done with it, sure its risky but picking up bar whores carries the same risks, at least when your paying for it you get what you really want

 

It's not for me, but I certainly wouldn't look badly on someone who did.

 

i couldnt do it, too risky for me and i wouldnt enjoy it because i have an average penis

 

0.o Wait, what? Why wouldn't an average penis enjoy sex with a prostitute? 0.o

 

Ha! This reveals a lot about the real reason why they badmouth hookers...guys are intimidated, and their boring girlfriends can't compete.

 

Maybe it's because I'm a virgin, or haven't hired a hooker, but why would guys be intimidated? Because the hooker's other clients have bigger dicks? I'm super insecure about my size, more for fear of not satisfying her or rejection, but with a hooker, I am paying for a service. No chance of the latter, and I don't really care for the former. And so what if their girlfriends are boring? Why would that mean that can't enjoy it (apart from the cheating aspect?)?

 

Maybe that's the trick for you mentally. This is gonna sound wrong, but when your with a girlfriend you like, maybe you have to pretend in your mind that you are paying her for a service so you don't have all the anxiety, and thus the performance issues that are caused by anxiety.

After you've gained some experience, perhaps that'll offset your virgin nerves and solve the problem entirely.

 

Ive had heaps ..the girls are much hotter than I could normally get , but there are sometimes disappointments.. roll the dice

 

Is professional sex really ever any good? The city I live in is famous for its 'window workers', but while I've walked through the district often enough on the way to uni, I've never felt particularly inclined to give it a go. The thing for me is it would seem commercial sex is a lot more regimented: there's things you can do with your girlfriend which you probably shouldn't even think about doing with a prostitute. Ironically, then, in the case of sex, the 'paid' version seems to have far fewer options than the 'free' variety.

Just take something like kissing. To me, this is a must if I'm going to be having sex with someone. Maybe your typical Joe six-pack just wants to get to the fucking asap, but I myself enjoy protracted smooching, but from what I understand this is a no no with prostitutes. And honestly, I can understand why this is.

I've heard about the GFE (girlfriend experience) thing, where kissing is on the menu. But unless you resort to the type of tricks typically found working under freeway overpasses and supporting a crack habit, chances are you're limited to 'safe' sex. Which is good, I see the necessity.

But that said, I'll never convince myself I'm a fan. I simply need that direct contact of genitalia, the exchange of bodily fluids, or else it's not quite sex to me - close, but not quite, like beer without the alcohol, coffee minus the caffeine, etc. To me, the whole idea of sex is connected with opening yourself up to the possibility of viral exposure. Is that sick and irresponsible of me?

I also like to feel special, and doubt I could believe a prostitute moaning and telling me how she wants me to fuck her. I'm sympathetic towards the convenience argument, but at the same time would much prefer sex with a woman who won't fuck just anyone, and for whatever reason has chosen to bestow that honor upon me.