What would you think if your partner did this?

If your partner started befriending people, particularly the opposite sex, on craigslist and meeting up with them, would that be bothersome? If they told you they just wanted more friends and it was strictly platonic, would you believe them? If you did feel skeptical about their motive, what would it take for you to believe them?

 

It wouldn't bother me and I would believe her, because she's a very special person and I know I can trust her completely. I'm lucky. It would have been a lot harder to trust previous partners, but even so, I'm not sure how much the "friending" activity would bother me with someone I couldn't believe 100% like my current partner. As long as I feel that my partner still cares about me and is giving me enough attention, I hope I'm able to be laid back about other stuff.

 

My skepticisicm could not be removed at all. On the other hand if I had a partner I doubt she would go looking for platonic friends of the opposite sex on such sites in the first place.

 

This is crossing the line in my book. Number one I would be telling her how stupid she is being for safety alone. You know how dangerous craigslist is? She could very well end up on the news after she's found in a gutter.

Secondly, I wouldn't buy the whole friends line. They just happen to be all members of the opposite sex? There are better way to meet friends anyway. Safety and no I don't want my partner talking or meeting people online. Dealbreaker for sure.

 

:lol: no fuckin way would I put up with that, not because shes just looking for friends, because she isn't, because shes hooking up with other guys/girls (you werent specific on M or F partner )

 

maybe she's a hooker and she's keeping it under the radar.

sorry, but um,, im not stupid like most of these posters above me. i think im a bit street smart

 

I don't think to many people on craigslist are just looking for friends and yes I would be concerned. Also why do the friends have to be the opposite sex?

 

It's purely hypothetical. I was just curious as to how many would trust their partner given such a scenario.

Personally, there would have to be much more to the scenario for me to jump to the assumption that the other person is cheating. Like, if the person didn't want their partner to read any text/email exchanges- that would obviously be a red flag.

The fact that most of these friends happened to be the opposite sex would make me suspicious, sure. But I also understand that some people just get along better with the opposite sex so that alone wouldn't really be a huge red flag.

I guess I'm just a bit more naive than some people, I dunno.

 

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yeah, this hypothetical partner is doing something shady.

 

it means that person is still shopping and hoping to trade up....they will never admit it even to themselves...

but that is what it means

 

why would anyone want to be partners with someone who needs to find friends on craigslist lol

 

Hmm, that's an interesting way of looking at it, certainly plausible.

 

I cant imagine having a partner who would go to craigslist to meet friends. What ever happened to clubs, bars churches, community events,just chatting people up at the grocery store?