getting really wet.....

at the idea of another man fucking me while my husband watches.... or even just having sex with another man. OMG where did these feelings come from?!

 

i guess they came from your brain.

 

I think they come naturally...everyone gets sexual urges for something new or for someone they're not quite so used to...no worries...just don't act on them!

 

Fantasies often comprise of scenarios made up of exactly the opposite of what your genuine desires are. This is why those whose sexual leanings are primarily Straight will often have Gay fantaasies when they masturbate, and don't understand why.

 

My wife has the same desires. She still sees her ex for sex and tells me every detail of their encounter when she gets home. It's so hot and it always ends up in a really great session

We'd love to involve her ex in a threesum, or me just watching, but my wife things he would run a mile if he even knew I was aware that he was screwing her (let alone have many of the 'private' photos they've made)

I have the photos, my wife's accounts and some of him still in her when she gets home, so I should be happy - but I really would like more - that is to watch them as he takes her or even join in. One day perhaps

 

This is so fucked up in every way.

I would be very hurt and have a feeling of not being valued or wanted if my husband wanted to 'share' me with anyone.

I get it though, it's a way for a man to have his cake and eat it too...he doesn't have to work on commitment -- or trust -- you can do what you want, she can do what she wants -- but you can't tell me that it doesn't eat away at you - in some part - that things are wrong.

 

If you have a good strong secure relationship with your man the maybe you shoul tell him about your fantasy! He might just have some you do not know about as well. If you two have great comminacation and trust in you relationship you could look into bringing others into your play life. It can be really rewarding to both of you if you are on the same page and don't have to keep secrets from each other. This kind of lifestyle is not for everyone, but for people that already have a tight bond it can be a great experiance to all. If you are just going to do something behind his back however then I suggest just ending the relationship, because it is not cool to betray anyone and no good can come out of it.

 

I imagine it's because it's a break from the routine you're used to and it also seems a bit naughty to have such fantasies. I don't think fantasizing about such things makes you a whore, despite what some people might tell you. However, if it's something you would really like to act out, you should discuss it with your husband. Who knows, he might be into it, there are plenty of husbands that are.

 

Take your monogamistic bullshit somewhere else. Ya know, sex JUST in the marriage doesnt equal love and trust. I love my husband and trust him and vise versa. Him and I have discussed these things. Maybe unlike you, we have a deep connection on more than just sex. Really our marriage isnt even about sex... we have SUCH a deeper emotional bond than that. SEX IS JUST SEX here. It is merely for pleasure. Sure we have our love making moments but thats not the kind of sex we want with others. We want JUST sex with others, nothing emotional. And I am willing to bet you have your dildo sitting in your drawer.... how is that much different? Get off your fuckin high horse and remember where you are, the FREE LOVE thread. If you are only in this thread to put people down then take ur trollin ass elsewhere.

 

Oh no, no, no lol we have talked about this. For a couple years now but just recently have been getting serious about the idea. No I would NEVER cheat on my husband. I consider cheating as fooling around with someone else emotionally or physically behind my partners back. I would never do that. He knows about these fantisies.... and he has been slowly telling me about his. Its amazing to discover how sexual we each really are. I just dont know why we havent been quite this sexual before. And it seems like the more we talk about it, the more sex we are having. It has been everyday this week which is very unusual for us in our busy schedules. But its been great

 

I have fantasies about wives. I get to visit my clients in the their home and sometimes it's a married couple or a single lady,divorced or whatever. Love the mature ladies without a doubt. Either way I am very polite but go above and beyond to be friendly almost to the point of sexual tension. Really amazed at how mnay husbands allow me to be alone in the same room with their wife and make small talk. By the time my day is over I usually have plenty of fantasies. The single older ladies really get my undivided attention and has resulted in other business. For some people just the attention from somebody who takes an interest in you is hot enough for them. There is one older lady right now I am very interested in. I think we may have a connection and she emails me once in a while. I just want to hug her for a while.

 

^^i get what your saying about sex and love not having to be connected.. but on the other hand, i think if your lover doesnt KNOW that your having sex behind their back then it is cheating, but if you have talked it through and both agree that sex outside of the relationship is fine then its none of our business..

if your willing to act on these fantasies then talk to your husband about it first

 

Only the truth hurts. Why else would you be so offended?
If you are convicted by what I said and feel put 'down' -- that is your problem.
And your problems are only beginning if you act out on these urges...with or without your husband.
Marriage is supposed to be a sacred institution. Honestly, if you aren't satisfied within your own marriage --- it's not me you have a problem with.

I have a right to my FREE opinion btw, no need to get in a huff about things.

It's sad that your husband is that bored with you, but you don't quite comprehend that.

 

Well it is great to hear that you would not cheat on your husband! It also sounds like you guys communicate well which is also a big plus. No matter what many here are saying you can have an incredible, strong and secure relationship with someone living a swingers lifestyle if all is good with your partner before going into it. Be open with each other about everything, trust, respect and always cherish the amazing things you have together. Research together the do's and dont's. Make your own rules with each other on what is okay and what is not. Don't rush into anything with someone you are not both comfortable with and take it at whatever speed you guys are comfortable with. This lifestyle has done nothing but make our already amazing bond even more amazing. We have our cake and eat it too.

 

yes, as I posted previously, this is something we have already discussed.... I would never do anything behind his back ever

 

to be honest? Not offended, your just annoying... and two.... you sound like a complete twat sooo no offense taken and its a sacred institution? says who? the bible? And bored with me.... maybe you should ASSume things so much..... hey at least I am in a committed and loving marriage with strong communication and not just some cum dumpster, maybe YOU should work on that :2thumbsup:

 

one....last.....thing.... how about u take your teeny bopper ass out of the "free love" thread and quit trolling. Like seriously, if you dont agree with free love at all then stay the fuck out of this section. I mean, how do you expect anyone to take you seriously when you are being a total creeper just lurking in the section waiting to pounce on anyone who openly discusses their sex life, in the FREE LOVE section (I think I must emphasize again) It really shows your maturity level when you have NOTHING better to do with your day but stalk posts that you dont agree with just to argue and judge others. Grow the fuck up

 

Serene Divinity (love the name). It seems that you and your husband enjoy many of the same views on sex with others as me and my wife.

I don't know where it came from, it sort of evolved from a point - a long time ago - where I too thought it was odd/weird/mad for guys to get sexual gratification from sharing their wives. I was much younger then and less confident in all ways.

Now I am very happy with me and where I am in life - if you know what I mean. I do not feel threatened by men looking or even having sex with my wife. She will still be my wife in the morning and (if I am lucky) also very horny!! It's also rather amusing to think that they may think they have got one over, fucking my wife. But I believe it's me that's the winner, as I get to hear all about it, enjoy great sex and get even closer to my wife emotionally

But I do accept that sharing a wife is not for all. Some will always find it odd. I don't care. Nobody is getting hurt in my relationship, and after 26 years marriage, we are closer then ever. So 'Serene' keep cool, let others post what they need to and just enjoy the special relationship you and your hubby have got.

 

You sound so classy, I'm very impressed that you made it past the third grade.
...wait. did you??
lol
Don't worry about what the bible says, I know you are illiterate.

It's a forum, people share their views -- Some people converse in threads -- you do know what that word means....'converse' ?
So are YOU stalking when you visit back to a thread?

I do believe that a man and woman should be monogamous - and sharing your body with other people will have a detrimental affect.
I'll be looking forward to your future thread about why your husband left you.
Good luck.

 

And there I was looking forward to a thread about wetness.....