Enjoying anal sex

Ladies especially, how long did it take you to enjoy anal sex? Or was it something you enjoyed first time. And if so, why?

 

First off I'm not a girl but I have been having anal with women for 10 years now, mainly with my wife of the last 8 years, but I had a few different experiences with different women.

Each woman is different. Some women love anal the first time you do it, others after a few times, it just depends.

But from my experience most will like it the first time if you do it right.


Use plenty of lube and most importantly you need to get her relaxed. Anal is not forceful there is no stretching out or break in period, it's all about relaxation. Your goal should not be to stretch or loosen her anus but to help her relax.

After you have been having anal for a while the relaxation will happen faster and easier as her autonomic nervous system gets acclaimated to the anal stimulation and learns to relax the secondary sphincter which is an involuntary muscle.

Warming up is easy, there is a secret. The key to the backdoor is your tongue, so dive in and rim her ass. This is the easiest way by far to get women to enjoy anal as a tongue is soft, warm and will never hurt even the tightest asses.

After that you can move to fingers or small anal toys like butt plugs, make sure you use something with a flared base you don't want anything getting stuck up her ass.

And like I said, LUBE, LUBE AND MORE LUBE! I'd suggest either water based or silicone. Silicone lasts longer but is messier to clean up. Water based is easy to clean but you need to apply more because it can dry up.

When you attempt to penetrate her anus with either your finger or your penis tell her to bear down kinda like she has to pass gas, this sounds contradictory to putting something in, but when she does it, it will dilate the primary sphincter allowing MUCH easier penetration.

For positions the best I would recommend is her on top, that way she is in control of the speed and depth of penetration. Second is the spoon position.

Lastly, LISTEN to her. If it hurts STOP! She is in control, NOT YOU! It's her butt, and she's the boss. If you do it with her on top, this is a mute point as she is controlling the penetration.

Now for her, she needs to clean her ass. She either needs to have a bowel movement before anal (and a shower) or she needs to do an enema (and a shower). Condoms are your choice, since it's my wife I don't use them, but for any non-monogamous relation ship us condoms as STD's can be transmitted EASIER through anal than any other type of sex.

If you follow these rules you will have an 80% chance of success, and you will most likely get do it again.

Hope this helps.

 

My first few times were painful, I didn't really enjoy it but me and my partner wasn't very experienced. We thought adding lube and pushing it in would work and you should get use to it, this really isn't the case.


When i did my research it took about 2 months of foreplay to learn how to relax before we even tried inserting a penis, but when I learnt how to breathe and relax I found Anal Sex amazing, it can be the most intense feeling ever.

 

I tried it numerous times with various partners over the span of several years and no matter what i did or didnt do it did not feel at all good to me. For some unknown remarkable reason, once i met my current husband that all changed. I think it was a combination of patience and relaxation. Being up tight or tense during anal penetration does make it difficult and painful even with lube if the girl is not relaxed. After the first time of pleasant anal sex with my hubby...i crave it!

 

I was "broken" in at Uni.
I was drunk and a little stoned (gasp!!) but by all accounts it must have been okay because he came back for seconds a week later - when I was neither drunk, nor stoned!
I felt the whole shebang.
It was marvelous. Of course it sort of hurts - having something in your botty always hurts a little, but it's a filling pain, which I find heightens my sensations.
anything like a sharp pain .........STOP NOW!

Okay, maybe I've toned down a bit, and being single, the action isn't what it used to be ..... but my botty is still occasionally on the menu to selected partners

 

My issue the first 10-15 times was that I always felt like I needed to go to the bathroom. I never really had a painful experience, but I was so dang self-conscious that I was going to make a huge mess. Once I started using enemas as an insurance policy, it made all of the difference for me. I started to relax and enjoy the experience a hundred times more. Eventually, my body got so used to anal that I no longer have the feeling of needing to go to the bathroom, but I still clean myself out every time. Makes all of the difference in the world, IMO.

 

I always clean my ass before hand, a rectal syringe works great. My bf is 8" so he goes pretty deep and I don't have to worry about dirty condoms.

 

I would wet my finger, as we laid in bed, and would just make lazy slow circles around her anus. Never trying to poke it in. After a week or 2 of the anus teaseing
I licked her back there, she went wild!!
The next time, then she started to push aginst the finger. Then I'd go in just a finger joint at a time, with my finger sloppy wet, or lubed.
I spent maybe a month of doing this.
Now, she'll just tell me to fill her ass up with cum, on occassion.

 

I've loved it from the first time. Ladies, if that's not the case with you, it just might not be for you. Sure there was some pain. But I LOVED it. Anymore it doesn't hurt at all.

I enema before and I make my own coconut oil suppositories and store them in the freezer. They're pretty big, probably a couple teaspoons of oil. I slip them in and he never has to know. He just knows it's wet and slick when he gets down there and smells great.

 

How do you get a woman to want to try this for the first time though. I really want to do this..I think it would be a unique experience, intimate in its own way, but I'm not sure how to bring it up with someone - and the obviously problem - that I don't have a girl right now to try it with...but still...how do you even suggest it to someone who hasn't done it?

 

I like to do anal doggy style and I have found the best way to do that, for me at least, is to let the woman come back on my dick at her pace at first. I lube her ass and my dick very well of course. Then I'll get behind her and put the head of my dick right on her anus. I won't push or do anything. I'll just hold my dick there and let her come back on it. Once I feel it start to open, then I will start to give it some nice strokes.

 

As is the case with women, due to physiology, they do not enjoy anal sex because of the lack of a prostate gland. It is a scientific fact that men enjoy anal sex due to the prostate gland that stimulates the experience.

 

You'd be wrong about that. There are plenty of women that enjoy anal sex. My own gf prefers it to vaginal so much that we only have anal sex.

I'd accept that some don't like it, but making a sweeping statement like that is far from the truth. The fact that some do like it suggests that the pleasure of the act is not just limited to the prostate.

 

They do not experience real pleasure any more than they do when have vaginal intercourse. Women get used to faking it due to the fact that very few, and I mean very few, men can actually locate their g-spot to give them the satisfaction they both need and desire. Don't feel bad. They fake it to make you feel better about how well you're doing because they feel for you.

Women simply cannot enjoy anal sex, unless she enjoys pain or she is faking the pleasure, because she has no prostate gland.

 

I don't. Do you? You believe what you want, as you clearly think you know better than others, so there is no purpose in trying to convince you otherwise.

 

Science states otherwise. Not me. Take it up with science.

 

Then you'll have no trouble at all citing the study that shows that not a single woman enjoys anal sex.

Good luck with that.

 

I have no problems admitting when I am wrong. It has been a while since I have looked at the issue and it appears that the female consensus has changed.

Even though the study is two years old, I doubt it has reverted back to where it was previously.

http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/rise-in-anal-sex-statistics

 

Apparently, if the penis is penetrated into the woman's anus at just the right angle, then it can stimulate the back of the G-Spot through the anal membrane.

 

but the womans G-Spot is not near that region, it is located about 2" to 3" inside the vagina but on the front wall, not on the rear wall that separates the vagina and anus, so i cant imagine how any guys cock can remotely stimulate her G-Spot, not unless he has a pretty big cock ???

just my thoughts ???