hey guys, need some help. been with my guy for 8 month, im in love! never felt this way before about someone. but...feel like we've hit a bit of a rut in the bedroom. any ideas for injecting more intimacy, passion, etc? i'm all out. i cant think of stuff to do or suggest? man!!! thanks
Perhaps go on a trip to a place to increase your intimacy (camping, hotels etc.)? I have some sort of excitement factor when I'm having sex in new and exciting places (where acceptable).
The best thing you can do is to communicate with your partner. Open and honest discussions can be unpleasant at times, so be prepared. However, your partner may be feeling the same way, and be relieved you brought the subject up. In the end, it takes two people to improve a two person relationship, so get it out in the open and find a way to work through things. Good luck.
sure is - communication - talk, get some mutual ideas - maybe he's also not happy about something. When you are close to someone then their mood/thought pattens also affect you and the relationship. Esp if one has some anxiety. Simon
As the others have said, communication is key. But make sure you have a positive spin on it. It sounds like you really like this guy, so don't focus on "lost passion" or "in a rut". Rather focus on enticing him to explore more stuff as a fun and sexy adventure together. Are there anything you would like to try out with him? Anything you suspect he could be into? All guys I've met have fantasies that go beyond vanilla sex, but many are shy about it in fear of seeming weird and kinky.
Hi, congratulations on your long term relationship. i am not currently in a long term relationship myself but had a few ideas that may help. I agree with the others that communication is important. Perhaps if you were to find some literature on gay sex and long term relationships about positions and romance in other ways you have not yet experienced or know about. I would suggest role playing and perhaps fantasy into your sex and maybe some sex toys to use with your partner to spice things up as well as foods that could be eaten off one another during sex. Whatever you do do not give up there is a way I'm sure you will find it as love is always the way to go and will find a way. Best wishes to you both.
Also, I'm sure some of it is just the natural progression of love. Sure it starts out all fireworks and feeling like a teenager on cloud 9 but, then it morphs into a quiet, trusting, lasting sort of love that feels comfortable, familiar, nice, but it isn't the major Broadway production it started as. That's normal, that is supposed to happen. Different places, different positions, different scents in the room or on your bodies, flavors, body paints, massage oils, all of it can spice things up a bit. Different foreplay goes a long way and, sex isn't always serious, play, tickle, nip, have fun
