So I need some advice with this girl that I'm in a relationship with. We've only been together for like a month and we dated for two weeks before that. We both liked each other and we decided upon a relationship relatively fast. During the dating period lol we had sex once. But now when we're fooling around she will stop us from having sex. She claims she's paranoid about getting pregnant, and even said she doesn't really need sex often despite the fact she says she's always turned on and masterbates a lot lol. So what's up with this? Is she being a tease, or trying to maintain some power in this relationship? I need sex lol. I'm seriously considering breaking up with her and maybe just date her and other girls. I would think that if she liked me enough she would give in to maintain the relationship. I really like her otherwise except for this one thing. Advice please!
many more fish in the sea and fish that like to fuck at that....find someone that's the Whole Package and wants to play with your package. Life's too short to miss out on sex!!
Six weeks. And exclusive after two. And no more nookie. Just read that a few times. It is perfectly OK to say no, even if you have said yes before. But she says it is about contraception. What did you use? What are your options? Is that the real issue? We don't have the answers, but the two of you do. Talk. Soon.
^I concur, there's ways to challenge her argument about whether she's genuinely afraid of getting pregnant or if it's an excuse and she's using sex as a power play on you. Tell her that physical intimacy, like intercourse, is part of what makes a relationship meaningful for you and different from what say a super close opposite sex friend is. She has the right to say no, but tell her you don't want sex used as some kind of leverage tool, either on your part or hers. Tell her it's ok to say no, but tell her not to use withholding sex as some kind of manipulation. Also ask her if perhaps you're not making the sex enjoyable enough for her. And tell her it's ok to let you know what feels good and that you should be comfortable to explore sex together without expectations about the experience or the act itself.
Have a real conversation with her about it. Is she really concerned with getting knocked up? If so, talk about your birth control options. If it's something else, talk it over.
You can't get pregnent from oral sex! See how she feels about you getting her off by eating her and her returning the favor to you. If she is not willing to do that and she is not going to have sex with you, but she is going to masterbate to get herself off then it sound like a really shitty deal for you. If she likes to masterbate all the time then she must have a sex drive. If she doesn't want to share that with you then what the hell is the point of being together. Buy her a vibrator hand it to her and say here you go it seems this is all you need and turn around and walk away.
I hope you two break up, since you obviously have trouble communicating honestly, and you are willing to break up with her just because she doesn't want sex (which means you're in it just for the sex). Breaking up with her actually seems like a good decision.
Sing her this song, find out what she's into: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pY8jaGs7xJ0"]Flight of the Conchords Ep 4 If You're Into It - YouTube
Do you really like her? Stick it out with her. Talk to her, see what your options are with her. If she's really worried bout getting preggers, see if wearing two condoms at once is ok. As a FYI, the next day pill is available over the counter. Trying the pull out method isnt gonna work with her and you should be thankful actually, this way no unwated babies will be made. She masturbates alot huh (sounds like the rest of us)? Give her a helpin hand or tongue. Make her want you. Best option though, TALK TO HER, ask questions, even dumass ones.
