What's going on in my mind is this... I'm 18. Still in school, and I feel like I'm some sort of fucking oddity. I love to read and be outside, and have a good time. But I guess not in the sense that others like to have a good time. I have a close friend that has gotten into the party, drinking, popping pills and maybe sniffin' coke type lifestyle. All I want is to smoke weed and trip out on shrooms. In the future some acid or DMT. I don't feel the urge to go out and get drunk and pop pills and go crazy. And it makes me feel like some sort of anomaly. Everyone around me enjoys drinking and being fucking crazy. I'm a teenager, I should feel the same way right? We are kinda slippin' apart as friends because she has her party friends, and I don't like that shit. There is no one around me that really has the same interests as me... It makes me hate school, knowing that there is no one to relate to. I mean, I've been an introvert for a while, but I've always had a couple solid close friends. I do kind of, but my party friend is always partying and my other friend is really nice but drug free. It'd just be nice to have someone who enjoys some of the same kinda stuff... Am I just boring? I don't need other people to do things with I'm fine with independence, but infinite complete independence is not my goal (as melodramatic as that sounds).
I'm having same 'problem' currently. Seems that getting drunk all the time is what a guy my age should be doing. I was actually worried if theres everything ok with me, but I ended up with conclusion that I don't give a shit... When it comes down to friends, I have some that drink and do drugs all the time and ones that don't drink nor do any drugs. No one is in middle. Being introvertic individualist makes me hate school. And wtf is wrong with these people around me? No interests at all or blind obsession about one? Seriously? One is gun and airsoft maniac, he can go on about them all the time, other is computer nerd only. I enjoy both of these topics but I can't talk about them all the fucking time. And trying to start conversation on something another is pointless. I also don't like pointless chit-chats about nothing, which kinda excludes me from 'party animals' group. For party animals - yes, for other introverts - no. I just hope I will meet some like-minded people when I go to university.
Yeah, everybody comes at that point in their life when you develop different interests or lifestyle than one or more friends and you will grow apart from. Not that it has to be inevitable On the other hand I wouldn't dismiss all that typical partying and the people who are into it (perhaps you do not do that). Not all party people are into pill popping for instance, you may just need some other peeps to enjoy a party every once in awhile. If you're not a couch potato (all the time, chilling on the couch is awesome pastime too!) but like to do fun stuff outside you are not boring, I wish I ran more into girls that dig weed and psychedelic stuff better than xtc and the like :biggrin: Anyway, in my experience there is always more than one person you can relate to at school, perhaps they may be introverts as well and you don't know them well yet. Or you relate to them in not the most obvious ways. I don't know, I would advise though to keep an open mind to other peoples interests. You don't have to partake in things you strongly dislike of course but perhaps other people have different interests you can relate to somehow. Everyone's different and especially introverts' preferences are more difficult to spot at times
Not for all party animals I'm sure. People are not all as stereotypical as they may look (although in school quite a few may charicturize themselves subconsciously as such) :2thumbsup:
Check to all of the above. There is no one in the middle, and it's so irritating. Through the summer being and introverted individualist is fine, but during school is is made glaringly apparent and not in a "oh goody I'm unique" sort of way. I enjoy reading and learning new things (even though it doesn't always show in grades) but many people surround me seem to have some sort of allergy to education or even picking up a book. And they deem it "cool" to demean either, because lack of knowledge is super attractive and funny. I can make mindless chit-chat with people and be friendly with almost anyone, but there is just no one I connect to anymore. And I even agree with the last part. My "party" friend will sometimes make comments like "You don't even KNOW what a party is man..." yadda yadda. And no I've never been to a "crazy" drug infested party, but it's kinda like... Cool man. I'm still not feelin' it. When I get to college I'm hoping to find like minded people as well.
I don't believe typical party people do all that stuff, but I know they do. There are people to enjoy a party with but they are all drinking, and I like it occasionally, but I don't LOVE drinking as the majority here would say. I try to keep an open mind. I don't care from what social "clique" the person is in, I just care about their personality. Also my school went from about 700 kids to about 300, due to the school closing, so a LOT less people. I'm an introvert, but I'm not super shy or anything, just keep to myself. Most introverts I've met are pretty shy, and so it's kind of harder to get to know them.
I blame booze. Most boozers are painfully boorish...pills on top just makes it worse. Unfortunately the 'social scene' is pretty much based on booze, and let's face it, alcohol is really the only drug thats legal to get high upon...how fucked up is that? I think I am allergic to booze. When I smell it on some assholes breath, I tend to have a violent reaction...:daisy: ZW
Looking back on it, pretty much everyone felt like an outcast in high school. The only people who didn't were former jocks who seem to look at those as the best years of their lives. But don't worry, things'll get better, and you'll meet people who enjoy similar things. In the mean time just hang out and enjoy the ride now.
your friend and her pill popping friends could easily end up addicts, depending on what pills they are popping it's easy to fuck up in life, and addiction is one of the easiest ways to fuck up also, there's lots of pills that don't mix with alcohol, can be dangerous
Those friends will make you feel boring, but that's not reality. Sometimes teenagers these days give in to drugs, but doing certain drugs at such an age before the brain is fully developed can stop the brain from developing fully. Particularly smackers (ecstasy cut with whatever the fuck else). People call it E but it's not. And also just getting drunk all the time, it's just harmful. So let the those party kids waste their potential and never amount to anything because they have no frontal lobe, A.K.A. a fucking conscience. Psychedelic drugs on the other hand, in the hands of some people may make a person more insightful, but sometimes they can make a person paranoid. Usually it's a little of both. I think that if used correctly psychedelic drugs can actually guide a person. Speaking from experience, my drug use has definitely changed who I am in every aspect. I had abused them and I felt crazy for a period of time. Now I have discovered who I want to become in life, and what really matters in my life. Over all my advice is that you are separated from the crowd, just like myself, but you can turn your life into anything you want, and many people lose sight of this.
I find a lot of people adopt a destructive lifestyle in high school just because that's "what they're supposed to do." I know for a fact that if it were cool to sit outside and read a book, my brother would be the biggest fucking nerd around. But he's a sheep and he follows the herd and what they do. If partying isn't your thing, then don't do it.
introverted and strange are good things which have nothing to do with destructive, which is, after all, rather extremely common.
You're doing what you want to do. Would you be happy with the party lifestyle? You're not strange, don't feel like you should pretend to be something you're not.
